Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy

Lovedoubter

26 M New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Aug 16
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Often
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Dislikes cats
Speaks
English

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Twenty five year old semi-adolescent. Anti-theist. Moderately intelligent (though not college educated). Some would say gorgeous, some would say hideous, others would be pretty much indifferent which, incidentally is why I love America. I consider myself a defeatist dreamer if that makes sense. I like art and culture, don't really give a shit about sports and cars and stuff. My favorite aspects of things and people tend to be their deficiencies. I am EXTREMELY open minded. And speaking of open, I'm in a relationship-which is open! Sexually as well as emotionally, so basically dating me is the same as dating any one else, assuming that we don't like fall in "love" love. Who wants all that anyway? My deal romantically is basically this: I don't really care about "commitment". And even just "attachment" is even kind of up for negotiation, but I'm a total sucker for "intimacy".

I have no tattoos or piercings though, a tad unusual considering my tendencies. I guess it feels kinda too join-y for me. I am not a dude upon whom archetypal categories stick very well.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just moved to the city from DC. Been making my living as an actor for the last six years, trying to take a break from that and focus on my songwriting (finally something practical). And I work part time for an NGO.

You can see some of my songs here:

www.youtube.com/MrSaltyApples
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing, acting, taking drugs, keeping eye contact and holding my eyes open, talking, being interesting, not getting physically injured, selling things, leading a weird life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eyes. Hair now that I have it cartoonishly long and puffy.

Or how I pulse with life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
In no real order (except the first thing is obviously the most important thing):

Stephen Sondheim, patti smith, Neil young, animal collective, warren zevon, television, Judd apatow, the fall, tony kushner, pavement, frank Zappa, passing strange, Spaulding gray, david foster Wallace, Scott aukerman, Stephen levitt, rupaul's drag race, mad men, walking dead, trash, flesh, gossip girl, Janet frame, Charles bukowski, brother's keeper, breaking bad, oc, pretty little liars, the wire, cheers, it's always sunny, Louie, woody allen, adam guettel, neitzche, jeff buckley, skins, groundhog day, waking life, Wilfred, chuck klosterman, why?, capturing the friedmans, the Brian Jonestown massacre, todd rundgren, Paul Thomas Anderson, milk (the movie), south park, Socrates, Seinfeld, futurama, Werner herzog, i heart huckabees, bill hicks, NPR, bad brains, embrace, rites of spring, lady gaga, r crumb and Francesca woodman. Lots of other stuff too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Conversation, art, drugs, sex, ideals, I dunno. No matter how you answer this question you sound like an idiot (in my opinion).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All of the other things that I've written here.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking psychedelics and talking about life with numerous naked members of both sexes. That's more like a "perfect" Friday, not really "typical" per se...

Also only boring people wait 'til Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let's do a bunch! I'm not very private:

Uncircumcised!

I've done everything sexually with a guy, while on ecstasy. Didn't enjoy it (the only way to be sure you aren't gay!).

I've been homeless for a documentary. It turned about to be a documentary about how weird I am and how confused I was when I was 19. Mixed blessing.

I genuinely think Gone with the Wind is not a good movie in almost any sense.

I'm a cuckold fetishist. I really get off on girls in with talking about or showing me them getting down with other guys. One of the main reasons I could never do a "traditional"relationship.

I almost never turn down drugs when offered.

Ice cream probably comprises a significant portion of my diet.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 19–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're hot, weird, smart, game, free-thinking, chill, socially comfortable.

Oh and if you think that the lifestyle that most people have is enviable or appealing you probably should NOT contact me.

Although what the hell, what have you got to lose? If you enjoy conventional things like happy hours, nine-to-five jobs, sarcasm, a lack of "drama", live-action comedic television, ambition, a clean house, referring to yourself as "pretty awesome", working out, being "over" things, your family, being an unabashed asshole to give the appearance of strength, or happiness, AND you've actually been impressed by my profile enough to message me, then, you obviously have a lot of duality going on and I'm very into that.

By the way, this might sound a bit dickish but if you are interested, you have to understand that I will not message you first. I'm done with this whole idea of 'girls have a billion options on okcupid so you have to write this amazing first message and impress her and blah blah blah'. To me, my profile is almost a first date so if you aren't already hooked, I'm not gonna try and grab you with some cutesy personalized message about how cool it is that you like Charles Bukowski. I have options too ladies. So my new rule is I won't message you. I'll wait to get one of the occasional, 'poorly written, single line first messages' from the GIRLS on this site who are brave enough to put themselves out there, and we'll see where it goes.

Online dating was supposed to cut through the bullshit, not reinforce gender roles and stir up shit between the sexes.