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49 Clementon, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 39–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 26
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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I've been essentially single now for many years, have dated from time to time, and have grown to be pretty comfortable in my own skin, while keeping my eyes peeled for Mr. Right. I'm not one to just settle for the sake of being with someone, but if I could find someone as comforting and loyal as my dog, I'd be a happy camper, haha. Truth be told, I'm kinda' skeptical about looking for and finding someone on-line. And writing about myself to total strangers, is kinda' weird to me. I've casually watched a few different websites over time, and it seems like it's the same old people posting on all of them. But ya' never know! So I'm giving this a shot. Who knows? Maybe something great will come from it!

I'm a thoughtful, passionate, true romantic at heart... the kind of guy that says what I mean, and means what I say.. and backs it up w/ his actions. When I commit, I'm in it for the long haul. I have a sardonic sense of humor, a sharp wit, and love to make people laugh. I'm a pretty good judge of character, and tend to surround myself w/ good natured, kind-souled, "good stock," and unpretentious people... and have quite a varied and diverse group of people in my life. I'm patently shy meeting people though, which is often confused by others for me being standoffish, snobby, or even aloof... which is actually far from the truth. But once the ice is broken, watch out!

I'm a firm believer that when people show you who they are, believe them, despite what they say. And as a result, I tend to be quietly observant. I also take note of what others like, remember it, and tend to be compensating. I find taking interest in other people's lives, generally makes them take interest in yours as well.

I can be extremely discerning. I'm a low drama type of guy. And I stay away from people who create it. I like a simplistic and uncomplicated life; and am not overly impressed by anyone's car, home, career, financial status, etc. I care more about what kind of people, people actually are. I'm sentimental and treasure making a lifetime of good memories. I tend to like tradition, and can be a bit old fashioned at times in my values, compared to much of today's world. Being faithful, honorable, noble, and loyal, are important qualities to me. And in gay life especially, that oftentimes seems to be rare. But the best experience I've ever had in life, was being in love. And that's one experience I'd someday like to have again.

I have a pretty good life, and a lot to offer the right person (as cliche as that may sound, lol). I'm pretty independent, but am considerate to a fault... and would love to turn "me" into "we." I'm by no means effeminate, but for lack of better wording, would make a good "wife" for somebody. I'm pretty hands-on, organized (but not anal about it) in taking care of all of the mundane things in life. I like taking care of someone, inasmuch as I like being taken care of in return. I love to cook... and love going out for a nice dinner once in a while too. It's a treat!

And because everyone seems to immediately ask, I'm versatile, and need that in someone else too. I like pleasing someone else, as well as being pleased... in all aspects of life actually. Being balanced, well-rounded, good-natured, and open-minded is important to me. I run from people who are self-involved, narcissistic, selfish, and unwilling to be mutually compensating... whether it's in bed, friendship, or a relationship. Just saying. And I tend to have a penchant for down-to-earth, easy-going, blue-collar, masculine guys, who have their life pretty much together. That's hardly set in stone though. I place more significance on overall compatibility. The rest is just semantics. What I find sexiest in someone else, is them having no clue about just how incredibly sexy they actually are.
What I’m doing with my life
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Retired young, and pursuing my passions. Everything from music, to gardening, to writing. I play several instruments, and one of them part-time in a wind symphony. As well, I've become an unexpected gardening and landscaping fanatic. It's always been a passion, but has exploded over the years, upon buying my first home. It keeps me grounded, and makes me feel connected to "something bigger in life." I love seeing things grow and mature over time. And what I've accomplished to date, going from a barren, neglected plot of land, to a lush nearly constantly blooming oasis, is something I've quietly prided myself on. I do it just for myself, and appreciate the beauty of nature tremendously. Wish I knew how to build stuff (read that as, "wish I was married to a handyman, haha). I also love the beach, the woods, stars, sunsets, sunrises, the change of seasons, and really anything portraying and pertaining to nature's beauty. There's just something very centering and enjoyable about the grandeur of nature to me. And it all keeps me Spiritually connected somehow.
I’m really good at
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...just about everything I've ever tried... but great at absolutely nothing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I guess that would depend on where they're looking, huh? lol. I guess I could say my eyes, smile, or infectious laugh... but usually it's my hair. It has often been long, short, and in between, and has always garnered a lot of unexpected attention, especially when it's long.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Musically, anything from good old 70-80's rock, to country, to classical, to show tunes, to divas belting out ballads... and everything in between. It really depends on my mood at any given moment. My Ipod is jammed w/ just about everything except rap (let's call it what it really is: crap!), acid rock, and techno.

Book-wise? I'm a big fan of Gregory Maguire (Wicked, The Other Stepsister, etc.), The Mists of Avalon (and its sequels), love a good suspense or mystery, as well as anything Authurian legend. Read a lot of books on Spirituality too.

Movies? My favorites include Gladiator, Braveheart, Legends of the Fall, Pretty Woman, Gone with the Wind, Crash, Titanic, Ever After ... and any saga movies that portray messages of character, personal integrity, and honor. I'm a sucker for a good romantic comedy as well.

Food? Mostly American (meat and potatoes), anything Italian, Greek, Mexican, Chinese on occasion. Love to cook a big meal too, especially when there's someone to cook for. Will try anything, but do not eat bait, err, uhm, Sushi. Yuckorama!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'll preface this by saying I don't define myself by them, but I've had a lot of losses in life. So I don't think there's anything I couldn't live without, or maybe even haven't at one time or another already. So long as the essential needs are always available, everything else is gravy. I take little for granted.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There's not enough hours in the day to answer this question. My mind is constantly going.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home. My bar/clubbing days (or nights as the case may be) have been over for the most part, for quite some time. I'm pretty much a homebody anymore, and am okay w/ that, since I've made a comfortable sanctuary for myself. But on occasion, I will go meet friends out for drinks/dinner, or go see a band at a local pub, and kick back a few. I'm open to going and doing though w/ someone special. But I don't need to be somewhere, constantly engaged, or on the move to be enjoying myself. I'm rarely bored.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Uhm... For now? I enjoy one martini every night before dinner. Am not opposed to some infrequent 420 usage, but could prob'ly live w/o it. Everything in moderation though!
You should message me if
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we have anything in common so far; you're loyal and HONEST (including that you have at least 1 current pic on your profile here... as in not one from 10+yrs ago, and haven't used "a secret gay math formula" to compute an embellished age... I don't care about your age, only if you lie about it... huge turn-off!); You're masculine, perhaps even rugged looking (no fems please); You're in average to athletic shape (no offense, but overweight guys do NOT turn me on in the least); you're not damaged goods defined by your past experiences, who wears their wounds/baggage on their sleeve; you recognize everyone is an individual and has their own ways of looking at life, their own experiences to go through, and regardless of their lot in life, can treat them w/ the same dignity and respect you'd want people to give you; are completely gay, single & looking to date w/ the potential of it leading to permanency one day; are fun to be around and can keep a conversation going; are not tied down by obligations like an 80hr/week job, etc.; are not on the downlow, but don't wear your sexuality on your sleeve to the point where people identify you first as gay before anything else; are balanced in that you're not either entirely submissive or totally dominant... or are either overwhelmingly independent or extremely needy; are Spiritually conscious (not to be confused w/ religious zealotry); and ultimately believe in one day having a committed, everlasting relationship, knowing it could be a vacation in life to have it.

Addendum added 9/15/13: I'm seeking a noble man, who has their honor and integrity intact. This includes having a profile of substance, a complete one no less. That means your info should be accurate. I've put myself out here in earnest, but apparently need to be more exacting w/ what I'm not interested in. If you have no profile, a scant one, no pics, lie about anything in it (location, stats, age, etc.), it is a HUGE turnoff to me... and I have little tolerance for it. It severely undermines not only your own integrity, but the integrity of this site... both important to me. While I'm getting better at smelling the internet players coming from a mile away, it is still really annoying to be contacted by people, who edit their profile in their messages to me. If you're not comfy in your own skin completely, and/or worry what other people think of you enough to take "creative license" (being kind here...) on your profile, you're not the guy for me; and there's no point in messaging me, no less handing me a bunch of self-justifying excuses. It's insulting, since I think I've been utterly clear about who I don't want hear from. Also, I have no interest in married or partnered guys. Just not my thing. I will also never be impressed by anyone's income, career position, kind of car they drive, home they live in, etc. If these are the kind of things that you identify yourself by, we're miles apart in what we seek. I have higher standards than petty material things. How you are as a person, is what I will find attractive. I have heard from some high quality people of substance on here that I've enjoyed conversing with, and hope to hear from more. Still looking for "The One," but I'd rather be alone indefinitely, than compromise the basic standards I've outlined here. I know this may sound uptight to some people, but really, I'm just trying to attract credible people. I bring a lot to the plate, find many people attractive, and enjoy having fun as much as anyone else. But substance, honor, and integrity trump everything. Thanks.