Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Basics: strong bonds with close friends, tight with my family, dog
person, skier, car nut, wine guy, slightly aggressive driver,
afraid of heights but will eat anything, rate on the masculine
I was raised in a very small town in Vermont by college professors,
went to college in Vermont and spent my 20s pursuing a vague dream
of making it in the music industry. I snapped out of that in time
to foster a decent career in advertising sales and relegated music
to a passionate hobby, but I still write and produce music
regularly for myself and other artists and even play live now and
then. It's a big part of my life.
My love life and career have taken me to some great cities and I
feel very lucky in that regard. I have lived in Sevilla, NYC, DC
and SF as well as various towns in Vermont. I miss the east coast
in the summer and wish I had the means to spend more time there. I
still love CA too much to leave it though.
I prefer strong friendships and close bonds with people over
cliques or scenes and that puts me slightly at odds with the
standard gay culture of fraternity/partying. I love to go out, but
prefer a wingman or buddy. As I have gotten a little older, I feel
my earlier desires for acceptance have faded along with a
simultaneously increasing tendency towards introversion. Not sure
what that is about! But if you get a few drinks in me, you never
know what can happen. Overall, I'd say I'm a very active guy - lots
of day trips, weekend jaunts, evening plans and a full work
schedule keep me moving 90% of the time.
I'm easily persuaded by authentic, grounded men, masculine guys
with big hearts. The masculine and more traditionally male behavior
and personality (as opposed to a "look") is probably the strongest
characteristic I find attractive in other men beyond their physical
appearance. It does not limit my friendships in any way, but it
does seem to do so when it comes to sexual/emotional
Ultimately, I don't want to waste the precious time I have left on
this planet and I'm very curious and interested in embracing life
and new friends. If that leads to something more, then it's icing
on the cake. I would love to hear from like-minded guys.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Work, play and hobbies. I am writing a (my second) book, producing
and releasing some singles, working on a solo piano show and trying
to get into noticeably better shape. I work hard but have a pretty
flexible schedule so I fit in a lot.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
debate, driving, cooking, drinking, household projects, putting
things in their proper place, melody, humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Me Talk Pretty One Day, A Man in Full, Dune, Neon Bible, The Sound
& The Fury, The Ocean at the End of the Lane. I read so many
books it's hard to choose. I just like to read. Movies I will watch
anytime qualify as faves: Star Wars, any Christopher Guest film,
any Pixar, Monty Pythons, Children of Men, After Hours... I don't
watch a lot of TV but I enjoy Game of Thrones, Torchwood, Louie,
Being Human, Top Chef and Chopped. I am a rampant music buyer but
lean to indie rock, melodic progressive. Not into what passes for
pop music these days.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My collection of illegal ivory carvings
Yearly rereading of "The Bridges of Madison County"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, things I should have said differently, sex
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Socializing. Almost invariably.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I kinda like Guns and Roses.
You should message me if
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