I was raised in a very small town in Vermont by college professors, went to college in Vermont and spent my 20s pursuing a vague dream of making it in the music industry. I snapped out of that in time to foster a decent career in advertising sales and relegated music to a passionate hobby, but I still write and produce music regularly for myself and other artists and even play live now and then. It's a big part of my life.
My love life and career have taken me to some great cities and I feel very lucky in that regard. I have lived in Sevilla, NYC, DC and SF as well as various towns in Vermont. I miss the east coast quite a bit in the summer and wish I had the means to spend more time there. I still love CA too much to leave it though.
I prefer strong friendships and close bonds with people over groups, cliques or scenes and that puts me slightly at odds with the general gay mindset. As I have gotten a little older, I think my need for acceptance has faded along with an increasing tendency towards introversion. Not sure what that is about! But if you get a few drinks in me, you never know what can happen.
I'm easily persuaded by authentic, grounded men, masculine guys with big hearts. The masculine, or more traditionally male, behavior and personality (as opposed to a "look") is probably the defining characteristic I find attractive in other men. It does not limit my friendships in any way, but it does seem to do so when it comes to sexual/emotional chemistry.
Ultimately, I don't want to waste the precious time I have left on this planet and I'm very curious and interested in embracing life and new friends. If that leads to something more, then it's icing on the cake. I would love to hear from like-minded guys.