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26 Philadelphia, PA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–33
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 25
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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Other Disclaimer: I am currently in a polyamorous relationship with somebody. That may factor into whether you want to date me.

Disclaimer: I really need to update this profile more often.
I’m an introspective homebody, and I'd like to meet somebody who knows that “fat” isn’t a four-letter word. Casual socialization doesn’t come easily to me, but once I get to know you or find some common ground I really open up. I’m the very image of “bookish intellectual”. I enjoy nature documentaries about plants, insects, ocean depths, anything that explores a variety of unusual life. I love fantasy: fantasy writing, fantasy movies, fantasy rpgs, etc. I like monsters in entertainment mediums, in art, and just as concepts to play around with. I am fascinated by the supernatural and the cryptozoological, both in fiction and in alleged reality. I spend a lot of time on the internet. I am NOT into sports, and I'm repulsed by football.

I’m terminally geeky. I write fanfiction, I have lengthy debates about the moral defensibility of creating an army of the dead or why Daleks are so bloody cool, and a lot of the time I just speculate or daydream complex fictional worlds. Even if you aren’t an ubernerd, I’d like somebody who can at least meet with me on some levels.

I've learned from painful experience that I am not ready for love, or at least the long-term relationship and very high level of personal emotional investment that can pass for it in a poor light.

Seriously, the fact that I like somebody who shares interests should be already apparent. I want to be with somebody mature, because I haven’t enjoyed the alternative. You don’t have to be dead serious, just a person who I can rely on and confide in on topics from the critical to the inane. Physical and sexual attraction plays a role in dating (otherwise, why are people posting their photos?) I’d like a fat girl, and a girl who’s aware that being “fat” doesn’t equate with being ugly or having a medically proven death sentence, at least as far as girls go. I'm into chubby guys, but I think I'm also into skinny guys? (I haven't figured out the spectrum of my sexuality yet). I'm also into fat individuals who don't fit the gender binary. I have a natural impulse to give presents, complement, and pamper, and if you can gracefully accept random gifts, tasty treats, and subtle attempts to spoil you, that’s awesome. The body part I’m most attracted to is the belly and I think big round bellies are the cutest.

I believe that the term “seven deadly sins” is inaccurate on at least two counts.

I consider myself a feminist (a real feminist, not a transphobic ass who only cares about white upper-middle class problems), and I have a some strong ideas about gender roles. I’m not some parasitic cretin who thinks fat girl are “easy”. I don’t even properly understand the concept of easy. I mean, if there’s a guy and a girl, both attracted to each other, they go out for dinner at mcdonalds, then they go home and have sex, conventional wisdom holds that the girl was “easy” because all it took was a snack from the dollar menu to get her into bed. Isn’t the guy here easier, because he actually paid for a meal rather than having sex with the incentive of a free one?

Did I mention I tend to ramble? I want to wrap this up with a statement. One thing that really drives me wild is a girl who wants to get fatter, known in some internet circles as a gainer or feedee. I consider myself a feeder or encourager and an fa (short for fat admirer). The collective term for this grouping/interest is feedism (Note I didn’t say “wants to get fat” or “wants to weigh x amount”, its more about the journey than the goal). I wouldn’t dream of trying to trick somebody into gaining weight, or even sabotaging diets. This refers to somebody who is interested in gaining weight/getting fatter themselves; I don't expect or want a partner to gain weight just to please me.

Update: so yeah, found out I was closer to the middle of the Kinsey scale than I realized. Still not sure how near the center I am, or how my preferences with guys may differ, but feedees are cool, and nice soft bellies are always good.
I am creative, esoteric, and nourishing
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm graduate of Susquehanna University with a BA in Creative Writing and a minor in Women's Studies. I'm currently working a full-time research and grantswriter job.
I've written two novels, though they are not published yet. I've also written a large amount of short stories, including an anthology of feminist speculative fiction, and have published some of those. News about the published ones and upcoming publications are available on my website.

I'm working with two novels right now. I'm also struggling my way through novel submissions and cycling through various anxieties. I'm trying to find steady work at a nonprofit, maybe something with an urban gardening or pagan focus.

Also: dreaming the days away and a world of nightmares turned to angelic beauty.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing bittersweet supernatural fiction. Imagining things. I have a lot of creativity, and I'm a decent hand at cooking. I like to cook for people, especially people with big appetites who appreciate good food. ^_^ I
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair and/or nice butt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite book/book series is the Old Kingdom Trilogy ( Sabriel, Lireal, and Abhorsen, plus a short story/novella Nick and the Creature) Close seconds would be Unlundun by China Meiville (although his other works are too gritty for my tastes) and Skulduggery Pleasant by Derek Landy. Other favorite books include Anansi Boys and Coraline by Neil Gaiman and the Abarat series by Clive Barker. Darkest Powers trilogy starting with The Awakening by Kelly Armstrong is a good addition to the YA Necromancer fiction niche, although her earlier work didn't appeal to me. My favorite comic author is Terry Pratchett. I'm into Harry Potter, but not as much as I am into the hardcore fantasy/high fantasy writers. In the non-fiction sector, I would have to say the histories of Thomas Cahill continue to enthrall me, and How The Irish Saved Civilization is one of the most entertaining, whitty, humorous, enthralling, and uplifting books that I have ever read.

Favorite movies include The Labyrinth, Coraline, Woody Allen's "Love and Death", Paprika, Monsters vs. Aliens, Jason and the Argonauts, and more that I'll think of later,favorite radio program is Prairie Home Companion. Favorite food type is Pizza, favorite meal/entrée is welsh rarebit, favorite homemade dessert is dwarven nut pie. I'm also a vegetarian. Favorite movie that started as a miniseries is Salem's Lot (original). Favorite movie that's painfully bad and good is Lifeforce.

Favorite unfairly cancelled TV series include Mystery Science Theater 3000. Other shows I like include Farscape, The Daily Show with John Stewart, My Little Pony:Friendship is Magic, Lost Girl, and most recently Fringe.

I do NOT like gritty "realism" or Annie Proulx. I despise the Twilight series either, but I'd still rather read that than Annie Proulx. At least Twilight provokes SOME emotional response. The best thing that can be said about Proulx's short story "Job History" is that it gives you the experience of a six-year coma without the inconvenience.

Music: birthday massacre nightwish within temptation paprika soundtrack P!nk Evanescence and discovering more each time I use pandora.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My loving family, mystery science theater 3000, fantasy, teh internetz, and two other very important things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Fantastic creatures and hypothetical worlds, undeath, necromancy, the afterlife, undead critters in general, mythology, ghouls, faeries, revenge, horrors of the future, religions real and imagined; stuff like that

Oh, did I also mention cute fat girls, referred to in some circles as "bbw"? Cuz I think about them a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, catching the encore presentation of the new episode of Dr. Who, eating a microwaved dinner and surfing the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am a dedicated brony and went to a few halloween parties as a vampire cheerleader, where I bit a strange guy on the neck.
You should message me if
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You want a nerdy drinking buddy for mystery science theater, rifftrax and so-bad-its-good movies.

You like tummy rubs.

You can belch on command.

You want to smash the patriarchy together.

You have a question to ask or need further clarification.

You want to brainstorm ideas for fictional monsters or fictional religions! :D

Do NOT message me if your axiom of literary greatness is Anne Proulx, Philip Roth, Terry Goodkind or Stephenie Meyers.