As far as people I want to be friends/sleep with (which greatly overlap for me most of the time), my particular high bars are humility, humor, and smarts, in that order.
I have a lovely boyfriend and we don't do the monogamy thing. We have 1-2 nights a week for dates with other people. Those other people could be you!*
* If you happen to meet a certain number of totally arbitrary criteria related to my preferences