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29 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 21–37
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 23
Asian, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Christianity, and very serious about it
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Esperanto (Okay), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I've noticed some people have an issue with the pronunciation of my username. So, I'll tell you how. It's very easy.. :-) It's pronounced May-loo.. The 'i' is silent.

My name is Stefanja. I was born, and raised in Oregon, and I haven't really travelled much. Other than Oregon, I've been to Washington, California, North Carolina, and Canada. I was laid over in Texas, and Ohio, but I didn't leave the airport. So, I don't think those count! I would love to travel around the US more, and even the world. Europe sounds like a great place to go, and I want to go to Indonesia someday. I have some Indonesian in my blood line, and I'd love to learn more about the culture, and the people.

I'm a Christian, and meeting someone that loves God, and our saviour Yeshua (Jesus Christ) is very important to me. I am doing what is commanded of me, and trying to find someone that is equally yoked with me. I'm not a bible thumper, but I have a very strong relationship with Yeshua.

I'm a bit of a nerd.. you can learn more down in my radtastic nerdy section, also known as 'Favourite books, movies, shows, music, and food'.

I tend to be shy upon first meeting, but don't let that fool you! Under my layers I have a fun, silly, and sarcastic girl under there! I love to goof around, and I want someone that has a sense of humour. I want someone that I can be silly with, and have a good time. 90% of the time I'm not being serious, but I do know how to be serious if need be. ;)

I would like to date someone with the possibility that it could turn into a serious relationship. I would like to start out as friends, and if it grows into more, I would embrace it. I would prefer a relationship to organically happen on it's own, so it's not forced. I would prefer to meet someone who is ready for a serious relationship if it were to turn in that direction. I don't want to meet someone who doesn't know what they want.

If you go out with me and kiss me, and you go out the next night with another girl and kiss her, keep moving. If you're lining up dates with several women a week, keep moving. If you want get to know me, and you're interested in me, please be willing to give it a real chance without mind games. I don't want to meet someone who says they're into me, but then changes their mind every few days. When I meet someone, and I like them a lot, I will make the decision to stop talking to other people if we begin seeing each other, so I can have a deeper connection with the person I want to get to know. I would appreciate it if we begin seeing each other, that you would stop seeing other women while we are getting to know one another. Players need not apply!

I want to learn archery, and more about foraging for wild edibles, and herbs.. also known as wildcrafting. I'm trying to learn more about herbalism, because I want to be a natural healer. Being an herbalist has been something I have wanted for a long time, but it's not an everyday job, so I don't know where to start with it. I don't know if I need to be an autodidact, or get an official education in it.

I would like to meet someone that knows how to hunt, fish, and survive off the land. I want to learn survival skills, and meeting someone that knows those things, and can teach me, I think is pretty hot. ;)

I love to ride my bike, and I live near a bike trail that is paved, but in the middle of a forest-y area.. I haven't been on the trail yet, because I'd like to go with someone else. I don't like being in secluded areas like that alone. So, if anyone is out there that would like to ride on the 20+ mile trail with me near my house, feel free to message me!

I genuinely view myself as a caring, loving, compassionate person with a lot of love to give to the right person.

I forgot to mention that I'm Scandinavian, Indonesian, and Italian.. I love cooking Vietnamese food, and Indian food, along with many other ethnic foods. Mmmm a Vietnamese banh mi sandwich sounds pretty good to me right now.. lol.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m really good at
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I'm quite good at cooking.. I enjoy cooking for my friends, and family.. I typically cook from the non American variety. I do sometimes make comfort food like pot roast, chicken noodle soup, or meatloaf, but I tend to enjoy foods from other cultures especially Vietnamese, Thai, and Indian. :)

I also have a knack for learning languages. I pick up on them very quickly.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The first thing people notice about me is my face.. I've been told by so many people that I have very expressive eyes, and an expressive face in general. People usually always mention my lips, and how they like my milky porcelain skin. I have very good skin, and it rarely breaks out with acne, and I don't have to use much moisturizer, as my skin is naturally quite soft. I recently cut my hair short, so now people notice, and compliment my hair a lot.. haha. People also notice that I tend to be a bit introverted upon first meeting. I can be very shy at first, and I can like someone a lot, but sometimes it can come off as though I'm not that interested in them, when I really am..

I am an INFJ.. I guess this particular personality trait is the rarest of them all, and only 1% of the population are INFJ. I don't know if I necessarily buy that.. INFJs have been called chameleon's in the past, and who's to say that there aren't a bunch of us mirroring other people to fit in? Perhaps there are more INFJs than I thought. Who knows, maybe that is one of the great mysteries of life.. haha.

I'm not shy, I'm just holding back my awesomeness so I don't intimidate you.. lol.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to cook/bake, watch anime, read manga, corset training, crochet, knit, sew, biking, go hiking, walking, go on picnics, watch movies, listen to music, read books, playing video games, learning, and playing magic the gathering, making new friends. I want to learn table top dungeons and dragons. I would like to find someone who likes call of duty, resident evil, assassin creed, god of war, and fantasy rpgs. I love everything fantasy related. Especially final fantasy! lol


* Cults - 'Were Before', 'Always Forever', & 'You Know What I Mean' - Top 3 fav songs, but I love them all, as cults is one of my favourite bands.
* Camera Obscura
* The Lone Bellow
* Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros
* The Naked and Famous
* White Denim
* Zooey Deschanel
* Eddie Veddar
* The Lumineers
* Lorde
* Icona Pop
* Jenny Lewis
* The Hives
* The Strokes
* Khoma
* Stone Roses
* Nine inch Nails - Hurt FTW
* Depeche Mode
* Ramones
* Misfits
* Jack Off Jill
* Led Zeppelin
* Holly Golightly
* Arcade Fire
* Belle & Sebastien
* The Gentle Waves
* Guster
* Radiohead
* Air
* The Yard Birds
* The White Stripes
* Death Cab for Cutie
* Fleet Foxes
* Emiliana Torrini
* Interpol
* Muse
* Mazzy Star
* My Morning Jacket
* Neil Young
* Peter Bjorn and John
* Stereophonic
* Lana Del Rey
* Pink Floyd
* Wilco
* Creedence Clearwater Revival
* Indochine
* She Wants Revenge
* Broken Bells
* Benny Benassi
* Tool
* Jimi Hendrix
* A Perfect Circle
* The Killers
* Thom Yorke

I definitely like more music than this, but I don't want to list everything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Robot, zombies, and time travel
2. My family
3. My dog
4. Books
5. My iPad mini
6. Ethnic cuisine

I couldn't live without sleep either. i. love. sleeping. a. lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Science, love, life, world of warcraft, trying to save money for a macbook as I don't have a computer right now, and have to use an iPad mini for everything I need to do on the web.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm usually at home, watching tele & films, playing video games, surfing the web, reading, crocheting, DIYing different projects, surfing Pinterest for my next project, creating awesomeness, drawing, learning languages (especially Esperanto, then maybe Italian, or perhaps German), chatting online with people I know I'll never meet in real life.

Once in a while I will go out with a friend, or group of friends, and have a couple drinks..

I want to learn how to paint, and create art. I'm very creative, and artistic, so I think I have a knack for picking up on art very well. I'm a self taught graphic designer, and I've been creating art through the computer for almost 15 years, but digital art, and physical art are two very different things. I just don't really know how to paint very well. Perhaps I will find resources online, and become a self taught painter. Decisions, decisions.. ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The most private thing that I'm willing to admit is that sometimes I talk in my sleep, and I've even been known to sleep walk on very very rare occasions. Most of the time I will just sit up in bed, and talk. I'm an intelligent sleep talker as well. I'm not like a zombie sputtering out nonsense. I can actually have full conversations with people. An ex boyfriend used to like to talk to me in my sleep to ask me weird questions.. I guess I provided amusing entertainment for him.. haha. My parents used to use me when my sister, and I were children to get information about the bad things my sister did. I can't lie when I'm sleep talking, because it's like I took a truth serum, and I speak as though I'm fully aware, and awake most of the time when I am talking in my sleep. It's kind of weird.. lol
You should message me if
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You should message me if you want to meet someone who will love you for who you are, and be thankful, and blessed to have you in my life. I love everyone, but for me to have a romantic connection with someone, there has to be a mutual attraction. It doesn't mean I'm looking a body builder man.. just someone whom I find attractive not only on the outside, but the inside as well. I want to be able to share a connection with someone on a deeper level, and I want to explore another person, and love them for who they are. I would also like someone to love me for who I am. I want someone who ignites a spark inside of me, and someone I can't stop thinking about, and someone who brings the best out of me to be the best version of myself.