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Last online
Oct 2
6' 1" (1.85m)
Atheism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Short version: I'm a bisexual, polyamorous bloke, living in the North of Melbourne with my wife and my long-term boyfriend. I'm not really looking for new relationships, but meeting new people is always fun.

I'm a work-from-home freelance writer, mostly working as a video games critic. I have a regular weekly gig, plus I'm a freelancer, though the freelancing part is not as active as I'd like. I also write a bit of fiction, though I'm not published in that field.

I suppose I think of myself as a well-socialised nerd. I love my gadgets, and I'm obsessed with science and technology - I'm that guy who reads the Wikipedia article on special relativity one day just because he's always wondered how that shit works. Despite the cliches, though, I'm a diehard extrovert, love being around people (though I can be a little shy around strangers) and I love conversation and I'm always cracking jokes. (Some of them are even good! Not all of them are groan-inducing puns.)

Philosophically and politically, I am compassionate and progressive. I am a big believer in rights and dignity for all, and believe that 90% of the world's problems would be solved if people would just stop being horrible to each other, and the other 10% if people would stop being horrible to our planet.

I'm also big into bisexual visibility. Bi people cop a lot of negativity, not just from the straight community, but the gay community too. I've been working for a few years to raise bisexuality's public profile, doing radio and newspaper interviews, and I run a monthly discussion and support group.

That'll do for now. If you want more detail, please say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now, life is taken up mostly by trying to make this freelance writing thing work. I'm learning to accept the fact that I'm doing work I love for very little money, so I'm looking for part-time opportunities on the side to finance my lifestyle. I'm not too proud to do a little data entry (though after almost five years in tech support, I am NEVER doing that again).

I have aspirations to study some post-grad - not a PhD, as I would like to continue having spare time, but maybe a Cert or a Dip, even Masters if I find something I really want to do.

My current idea for a long-term plan is to learn more AUSLAN (Australian sign language) and get good enough to work as a sign interpreter. I've only had a handful of lessons, but I really enjoyed it and my deaf friends have told me I have a lot of natural talent.

Of course, the thought of three or four years back at school is a daunting one...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I think I'm a good writer, and at least a few people seem to agree with me because I manage to keep on being paid to do it. That said, I know I could be a better writer, and I aim to continue practising that craft and pushing myself to take on greater challenges. I'm trying to write more fiction, and I've been pretty pleased with my recent efforts.

As for the rest of my life, well... I'm told I am a good listener, and I will give advice if asked (though I'm also good at keeping advice to myself if I'm not certain it would be welcomed).

I am big on physical affection, and those friends with whom I am on hugging terms tell me I'm a good hugger. I actually think you can tell a lot about a person from how they hug, even more than you can get from a handshake. But enough of my low-rent philosophising.

I'm not a person for whom talking myself up comes naturally, so I think I'll call this section done. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
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This is a tricky question, as nobody can ever receive an unbiased first impression of themselves. That said, going from what others have said, I'm told my smile makes an impression. I also laugh quite loudly - in a social setting, friends often know I have arrived because they hear my laugh before they see me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I don't read as much as I should - I don't commute any more, so that's my daily reading time gone. When I do get to read, though, I tend toward genre fiction: fantasy, SF, horror, and anything else set outside the here and now. Last few novels I have enjoyed have been by Terry Pratchett, Chris Wooding, Kelly Armstrong, Jasper Fforde, Paul Magrs, and Neil Gaiman. That said, I also read some non-fiction on topics that interest me, such as psychology, physics, and biology - nothing too heavy, mostly pop-science stuff. Richard Dawkins' The Ancestor's Tale is the one that sticks in my mind. Amazing. Oh, and David Attenborough's autobiography was fantastic as well.

Movies: Similar genres to my books, though I'll watch anything if it's good. I can be a bit of a cinema nerd, so I love talking with other cinephiles about editing, camerawork, and that kind of thing. Again, quite the horror fan, and always looking for fellow horror buffs to watch films with.

Shows: I watch little TV, and when I do it tends to be binge sessions with whole seasons on DVD (or *cough* torrented *cough*). SF shows tend to be my favourites, though again I'll watch anything good, even stuff set in the real world, without a spacecraft or vampire in sight!

Music: I love music, and devour it voraciously. I tend to enjoy guitar-based stuff more often than not, and I like music from the indie and alternative end of the pool, but again, anything good. I'm a sucker for both beautiful melodies and catchy beats, so I'm equally happy bouncing around the house to Bluejuice or sitting quietly and shedding a tear to Gotye. I'm a big fan of Aussie-made music, too.

Food: Pretty much everything. I love Thai, Mexican, Malaysian, Indian, South American, African, North African, Italian, French... I also love food fusion, mixing elements from all of these to create something new. Yeah, food is awesome. That said, I'm not too proud to get some fast food now and then. :)

Video games: I'm a video gaming journalist, so naturally I play a lot of games, but it's also a medium that I genuinely love (despite its many glaring flaws). I play a big mix of top-shelf AAA stuff and arty indie gems. All-time favourite series include the Civilization series, Half-Life series (I _may_ have a Half-Life tattoo), Borderlands, Elder Scrolls, System Shock and Batman: Arkham. My big blind spot is MMOs: I can't afford the time so I stay away from them.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't want to over-think this, so here are six things I couldn't live without right off the top of my head. This is not a definitive list. :)

1. Massage: Whenever I get tense it goes straight into my neck and shoulders. Massage is a life-saver, and my masseur is a goddess.

2. Technology: I'm a technophile. I love my gadgets, like to be connected, to have my calendar, my email, and a map in my pocket.

3. Music: Whether I'm listening intently or letting it bubble away in the background, I love music. Life would suck without it.

4. Friends: I have surrounded myself with people I love and respect, and I adore their company. I've never understood people who have friends they don't like. If you don't like them, why are you friends? Life is too short: find awesome people and spend as much time as you can with them!

5. Conversation: One of life's great pleasures is an intellectually stimulating argument with someone with whom you share mutual respect. I like to be wrong sometimes; it means I'm still learning.

6. Laughter: Not much to this one. I love to laugh.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...everything, really. I'm a bit of a thinker, which can be a blessing and a burden. I like to analyse things deeply, weigh up my instinctive leaps of logic against my careful deduction, and I like to burrow deep into a problem. That said, I can over-think things sometimes, so it can be helpful to turn my brain off at times.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...god, anywhere. I've been making an effort to get out more and see more live acts, so I might be at a pub gig or a comedy show. I might be out visiting friends, socialising in a pub, out at a movie, in with a movie, hacking away at the latest video game release, or just chilling with friends. I'm not the night-club type at all, but almost anything else is a possibility.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm really not the private type. Ask me anything, and I'll almost certainly answer truthfully - perhaps more candidly than you were prepared for. Prudish I ain't!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. like what you've read here and want to say hello. want to have a fun conversation. want to have a laugh. want some gentleness and affection in your life.

That said, please don't message me for a casual hook-up. I've done a bit of that in my time, but it's in my past now. These days I want to get to know people, and maybe see what develops.