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31 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hold on, hold on -- don't judge the faceless torso pic. At least, not yet. Deal? Deal.

So I'm a kinky guy with a successful career and an active personal life. I have a decent deal of experience with BDSM -- particularly in a dominant role, which I enjoy immensely. However, at this point I'm looking to explore a switch-up in power dynamics -- that is, to explore sexual submission.

I should point out that I'm not looking for anything too extreme. If you want me to put on a gimp mask and live in a cage in your basement, then this won't work. But I am looking to explore.

I know that a male bottoming in bed isn't for everyone; or they think that a guy intrigued by it will be meek outside the bedroom. Not in my case -- I'm very "Alpha" in the rest of my life, and in fact, even in the bedroom, I have traditionally been very dominant. But, like I said, expanding my horizons.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working a lot, but I'm OK with that. I also love to work out, I enjoy art and bad comedies, and I am wild about eating.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Oh, lots of things. Really. A lot of which have nothing to do with kinky fetish sex, in fact! (I mean, some do, of course - but not all). Sex-saturated profile notwithstanding, I'm actually pretty good at talking to and motivating people. I used to sing, but don't really anymore. People say I'm witty, and I would never disagree with people, since people seem to know things sometimes. So, there's that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
On this site? My lack of a head and lower body, I'd reckon.

In reality, I've been told I have very expressive eyes - which sometimes gets me in trouble...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
You name it, I eat it. And probably enjoy it.

I'm an indie rock nerd when it comes to music, though I do my best to remain a humble denizen of Earth and not a snooty connaisseur-type music dork, despite my tastes. Think National, Arcade Fire, Broken Social Scene, and you're on the right track.

Books = non-fiction, mostly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Never really liked this question, so I'll pass. Pass.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics, innovation, inappropriate jokes, all the BDSM mumbo jumbo that I've mentioned already.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Bar, restaurant, friend's place, or my place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably all the submission stuff in this profile, to be honest. Don't you feel special?
You should message me if
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You are an intelligent, sophisticated, sane, kinky woman who is interested in exploring what I've discussed so far -- or is already a seasoned pro at the aforementioned sexual power dynamics (but, uh, not like a doing-it-for-pay pro).

It would be nice if you were an interesting person besides the whole BDSM thing too. In fact, it's more than a nice to have -- I can't really get into it if I don't have respect for the other party.