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45 San Francisco, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 16
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
My self-summary
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Basics: strong bonds with close friends, tight with my family, dog person, skier, car nut, wine guy, slightly aggressive driver, afraid of heights but will eat anything, rate on the masculine side.

I was raised in a very small town in Vermont by college professors, went to college in Vermont and spent my 20s pursuing a vague dream of making it in the music industry. I snapped out of that in time to foster a decent career in advertising sales and relegated music to a passionate hobby, but I still write and produce music regularly for myself and other artists and even play live now and then. It's a big part of my life.

My love life and career have taken me to some great cities and I feel very lucky in that regard. I have lived in Sevilla, NYC, DC and SF as well as various towns in Vermont. I miss the east coast in the summer and wish I had the means to spend more time there. I still love CA too much to leave it though.

I prefer strong friendships and close bonds with people over cliques or scenes and that puts me slightly at odds with the standard gay culture of fraternity/partying. I love to go out, but prefer a wingman or buddy. As I have gotten a little older, I feel my earlier desires for acceptance have faded along with a simultaneously increasing tendency towards introversion. Not sure what that is about! But if you get a few drinks in me, you never know what can happen. Overall, I'd say I'm a very active guy - lots of day trips, weekend jaunts, evening plans and a full work schedule keep me moving 90% of the time.

I'm easily persuaded by authentic, grounded men, masculine guys with big hearts. The masculine and more traditionally male behavior and personality (as opposed to a "look") is probably the strongest characteristic I find attractive in other men beyond their physical appearance. It does not limit my friendships in any way, but it does seem to do so when it comes to sexual/emotional compatibility.

Ultimately, I don't want to waste the precious time I have left on this planet and I'm very curious and interested in embracing life and new friends. If that leads to something more, then it's icing on the cake. I would love to hear from like-minded guys.
What I’m doing with my life
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Work, play and hobbies. I am writing a (my second) book, producing and releasing some singles, working on a solo piano show and trying to get into noticeably better shape. I work hard but have a pretty flexible schedule so I fit in a lot.
I’m really good at
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debate, driving, cooking, drinking, household projects, putting things in their proper place, melody, humor.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My cojoined twin
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Me Talk Pretty One Day, A Man in Full, Dune, Neon Bible, The Sound & The Fury, The Ocean at the End of the Lane. I read so many books it's hard to choose. I just like to read. Movies I will watch anytime qualify as faves: Star Wars, any Christopher Guest film, any Pixar, Monty Pythons, Children of Men, After Hours... I don't watch a lot of TV but I enjoy Game of Thrones, Torchwood, Louie, Being Human, Top Chef and Chopped. I am a rampant music buyer but lean to indie rock, melodic progressive. Not into what passes for pop music these days.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My collection of illegal ivory carvings
Fox News
Yearly rereading of "The Bridges of Madison County"
White Zinfandel
Intelligent Design
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, things I should have said differently, sex
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Socializing. Almost invariably.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I kinda like Guns and Roses.
You should message me if
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You're a handsome, rugged, sexy, sweet, loyal, grounded, masculine guy who likes the top bunk.