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My self-summary
You can trust me, I'm a doctor. Wait, not that kind of doctor. I'm A doctor, not THE doctor. Unless your problem involves material selections for medical devices, then I'm the doctor you need.

Scientist, geek, nerd, writer, gamer, reader, thinker, feeler. Hopeful, nervous, happy, concerned, warm, thoughtful. Acutely observant, yet highly oblivious. Honest with myself and others. Occasionally guilty of assuming people see the world the way I do, while keeping an open mind. A relentless questioner, and seeker of truth. Someone who will defend his friends with the ferocity of a bear, and occasionally snore like one too (though not anymore).

I'm either the most anti-social extrovert or the most social introvert. I like to talk, but situations with lots of people annoy me.

I once had an MRI done of my head, and was informed that I have a very round brain.

I recently saw this quote by Judith Martin, and I think it accurately reflected my approach to dating: “There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.”
What I’m doing with my life
Researching non-pharmaceutical pain relief, writing, and experimenting.

Relaxing and trying to be kind to myself and those around me.

Making sure those important to me know how much I care about them.

Playing games, board, tabletop, and video.

Thinking probably too much.
I’m really good at
Analyzing problems, puzzles, data
Remembering useless information
Being on time
Explaining my thought processes (both intellectual and emotional).
Finding fantastic times to look at someone and say, "Is that a fat joke?"
Keeping an open mind
Breaking the ice (Wait, is that a fat joke?)
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my eyes, or the way I talk, or that I just really said that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Foundation series, Jurassic Park, Thursday Next series
Movies: The Usual Suspects, Bull Durham, Apollo 13
Music: Beethoven, Miles Davis, The Beatles, Tom Lehrer, The Police, Train, Tonic
Food: Pretty much anything (Is that a fat joke?)
Games: Dragon Age, The Witcher, FTL, Civilization, Pirates!, Path of Exile, D&D, Pathfinder, Shadowrun, Diplomacy
The six things I could never do without
I'm changing this to, "Six things I wouldn't ever want to be without," cause I think that's more revealing of me as a person.

Unanswered questions
A car- I love driving.
Green Bay Packers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Being a "grown up"
My Friends
The truth and trust (both as relates to relationships and Diplomacy)
Why people (including me) are the way they are

Terrible jokes like, would the reality TV equivalent of the NFL Redzone channel be the Lifetime FRIENDZONE channel, which would just cut from guy to guy getting ready to make an awkward move (h/t Bill Barnwell and Mina Kimes)
On a typical Friday night I am
unwinding after work. That could involve a restaurant and a game, or a movie, or a board game night, or video games, or driving somewhere for a weekend event.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If reincarnation were real, I'd want to come back as a polar bear, even though that would probably doom me to a short, hungry life on melting ice floes.

Oh, and I occasionally travel great distances for the purpose of pushing wooden blocks around a map of Europe.

I see a lot of cake metaphors on here, people looking for the icing on the cake, or the cherry on the cake. I'm feeling more like I'm a single layer cake, looking for the other layer that I can pair up with to build an even more delicious double layer cake, and then decorate ourselves with frosting. And I think I just killed that metaphor, so I'll shut up now.
You should message me if
Anything I've written intrigues you.

Most of what passes for news coverage in this country strikes you as bread and circuses.

You equally appreciate the work of Haber, Euler, Bach, and Netter.

I've written you. I know, I know, women get too many messages to respond to all of them, but I really try to put thought into each message I send, try to say something reasonably intelligent and observant, and express genuine interest in someone as a person with each message. I don't want to sound like a prime example of male privilege and say I feel entitled to a response, but I'd like to say, I probably spent at least 5-10 minutes writing your message. Even if you aren't interested, I'd like to ask for a polite note. On the other hand, if you read my message and didn't feel like I actually expressed interest in getting to know you and just sent some sort of generic note, tell me, cause really, I didn't do that, and I'd hate if that's the impression I give off. And I'd like to do better next time.