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LouVa

41 / M / Straight / Single

Arden, North Carolina

His Details

Last Online
May 22
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism but not too serious about it
Sign
Capricorn and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of masters program
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Somewhat introverted nice guy. I am curious about new things, but also enjoy the tried and true. Being active in mind and body is important to me, but I reserve at least as much time to relax and recharge.

I enjoy playing most sports (noncompetetively) but don't really care to watch them. I hike when I have time, started learning to kayak and decided to (re) learn to swim first (doh!). I spent a handful of years doing tai-chi followed by various dance styles (primarily tango, swing and ballroom, although I mostly contra now), and have recently enjoyed a mild revival of tennis lost eons ago. These are all activities I take part in at sporadic intervals, rather than by any rigorous schedule.

My mind wanders over many topics, and I love a good discussion. In fact when out socializing or at a party, I'm really just looking for a good conversation with a small group that gets deep and thought provoking. Trying to figure things out is one of my favorite activities. In fact it's why I enjoy computers, physics, and learning. I usually take my time doing things because I enjoy understanding them fully.

Music is inspirational to me. I like all varieties, though some more than others. I play some guitar, a little bit of piano, and started learning to play the violin.

Stories are also inspirational to me, although lately primarily in the form of movies and shows (hurray for netflix...I think), although I try to read fiction occasionally to complement all of the non-fiction I read.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm focusing on connecting with people, and things that bring me happiness and peace.

I work a good bit because I enjoy what I do, and the feeling that comes with the accomplishment. I watch a little too much TV lately (well, Internet actually; cancelled cable years ago), but love to regularly peek at non-fiction.
I’m really good at
Things involving computers, math and physics
Figuring things out
Listening
Relaxing
Ascending stairs 2 at a time
Fixing things
Making salads that are too big for my bowl
The first things people usually notice about me
I really need to ask people what this would be. I could tell you what I think they would first notice, but then that should either appear in the description section, or perhaps insecurities.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Don't read as much fiction as I should. All time faves include but are not limited to...HHGTTG, Lord Of The Flies, (Michael Crichton.*); non-fiction: nature, physics/math, computers/tech, general wikipedia scouting, and anything that seems interesting. Recently really enjoyed non fiction The Gift, and am meandering through Quiet, and Lean In.

Movies: Shawshank Redemption, City of Angels, Groundhog Day, American Beauty, Unusual Suspects, Ink .
TV: Doctor Who! some cartoons, Big-Bang-theory, My Name is Earl

Music: anything and everything, literally (in terms of style, that is) ...classical to pop
A few artists I've enjoyed listening to recently...Regina Spektor, Mika, Natalie Fey, Rodrigo-y-Gabriella, Jeff Buckley, Frou Frou, Queen, Manhattan Transfer.

As Homer would say .oO(mmmmmm food)
I like trying all types of food, from salads, fresh veggies and fruits, to bacon and sweet potato fries. Mexican, Japanese, Italian, Indian, Jewish (yes I actually like Matzoh), Oriental etc... oh, and desserts! It's hard to find foods I don't like.
The six things I could never do without
Nature
Thinking
Music
People
Hugs
Wikipedia
Being active (and inactive)
Pandora (phooey to 6!)
My guitar (or some instrument I can attempt)
Stories(Dreams/Movies/Books/etc...)
Yummie food
Lately my phoneputer
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Philosophy
Science
The world and where its going
People and why they act the way they do.
Why people believe in, and want, things that aren't real.
Dreams (inspirations, not the sleeping kind; see above item for a nice oxymoron)
Why I spend so much time thinking, and how to convert that into doing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home, maybe with a friend; working; strolling aimlessly; watching a movie
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Its not private if its here, but if you are kind to me, I'll openly tell you anything about me in person.

In the spirit of the question, I have social anxiety which is tempered by years of throwing myself into uncomfortable situations.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 33–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
One or more of the following apply...

- You might enjoy spending time talking, hiking, or meeting over coffee (this means hot chocolate to me ).
- You find many things interesting and like to think about, and discuss them.
- You like math or physics
- You're a nice person looking for someone to share activities with (and don't mind that I ended this sentence in a preposition, or put the period where I've been told not to).
- You're not annoyed by people who overanalyze things a bit.

All of the following apply...

- You can deal with someone who is not always neat.
- Your belief (i.e. religion) is open minded, and accepting of others.
- You are kind to (almost) everyone.
- You can appreciate peaceful, restful times as much and as often as explorative, active ones.