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48 Chicago, IL Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:17am
Straight, Sapiosexual
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
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I am a pragmatic optimist who talks a lot, says what I *really* think, and will try anything at least once, but usually twice to make sure. I am tenacious and driven, but balance it with a wicked sense of humor and love of learning. I have a low tolerance for rigid thinking and/or willful ignorance.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an educator turned freelance writer who relocated to Chicago in April 2013, and is trying to figure out what adventurous path to take next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the big picture and motivating people to let go of fear and follow their dreams!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes and my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love reading and usually have at least three books going at a time:

March 2015
Martini Shots by George Pelecanos
Gold Coast Madam by Rose Laws

February 2015
The Street Sweeper by Eliot Perlman
Sex in Crisis: The New Sexual Revolution and the Future of American Politics by Dagmar Herzog
Portraits of Homeopathic Medicines by Catherine Coulter

January 2015
What Happy People Know by Dan Baker
The Fall by Albert Camus
The Ultimate Guide to Kink edited by Tristan Taormino

December 2014
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night by Mark Haddon
The Assassination of Margaret Thatcher by Hilary Mantel
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron

November 2014:
Herculine Barbin by Michel Foucault
The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou

My favorite movies are Heat, The Big Lebowski, The Departed, Sucker Punch, and The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

I listen to all kinds of music, but my all-time favorite group is Dream Theater. Currently, I'm listening to Roberto Cacciapaglia's album "Alphabet" and a mix of Bruno Mars, Bastille, Claire McGuire, Jessie Ware, Nell Bryden, Enigma, One Republic, Ed Sheeran, Jesse Ware, Clean Bandit, Lowen & Navarro, and HAIM.

I don't own a television, but I like Luther, The Wire, Scandal, The Daily Show, Suits, The West Wing, Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, Black Mirror and Arrow.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee, books, my iPhone, the Duolingo app, lingerie, and Uniball Signo RT 0.38 gel pens.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why people find it so hard to simply be kind to one another.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am a living, breathing paradox.
You should message me if
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You are single or in an open poly relationship in which you would have no problem introducing me to your significant other.

You understand what it means to actually be polyamorous.

You laugh easily and can make me laugh.

You sport scruff and/or have a British, Irish or Scottish accent (but if you have both...holy moly...)

You get why the gun battle outside of the bank in Heat is the best 30-minutes in film history.

You can quote lines from The Big Lebowski.

You believe that "You must be the change you want to see in the world."

You have a view of the world that is off-beat or unconventional and you're looking for someone who can go to the outer limits of the imagination with you.

You can begin a conversation with something other than, "So, what kind of sex do you like?" Seriously, gentlemen. Seriously.