Technically my main language is Dutch, but I usually prefer English.
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- Ages 18-34
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 10:40am
- Straight, Sapiosexual
- Open relationship
- Relationship Type
- Mostly non-monogamous
- 5' 10" (1.78m)
- Body Type
- Special Diet
- Not at all
- Atheism and it’s important
- Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
- English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
Technically my main language is Dutch, but I usually prefer English.
I guess I like finding the reasons and patterns in everything that's going on around me. Lately I have been thinking a lot about how relationships work, for example, what are the minimal things necessary for two people to form a relationship in the first place, or why exactly is dating a guy different from dating a girl for straight people? I think I'm actually making some headway in this, but this post is too small to contain it :)
Climbing. Climbing is fun, be it in trees, up climbing walls, or a form of Urban Exploration that gets you places no-one usually goes. When walking around I have the inclination to jump over things or see if I can scale walls. I've been bouldering a lot recently, which is climbing on a low wall up to 4 meter without any rope, but with thick mats underneath.
I like Slacklining too, but it's nicer in summer outside :)
Hugs, apparently! I've been told that I give the best hugs :) Personally I don't think I do anything other than give sincere hugs, but perhaps that's not common? I like hugs a lot though, so I'd be happy to have you be the judge for yourself!
I actually just asked a friend:
"I DARESAY HIS BODY LANGUAGE IS INDICATING A DEGREE OF OPENNESS I FIND MOST SOOTHING"
Most of Greg Egan's books, Harry Potter (or actually I prefer HPMOR), Thinking Fast and Slow, Gödel, Escher, Bach (although I still haven't finished it), Worm, Pact, probably more!
I used to read Lesswrong, but haven't in a while. Slate Star Codex remains awesome. I like the ideas in Mr. Money Mustache but don't follow his blog actively.
xkcd, Gunnerkrigg Court, Girl Genius, Oglaf. Many more, actually, I have too many of them in my RSS feed :)
Games with interesting gameplay dynamics:
Gish: Ever played a blob of tar? You should! Jumping by squishing yourself on the ground, then rigidifying your blob when it's at its most squished state is awesome. http://www.chroniclogic.com/index.htm?gish.htm
Shift: Are you stuck? Invert the ceilings with the free space, and carry on! http://armorgames.com/play/751/shift
Bastet: Replay value doesn't last very long, but having a tetris clone that always gives you the worst block in your particular situation is some pretty cool programming. It's fun to let unsuspecting people try to figure out why they can't get more than 4 rows before they fill up their screen :) http://fph.altervista.org/prog/bastet.shtml
The list goes on... Bloxorz, Ragdoll masters, Liquid wars, Bontãgo, Echochrome, etc etc. If you know of a cool game, let me know! I like trying new ones.
Serenity and Firefly, the Matrix, Doctor Who, Scott Pilgrim vs. the World, How to train your dragon, Frozen, The Princess Bride, The Martian, probably more as well. I don't like horror, drama, pure romance. I do like action, superhero, fantasy, sci-fi.
I'm not too well-versed in different genres, but I think I like Drum & Bass, Electronic, more relaxed versions of Dubstep or Trance with female vocals.
I also tend to like any songs I already know, so if you want me to like something you should play it for me a bunch of times.
I don't like Dutch folk songs, hardcore, most rap, and metal that doesn't have melody.
Quietness can be awesome, by the way. Being outside before dawn, with no humans around…
Mealsquares! They're not vegan (yet) though…
I did a DIY version of Soylent for a while, that was an interesting experiment. Worked quite well actually.
I like good vegan food, but I usually don't care too much about making or eating fancy food, which is why the DIY Soylent worked well. I can cook fine if necessary though.
Forms of interaction:
Cuddles, definitely. Hugs are good too, but they're like short cuddles.
Life without other people would suck as well. I try to be very independent, to be able to function despite what happens, but I've recently found that being close to people is a pretty strong drive in me. And also that not being close to anyone makes me feel alone and unmotivated. It's one of the reasons I'll likely emigrate to the US: I have very good friends in California, and feel supported and connected there.
Besides trying to figure out everything, I also try to understand why everyone does the things they do. I have a part of my brain that is constantly on the lookout for plausible reasons that people take their actions; I think that basically everyone has reasons and causes for what they do, and that I can't actually judge them for anything they do. If something seems crazy or bad to me, I probably don't understand it fully yet.
This sounds pretty abstract, but it seems to be easy for people to open up to me, to feel secure with me. I'm pretty happy with that, it's somewhat of a confirmation to myself that I actually seem to be non-judgmental, and I'm not just deluding myself.
I like hanging out with people I know. Even when traveling, I
usually travel to countries where I know someone, instead of to see
Last Friday night I was watching a movie with a friend that's staying over. Next Friday night, perhaps I'm chatting on OkCupid :)
What's the most private thing you're willing to admit
I used to find it very difficult to admit my negative emotions, even to myself. I would avoid people if I was feeling bad, and I would try to ignore it if I was feeling anxious or sad. I've made a lot of progress on that recently, and I feel I can be much more the real me now. Feel free to ask me personal questions, I'd be happy to answer; both as practice, but also because it creates a connection.
I'll respond to all messages I get. Your message doesn't even need to contain a whole lot; starting a conversation is difficult enough by itself :P Also, if you think the guy should initiate the first message, not the girl, then you should send me a message saying that, and I'll send you a message to initiate a conversation :)
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