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  • Ages 39-59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Nov 19
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Might want kids
Has dogs
My self-summary
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I've been essentially single now for many years, have dated from time to time, and have grown to be pretty comfortable in my own skin, while keeping my eyes peeled for Mr. Right. I'm not one to just settle for the sake of being with someone, but if I could find someone as comforting and loyal as my dog, I'd be a happy camper, haha. Truth be told, I'm kinda' skeptical about looking for and finding someone on-line. And writing about myself to total strangers, is kinda' weird to me. I've casually watched a few different websites over time, and it seems like it's the same old people posting on all of them. But ya' never know! So I'm giving this a shot. Who knows? Maybe something great will come from it!

I'm a thoughtful, passionate, true romantic at heart... the kind of guy that says what I mean, and means what I say.. and backs it up w/ his actions. When I commit, I'm in it for the long haul. I have a sardonic sense of humor, a sharp wit, and love to make people laugh. I'm a pretty good judge of character, and tend to surround myself w/ good natured, kind-souled, "good stock," and unpretentious people... and have quite a varied and diverse group of people in my life. I'm patently shy meeting people though, which is often confused by others for me being standoffish, snobby, or even aloof... which is actually far from the truth. But once the ice is broken, watch out!

I'm a firm believer that when people show you who they are, believe them, despite what they say. And as a result, I tend to be quietly observant. I also take note of what others like, remember it, and tend to be compensating. I find taking interest in other people's lives, generally makes them take interest in yours as well.

I can be extremely discerning. I'm a low drama type of guy. And I stay away from people who create it. I like a simplistic and uncomplicated life; and am not overly impressed by anyone's car, home, career, financial status, etc. I care more about what kind of people, people actually are. I'm sentimental and treasure making a lifetime of good memories. I tend to like tradition, and can be a bit old fashioned at times in my values, compared to much of today's world. Being faithful, honorable, noble, and loyal, are important qualities to me. And in gay life especially, that oftentimes seems to be rare. But the best experience I've ever had in life, was being in love. And that's one experience I'd someday like to have again.

I have a pretty good life, and a lot to offer the right person (as cliche as that may sound, lol). I'm pretty independent, but am considerate to a fault... and would love to turn "me" into "we." I'm by no means effeminate, but for lack of better wording, would make a good "wife" for somebody. I'm pretty hands-on, organized (but not anal about it) in taking care of all of the mundane things in life. I like taking care of someone, inasmuch as I like being taken care of in return. I love to cook... and love going out for a nice dinner once in a while too. It's a treat!

And because everyone seems to immediately ask, I'm versatile, and need that in someone else too. I like pleasing someone else, as well as being pleased... in all aspects of life actually. Being balanced, well-rounded, good-natured, and open-minded is important to me. I run from people who are self-involved, narcissistic, selfish, and unwilling to be mutually compensating... whether it's in bed, friendship, or a relationship. Just saying. And I tend to have a penchant for down-to-earth, easy-going, blue-collar, masculine guys, who have their life pretty much together. That's hardly set in stone though. I place more significance on overall compatibility. The rest is just semantics. What I find sexiest in someone else, is them having no clue about just how incredibly sexy they actually are.
What I’m doing with my life
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Retired young, and pursuing my passions. Everything from music, to gardening, to writing. I play several instruments, and one of them part-time in a wind symphony. As well, I've become an unexpected gardening and landscaping fanatic. It's always been a passion, but has exploded over the years, upon buying my first home. It keeps me grounded, and makes me feel connected to "something bigger in life." I love seeing things grow and mature over time. And what I've accomplished to date, going from a barren, neglected plot of land, to a lush nearly constantly blooming oasis, is something I've quietly prided myself on. I do it just for myself, and appreciate the beauty of nature tremendously. Wish I knew how to build stuff (read that as, "wish I was married to a handyman, haha). I also love the beach, the woods, stars, sunsets, sunrises, the change of seasons, and really anything portraying and pertaining to nature's beauty. There's just something very centering and enjoyable about the grandeur of nature to me. And it all keeps me Spiritually connected somehow.
I’m really good at
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...just about everything I've ever tried... but great at absolutely nothing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I guess that would depend on where they're looking, huh? lol. I guess I could say my eyes, smile, or infectious laugh... but usually it's my hair. It has often been long, short, and in between, and has always garnered a lot of unexpected attention, especially when it's long.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Musically, anything from good old 70-80's rock, to country, to classical, to show tunes, to divas belting out ballads... and everything in between. It really depends on my mood at any given moment. My Ipod is jammed w/ just about everything except rap (let's call it what it really is: crap!), acid rock, and techno.

Book-wise? I'm a big fan of Gregory Maguire (Wicked, The Other Stepsister, etc.), The Mists of Avalon (and its sequels), love a good suspense or mystery, as well as anything Authurian legend. Read a lot of books on Spirituality too.

Movies? My favorites include Gladiator, Braveheart, Legends of the Fall, Pretty Woman, Gone with the Wind, Crash, Titanic, Ever After ... and any saga movies that portray messages of character, personal integrity, and honor. I'm a sucker for a good romantic comedy as well.

Food? Mostly American (meat and potatoes), anything Italian, Greek, Mexican, Chinese on occasion. Love to cook a big meal too, especially when there's someone to cook for. Will try anything, but do not eat bait, err, uhm, Sushi. Yuckorama!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'll preface this by saying I don't define myself by them, but I've had a lot of losses in life. So I don't think there's anything I couldn't live without, or maybe even haven't at one time or another already. So long as the essential needs are always available, everything else is gravy. I take little for granted.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There's not enough hours in the day to answer this question. My mind is constantly going.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home. My bar/clubbing days (or nights as the case may be) have been over for the most part, for quite some time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Wouldn't be private now, if I told, would it? ;)
You should message me if
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... if you're a person of honorable character and integrity,