Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My name is Matt. I have two degrees that say I can be quite the
smarts but anybody who knows me will tell you my focus is on being
playfully genuine. Intimacy for me comes in two flavors, tender
moments and gales of laughter. I'm looking for somebody who
respects herself, wants to join me in becoming the best version of
herself, and won't mind cuddling turning into full blown tickle
fights... And vice-verse, of course. I am a devout yet ever
bumbling Christian so I am looking for somebody to practice playful
I'm looking for somebody who notices beauty but remembers kindness.
There's nothing more attractive to me than a person who is kind to
others, wants to be kind herself, and knows she deserves every
kindness. I don't want to convince her she is valuable, I want us
to be busy making the most of that value and valuing one another. I
want somebody I can be silly, sincere, playful, and passionate
When I was 7 I announced to my mom that I had reconsidered being a
paleontologist after having a dream where my wife watched me dig
from behind a chain-link fence. I told me mom I loved dinosaurs but
didn't want to be away from her and my family so I'd have to do
something else. So if you're looking for a boy who appreciates you,
there's no bigger deal a boy can make than giving up dinosaurs for
you before he even knows you. No, seriously.
Oh, um, INFP.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I completed my masters degree, went on to be a high school teacher,
and am now getting my second masters in social work (clinical
therapy). At the moment I work at a homeless shelter as somebody
who is on-site and available for conversation with anybody.
In my free time I enjoy reading, going birdwatching, writing
handwritten letters, following soccer, baking for fun, playing
practical jokes, hoping for a pilot's license, and messing with my
little sisters. I've been both skydiving and shark-diving (each
time in New Zealand). I once organized a midnight game of capture
the flag using different colored glow sticks. I have pet fish and
frogs. If life ever finds a rhythm, I plan to return to the stand
up comedy scene.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. I enjoy being creative and coming up with personal
gestures for people... and practical jokes. As in, when my friends
lose something, sometimes they don't even bother looking for it and
just ask if I took it. (Pfht!) I love to cook and bake, always
looking for an excuse to throw out a nice meal.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How young I look for my age. Usually right after they ask if I'm
excited to be going to college or driving. Sigh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Little Prince, Ender's Game, anything by C.S.Lewis,
Michael Crichton, etc. Calvin & Hobbes. I'm an avid reader so
there really is too much to list.
Food: Mexican food. I love to cook and bake in general though. I
make a mean Cinnamon Chicken, Oreo Cheesecake, Buffalo Chicken
Pizza, and a number of other things. I currently work at a pizza
place that serves gourmet pizza too (think toppings like jalapeno
ranch, 3 hour braised pork, balsamic vinaigrette, and potatoes with
bacon). Weakness for pastries. Do not abuse this information.
Music: The Beatles, oldies in general, Jazz, classical, Sinatra,
Sufjan Stevens, Yann Tiersen, IZ. Currently learning the ukulele.
Harmonica is next.
Movies/TV: Star Wars, Battlestar Galactica, The Big Bang Theory,
Firefly, Castle, BBC Sherlock, Now is Good, Modern Family.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Making people laugh/Playfulness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What it means to be human, my desire to share my life with
somebody, relationships in general, Mexican food, ways to make
people happy, and the US national soccer team.
And now the upcoming Star Wars movies being made by Disney. Will
they be good? Will they be bad? [pulls hair]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it were up to me, I'd be spending one on one time with a friend.
I enjoy small group settings more than party scenes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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... is most likely whatever you'd like to ask, as long as you're
This isn't private per se but I'm not perfect. Nor do I expect you
to be. Being a very thoughtful, compassionate person means I can at
times feel drained or down. I like helping people but that also
means when something strikes me as cruel I can be angry, needing
time to vent. And I'm not above a bad day that turns me temporarily
obstinate. But I deeply pride myself on how I come back from those
moments and look forward to cherishing those who are patient with
me in return. For me it is enough to be actively committed to
improving yourself, to becoming more fully alive, and taking
responsibility. I'm much more bothered by a minor fault you refuse
to acknowledge than a larger fault you readily own. So long as I
can trust you'll always recommit to whatever your struggle may be,
I will forgive and support you endlessly -- because that's what I
You should message me if
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... you're attracted to kindness, tenderness, and enjoy being young
at heart. I'd rather be voluntarily cared for by the girl next door
than be obligingly cared for by a supermodel. And on another note,
I don't think a date that ends in friendship is a failure. If they
aren't happy with you as a friend, they don't deserve you as a
beloved. I'm pretty awesome and I want to be with somebody who
knows she is awesome too -- not because she's my beloved but
because she's herself. Because she is God's beloved.
As a Christian I'm looking for somebody to help me not only develop
my heart to its greatest degree but also confront my deepest
struggles. She will never be alone in her own experiences, joyful
and fearful alike, with me.
*Finally, I find women attractive certainly and sexuality is an
incredible aspect of loving somebody. I want to give and receive it
fully. But, if you have a picture meant to advertise your chest
more than your face, that's a huge turn off. That's not what gets
my short term attention and, if it's what you think you need to do,
you won't hold my long term attention.
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