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55 F Palo Alto, CA

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 45–61
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update 10/5/2014:
I've been told that it says I "respond selectively". That is untrue. I try to respond to every thoughtful and meaningful message I receive. Unfortunately, I get a ton of "spam" in the form of : Hello . I love your profile (note, no details about what is actually in my profile that he loves). You have a beautiful smile (what woman doesn't love hearing this). I will (sic) like to get to know you. From this point there is an offer to chat - usually asking for my email and phone. They are usually from some other state. Usually we are a 10% match. They have a single (gorgeous) photo. Usually their accounts are deleted within 1-2 days.
Please note - the number of these I get makes it LOOK like I reply selectively. If you write something real and have taken the time to answer questions (which will hopefully give us more than 10% match), I'll answer. I will most likely not answer 1 line questions that say nothing about why you are writing. Now, on to my profile.

Help!!! I'm a mischievous 8 year old trapped in a curvy woman's body! I have a wonderful life. Lots of great friends, 2 fantastic grown girls, a job I love, a cozy home (mine). I'm fun, spontaneous, even tempered, excitable (I often define my mood as exuberant) and grounded. I've discovered that when i open my eyes and my heart to the universe, I'm granted the opportunity to learn new things all the time. I'm convinced that when the time is right, I will meet a wonderful man to share with me in this amazing life. One who doesn't need me, but wants me. It will be mutual. We don't complete each other; we compliment each other since we are both already complete. You feel proud and joyful to be with a competent, happy, independent woman who adores you.

To this partnership, I'll bring optimism, affection, appreciation, support, wisdom, mindfullness, thoughtfulness, love, passion, intimacy in all its forms (emotional, intellectual, physical and spiritual), empathy, kindness, a healthy libido and lots of humor.

What I hope to receive from you is optimism, touch, a listening ear (that sometimes gives advice), acceptance, protection from the scary things in the world, support, love, openness and intimacy, presence, kindness, empathy and humor (please bring your libido too). You also are adventurous, wherever needed. You'll also help me clean my gutters once/year :-) We will always have each other's back, treat one another with respect and feel amazingly lucky to have found one another. If you love massage (giving and getting) - bonus points.

If we are able to bring the above to each other, I believe everything else will fall into place. We'll find the way to bridge our differences, our need for time/space and anything else that comes up.

I love sports, especially hiking and biking. Do you?
I value health and am committed to staying fit and healthy. I try hard to live mindfully and consciously treating people with empathy and compassion.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the risk of being trite, I'm working hard at being present in whatever I'm doing. Noticing nature in all it's unique elements. Becoming proficient in Non Violent Communication (google it). Keeping an eye (with loving support) from afar on my grown kids. For my job, I sell enterprise software. I LOVE what I'm doing. I've worked hard (in tech) my whole life. I envision the next phase of my life (a few years away) in which I ramp down work and have lots more time to enjoy life. I want to travel both locally (Bryce, Zion, Arches, Yellowstone etc.) and internationally doing both adventure and volunteer trips. I'd love to do this with my beloved and create lots of wonderful shared memories as we experience life together. Doesn't that sound great? I have the means to support myself in this dream. You should too.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a friend, helping others, laughing, kissing & hugging, listening, sports, finishing what I started, problem solving.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm guessing it's the way i carry myself with confidence, humor and kindness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Although this is interesting in general, I don't really care if we read the same kind of books. It's nice to be able to discuss them, but then again, I can do that in book club. If one of us reads something we think is profound, hopefully the other will be willing to give it a shot.

That said, here are some of my favorites:
Undefended love
cutting for stone
The untethered soul

sports movies where the underdog wins (like hoosiers)
wizard of oz
sound of music
freedom writers
pay it forward

60 minutes
ER (can you tell I don't watch much TV?)

mediterranean and Italian food are my favorites.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the definition of true intimacy. I read this definition last year and this is what I aspire to. It definitely takes 2:
With open eyes, you look deeply into each other's souls. Doing this creates a vulnerability that builds on the disclosures you've gone through and encourages a candor about who you really are. This process creates an intimate, sexual charge born of truth and sensuality that encourages you to stay in your body, to feel and share your array of feelings. In intimate sex, you no longer hide out through fantasizing about others or dissociating. You are fully present with yourself and your partner, preparing for your journey into the erotic. Intimate sex is vulnerable. You surrender, meaning you relax into the close, personal and cherished feelings so you can embrace your erotic, animal nature without shame. Intimate sex relies on self-love, nurturance, and the willingness to feel deeply. Your vulnerability is a path to intimacy and eroticism.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm an empty nester. Every night is Friday for me! I like to unwind after a hard week and am very happy to do that alone, with friends and/or my special someone. I usd to feel compelled not to "waste" a Friday night. I'm over that. Happy to stay home and chill.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have secret bondage fantasies.

OK, not really. But I'm trying to be a bit creative and non-conventional here or at least make you smile at least once while reading this very intense profile!
You should message me if
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you smiled while reading this profile or if you are committed to creating a wonderful partnership with a special person.
Anything here resonated with you, especially the list of what I offer and what you offer or the description of intimacy. Frankly, I don't care if we read the same books or watch the same tv shows.
If you feel like writing, please do. I will respond with kindness and honesty to any thoughtful email.