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34 M San Diego, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 18
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I grew up as a TCK in Austria, speaking English at home and German in public school. My parents were missionaries working with a fairly well-known evangelical ministry. (Moment of awkward silence). Yup. They are awesome people. Like anyone else, I have my insecurities, but at the core I feel pretty secure, and I owe this above all else to my parents' love for me.

I grew up living in two cultural worlds: the world of church and family, and the world of school and of my secular friends. Just as I learned to speak two languages, I also learned to deftly navigate two very different cultural worlds. The upshot is that I am sensitive to social dynamics, diplomatic, and good at fitting in. The downside is that I can be a chameleon.

My psychology teacher in 11th grade rocked my world. He was brilliant and winsome--and an adamant atheist. He really got me thinking very seriously for the first time about why I believe what I believe. This started an intellectual and religious odyssey which has continued to the present day. I lost my faith in college, then had a re-conversion experience, ended up in divinity school (not too fundy a place: Yale), worked as a hospital chaplain (one of the most challenging yet rewarding experiences of my life), and then somehow--it's a long story--ended up back in graduate school studying philosophy, where my heart has slowly atrophied and my soul has shriveled. Just kidding. I'm a hopeful agnostic. That's an agnostic who prays. And I love what I do. I am incredibly grateful to get to live in beautiful San Diego and study stuff I'm passionate about.

I'm friends with a lot of different kinds of people and I like it that way. I have friends of different races, nationalities, ethnicities, sexual orientations, and religious and political persuasions. I also have good friends who are my parents' age.

People often trust me with their secrets and stories and come to me for advice. I find it rewarding to journey with people through difficult times in their lives.

I care about the issues of poverty, equality, human rights, global justice, and sustainability.

I'm constantly seeking to learn and broaden my horizons.

Love travel. Love the outdoors. Keep in good shape. (These are grammatically bastardized, free-standing predicates, not imperatives).

I'm hoping to find a partner in crime, someone who is passionate and kind, thoughtful and open-minded, someone who wants to live intentionally and be in a growth-oriented relationship, someone with a little chutzpah, someone who wants to dream, debate, laugh, cry, and celebrate life together.

I'm also always up for making new friends.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm getting my PhD in philosophy. Sub-field: ethics. I'm planning to become a homeless sage. Plan B is to become a university professor. Plan C is to work for a think tank or do some kind of international development work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a goofball
playing with kids
being a space cadet
not judging people
being a listening ear
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
plenty of exercise
the outdoors
a sense of wonder
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how i can grow and develop as a person. philosophy stuff. poverty and global justice. how to live sustainably.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
chillin' with the homies
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I still have PTSD from being abducted by aliens at age 4.
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