I was raised in a very small town in Vermont by college professors, went to college in Vermont and spent my 20s pursuing a vague dream of making it in the music industry. I snapped out of that in time to foster a decent career in advertising sales and relegated music to a passionate hobby, but I still write and produce music regularly for myself and other artists and even play live now and then. It's a big part of my life.
My love life and career have taken me to some great cities and I feel very lucky in that regard. I have lived in Sevilla, NYC, DC and SF as well as various towns in Vermont. I miss the east coast in the summer and wish I had the means to spend more time there. I still love CA too much to leave it though.
I prefer strong friendships and close bonds with people over cliques or scenes and that puts me slightly at odds with the standard gay culture of fraternity/partying. I love to go out, but prefer a wingman or buddy. As I have gotten a little older, I feel my earlier desires for acceptance have faded along with a simultaneously increasing tendency towards introversion. Not sure what that is about! But if you get a few drinks in me, you never know what can happen. Overall, I'd say I'm a very active guy - lots of day trips, weekend jaunts, evening plans and a full work schedule keep me moving 90% of the time.
I'm easily persuaded by authentic, grounded men, masculine guys with big hearts. The masculine and more traditionally male behavior and personality (as opposed to a "look") is probably the strongest characteristic I find attractive in other men beyond their physical appearance. It does not limit my friendships in any way, but it does seem to do so when it comes to sexual/emotional compatibility.
Ultimately, I don't want to waste the precious time I have left on this planet and I'm very curious and interested in embracing life and new friends. If that leads to something more, then it's icing on the cake. I would love to hear from like-minded guys.
Yearly rereading of "The Bridges of Madison County"