I'm an optimistic Cancerian INFP ex-Aucklander geek, openly devoted to my closest friends. Wow, that was a power sentence!

I'm married to firecupid, the squishiest one ever. :-) At the moment we aren't looking for new partners, but I occasionally look at Quickmatch to find interesting people to befriend.

I also identify with bisexual, childfree, feminist, polyamorous, and generally left-leaning values, without necessarily belonging to any of their associated cultural spheres.

By left-leaning, I mean by New Zealand standards, where I came from; by US standards, where I currently live, I presume I'd be seen as far, far left. I vote for the Green Party.

I'm a social introvert: I enjoy social occasions, but in my heart of hearts, I really value my solitude too.

I think love is a four-lettered word, but four-lettered words have never scared me. I'm an incorrigible romantic, and would love nothing better than to set my friends up and bask in their happiness.

I wish my profile could just end here. But OkCupid likes p(r)eople to p(r)opulate their profile with prolific prattle, so I'm going way out of my way to accommodate….

I code! (Or for non-coders: I write software!) It's fun, and highly recommended if you have any interest in coding. :-D

In the longer term, I want to write great educational software that opens up new ways to learn particularly inaccessible subjects, like maths and programming. I used to be a peer tutor for my statistics classes at university, and I also did teacher training (though sadly haven't had the opportunity to teach full-time yet), so helping people learn is a big interest I have.

Computer programming is one of the few things I'm confident of saying I'm really good at, having won a few programming contests back in my university days. I also love learning new programming languages; my current favourites are Scheme and Ruby, but I also have a fair amount of experience in Java, C++, and Perl.

I'm also really good at spelling (and have been since primary school), and I have a deep grasp of the various spelling variations between British English and US English. I prefer to use British spelling for all my personal correspondences, but will not pick on your spelling as long as you're consistent. :-) (Okay, these days I try to be live-and-let-live about other people's spelling, so I probably won't pick on you in any case.)

Also, since my wife is on a gluten-free diet, I'm really experienced at reading ingredients labels to decide whether any given food item is safe for her to eat. Though, my adventures with label-reading started way sooner; I used to be a vegetarian.

Now that I think about it, I'm also really good at sticking my foot in my mouth, too. One can't always win in this life! I'm also told that I'm really good at biting people's heads off on occasion. I guess that means my totem animal is Tyrannosaurus rex!

My long hair (hip-length). It amuses me when kids not-very-discreetly ask their parents whether I'm a boy or a girl. :-P (I don't identify as either, so it doesn't bother me at all.)

My accent. Here in the US, people often ask if my accent is British or Australian; kudos to the small handful of people who correctly identify it as New Zealand accent.

My long fingernails. Probably the longest I've had them was when I grew them really long (over 1cm) for my wedding.

My total lack of regard for gender conventions. Because of this, years ago many people thought I was gay, and were floored to hear that I married a woman.

At the moment, I have a thing for gamebooks from my childhood, especially the Fighting Fantasy and Lone Wolf series. I would love to hear about any gamebook recommendations and experiences you have!

(Lately, I've heard about Gamebook Adventures (through Tin Man Games' new licensing deal with Fighting Fantasy), and I've played through all the Android gamebooks they've released. They're fun!)

I have a total weakness for romance books and movies. But they have to have happy endings! No meh stories for me. :-)

I listen primarily to classical music, especially baroque. I can spend a whole day listening to Bach, Beethoven, or Schubert.

As for food, I absolutely love seafood, especially shellfish. With fish, I have a particular fondness for dory, grouper, and salmon, but I'll eat most any kind of fish or seafood. (I do try to avoid seafood and fish that are known to be overharvested or otherwise unsustainable.)

My wife is on a gluten-free diet. Most of the time, this means I eat gluten-free, also, especially when I'm preparing food at home. I do not want to accidentally cause a cross-contamination!

Time.

My best friends (including my wife).

Intuition and inspiration.

Pen and paper (not just for writing poetry---I can code well enough on pen and paper).

Belief (or intention as some call it).

Solitude (all introverts need it).

My best friends. :-) Also, how I can be a better friend to them.

My friends' relationships, and how they work or don't work. Second-hand learning can be very useful; don't knock it! (Kudos to Belenen for actually writing upfront accounts of hir previous marriagepartnership; I learnt a lot from reading them.)

My own relationship, and how I can help make it the best relationship I know of, one that can serve as a model for friends to compare against. ("Best" does not mean perfect. Nobody is perfect, and nobody's relationship is either. But they can still be awesome!)

Trying to figure out what nice place to eat at, or otherwise trying to do something fun. :-)

Nothing. What kind of an introvert gives away their secrets? :-P

Actually, I take that back. My favourite word is 𨳒. :-)

You love playing 500! It's New Zealand's national card game, and I miss having people to play 500 with after moving to the US.

You are, or enjoy the company of, a type geek, a stats geek, a music geek, a food geek, a literary geek, a computer geek, and/or a high-IQ geek.

You're have a water sign and/or idealist temperament, or an affinity therewith. Some say these two traits are related, but I haven't done a proper statistical analysis. :-)

My match score with you beats 99% (which is my current match score with firecupid). :-P Seriously, if your match score is 90% or above, we're pretty likely to have a good conversation. :-)