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40 M Melbourne, Australia

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
[This profile is under construction - imagine a picture of a little man digging a hole against a yellow background]

I wrote my old profile years ago, and recently happened to come back and have a look at it. My goodness, was it ever out of date. I'm deleted it wholesale, and trashed my profile pics and added in the only recent pic of me I like, and now I'm doing some brainstorming for a new profile.

For now, the quick place-holder version is that I'm a bisexual, polyamorous bloke, living in the North of Melbourne with my wife and my long-term boyfriend. I'm interested in meeting new people, but I haven't dabbled in dating for quite a few years, so right now I'm thinking new friends would be a good start, and maybe more if the friendship part goes well.

I've recently quit my day job and taking up the mantle of a full-time freelance writer, which is equal parts exhilarating and terrifying (like many of life's finest things).

I'm kind of a geeky type, a little shy around new people, but I'm very much an extrovert, and being around people I love energises me. I'm affectionate, I laugh a lot, and I like to create stuff, though I haven't been as creative lately as I would like to have been. Ah, I'll get back to it.

Philosophically and politically, I am compassionate and progressive. I am a big believer in rights and dignity for all, and believe that 90% of the world's problems would be solved if people would just stop being horrible to each other, and the other 10% if people would stop being horrible to our planet.

I'm also big into bisexual visibility. Bi people cop a lot of negativity, not just from the straight community, but the gay community too. I've been working for a few years to raise bisexuality's public profile, doing radio and newspaper interviews, and I run a monthly discussion and support group.

That'll do for now. If you want more detail, please say hello.
What I’m doing with my life
Once again, a place-holder until I have had time to think a little more.

Right now, life is taken up mostly by trying to make this freelance writing thing work. I've been working a little too hard for too little reward lately, and I need to balance things better. Ah well, I've only been doing it a few months, so I'm sure I'll get the hang of it.

I have aspirations to study some post-grad - not a PhD, as I would like to continue having spare time, but maybe a Cert or a Dip, even Masters if I find something I really want to do. Right now that's on hold while I get the hang of being self-employed, though.

That'll do for now. Watch this space for updates!
I’m really good at
Place-holder, you know the drill.

I think I'm a good writer, and at least a few people seem to agree with me because I manage to keep on being paid to do it. That said, I know I could be a better writer, and I aim to continue practising that craft and pushing myself to take on greater challenges.

As for the rest of my life, well... I'm told I am a good listener, and I will give advice if asked (though I'm also good at keeping advice to myself if I'm not certain it would be welcomed).

I am big on physical affection, and those friends with whom I am on hugging terms tell me I'm a good hugger. I actually think you can tell a lot about a person from how they hug, even more than you can get from a handshake. But enough of my low-rent philosophising.

I'm not a person for whom talking myself up comes naturally, so I think I'll leave this section for now.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is a tricky question, as nobody can ever receive an unbiased first impression of themselves. That said, going from what others have said, I'm told my smile makes an impression. I also laugh quite loudly - in a social setting, friends often know I have arrived because they hear my laugh before they see me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I don't read as much as I should - I don't commute any more, so that's my daily reading time gone. When I do get to read, though, I tend toward genre fiction: fantasy, SF, horror, and anything else set outside the here and now. Last few novels I have enjoyed have been by Terry Pratchett, Chris Wooding, Kelly Armstrong, Jasper Fforde, Paul Magrs, and Neil Gaiman. That said, I also read some non-fiction on topics that interest me, such as psychology, physics, and biology - nothing too heavy, mostly pop-science stuff. Richard Dawkins' The Ancestor's Tale is the one that sticks in my mind. Amazing. Oh, and David Attenborough's autobiography was fantastic as well.

Movies: Similar genres to my books, though I'll watch anything if it's good. I can be a bit of a cinema nerd, so I love talking with other cinephiles about editing, camerawork, and that kind of thing. Again, quite the horror fan, and always looking for fellow horror buffs to watch films with.

Shows: I watch little TV, and when I do it tends to be binge sessions with whole seasons on DVD (or *cough* torrented *cough*). SF shows tend to be my favourites, though again I'll watch anything good, even stuff set in the real world, without a spacecraft or vampire in sight!

Music: I love music, and devour it voraciously. I tend to enjoy guitar-based stuff more often than not, and I like music from the indie and alternative end of the pool, but again, anything good. I'm a sucker for both beautiful melodies and catchy beats, so I'm equally happy bouncing around the house to Bluejuice or sitting quietly and shedding a tear to Gotye. I'm a big fan of Aussie-made music, too.

Food: Pretty much everything. I love Thai, Mexican, Malaysian, Indian, South American, African, North African, Italian, French... I also love food fusion, mixing elements from all of these to create something new. Yeah, food is awesome. That said, I'm not too proud to get some fast food now and then. :)
The six things I could never do without
Consider this a place-holder, and I'm just going to rattle off six things without thinking too hard. Consider this to be a stream of consciousness exercise.

1. Massage: Whenever I get tense it goes straight into my neck and shoulders. Massage is a life-saver, and my masseur is a goddess.

2. Technology: I'm a technophile. I love my gadgets, like to be connected, to have my calendar, my email, and a map in my pocket.

3. Music: Whether I'm listening intently or letting it bubble away in the background, I love music. Life would suck without it.

4. Friends: I have surrounded myself with people I love and respect, and I adore their company.

5. Conversation: One of life's great pleasures is an intellectually stimulating argument with someone with whom you share mutual respect. I like to be wrong sometimes; it means I'm still learning.

6. Laughter: Not much to this one. I love to laugh.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...everything, really. I'm a bit of a thinker, which can be a blessing and a burden. I like to analyse things deeply, weigh up my instinctive leaps of logic against my careful deduction, and I like to burrow deep into a problem. That said, I can over-think things sometimes, so it can be helpful to turn my brain off at times.
On a typical Friday night I am
...god, anywhere. I've been making an effort to get out more and see more live acts, so I might be at a pub gig or a comedy show. I might be out visiting friends, socialising in a pub, or chilling out at home with my loved ones. I'm not the night-club type at all, though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really not the private type. Ask me anything, and I'll almost certainly answer truthfully (and perhaps more candidly than you were prepared for). Just don't ask for my ATM PIN. :P
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if like what you've read here and want to say hello. want to have a fun conversation. want to have a laugh. want some gentleness and affection in your life.

That said, please don't message me for a casual hook-up. I've done a bit of that in my time, but it's in my past now. These days I want to get to know people, and maybe see what develops.