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Last online
Oct 1
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), LISP (Poorly), C++ (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I like to read people and I delight in noticing the subtle shifts in behavior and mood that we all undergo. I'm adventuresome and not at all set in my ways. I avoid routine and look and behave much younger than my chronological age. I'm creative and am constantly studying to improve skill in my core pursuit: Music composition (digital engineering and software development pay the bills).

My sense of humor is sharp but due to shyness it won't be spontaneous at first. I am kind (well, almost always), loving, affectionate; I love to hug and touch, I'm respectful, prefer to treat everyone with dignity, and am very understanding (not that everyone comes along to confirm that notion of mine:).

My relationship with technology is more than amicable and I develop my own programs when needed. At home I run Linux, Macintosh, and Microsoft systems.

I need the fine arts, and, with very little provocation, might ramble on and on about this painting or that, this symphony or poem or that Beckett play. I've loved jazz and classical music since childhood and later in life figured out that all the arts speak to me powerfully. So my love for the arts is a part of me I celebrate privately and openly. I cultivate it. I share it. When feeling subjective about myself and the world, I wonder why anyone would not be blown away by the arts.

I don't always go around seeking such exalted heights, wishing to breathe nothing but the rarefied air of humanity's most profound creations. Put me in front of the TV when Monty Python or Fawlty Towers is showing and see tears of laughter rolling down. Want to hear some crudely dumb jokes? Hang out with me for a while. How about a little softball on a warm day? Romantic dinners, yellow-mauve sunsets, fish breaking the pond's water at dawn, the majestic independence of wild animals, the first robins at springtime... (I s'pose those are also "exalted" pursuits too, come to think about it).

I compose and perform music.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Ensuring immortality (mere legacies aren't enough for me). Now, how about a less mundane question, please.

Oh yeah, I also ponder Kramer sometimes, who wrote that postmodern music (1) is not simply a repudiation of modernism or its continuation, but has aspects of both a break and an extension; (2) is, on some level and in some way, ironic; (3) does not respect boundaries between sonorities and procedures of the past and of the present; (4) challenges barriers between 'high' and 'low' styles; (5) shows disdain for the often unquestioned value of structural unity; (6) questions the mutual exclusivity of elitist and populist values; (7) avoids totalizing forms (e.g., does not want entire pieces to be tonal or serial or cast in a prescribed formal mold); (8) considers music not as autonomous but as relevant to cultural, social, and political contexts; (9) includes quotations of or references to music of many traditions and cultures; (10) considers technology not only as a way to preserve and transmit music but also as deeply implicated in the production and essence of music; (11) embraces contradictions; (12) distrusts binary oppositions; (13) includes fragmentations and discontinuities; (14) encompasses pluralism and eclecticism; (15) presents multiple meanings and multiple temporalities; (16) locates meaning and even structure in listeners, more than in scores, performances, or composers.

Doesn't everybody?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at loving and making love (no, I'm not a 'stud' -- but I make love to all of my partner, not just the 'pink parts', and I try to understand her rhythms, in bed and not in bed). I'm good at letting my passions bubble up to consciousness and showing my enthusiasm for whatever stimulus is before me at the moment.

I'm good at a few things that require intellectual focus, including preventing crumbs dropping on the floor at a seafood restaurant and buttoning my coat starting from the bottom, the top, or the middle.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I don't trust myself, despite the blatant narcissism I so justifiably engage in.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
If you've a low tolerance for (perceived) pedantry, you might wanna move on :--)

As mentioned above, I compose, but listening to music is so much more fun than composing it, so I do a lot of listening. I also think about and reflect on listening -- about music I have listened to both recently and not so recently, and music I plan to listen to soon. I've recently learned that I really like Fado, and I may have come to it because Portugal is next to Spain, Portuguese sounds a bit like Spanish, and I have loved Flamenco since my youth. One of the Fado singers I've been listening to is Mariza. Amalia Rodriguez is the Queen. Flamenco and Fado should be a bigger part of my listening repertoire. I always feel more optimistic afterward. But I can't refrain from wallowing in the headwaters of jazz (post-bop, free) and new music ("modern classical" -- my all-time favourite oxymoron). I read some philosophy, poetry, and short stories. I enjoy all cinematic genres, particularly when they're produced somewhere distant from Hollywood, or when the director's name is hard to pronounce. However, some one-syllable American directors are interesting: Lynch comes to mind.

Well alright, let's do some categories...

BOOKS -- I'm not well-grounded when it comes to fiction, or should I say 'novels'. I've read many short stories, and am especially fond of poetry. I read philosophy and have lately attended to a few of the contemporary philosophers in search of my own place in post-modernity, if such a thing truly exists.

MOVIES-- Give me a little more time to answer. I'm all over the place here, but so called "art" films do it, as do certain war flicks (I often go for the compelling archetypal behavior that film makers can portray when people are placed in extreme circumstances, and that, to me, is where the worth of sci-fi and war pics can shine through), film noire, foreign, fantasy... Sexual tension (but not romance or rom-com films) almost always adds richness. Many of the films I enjoy have strong female leads. I usually enjoy films (TV as well) with quirky characters well-acted and directed. I tend to prefer minimal dialogue and revel in great silent acting. One film always comes to mind: "Pan's Labyrinth". Oh my how I love that flick! That's a gorgeous example of fantasy interwoven with real world situations and behavior.

SHOWS -- If that means Broadway, I'll just skip along (alright, one exception: West Side Story). If it means things like the local fringe theater in Chicago, count me in. Too many to recite, but Curious Theater Branch is one of the houses that has given me thrills. O'Reilly, Magnus, et al. To many this means TV (to me as well), and after not even owning a TV for 28 years, in this new golden age of television I've found much to enjoy. I'll just say that a current fave is "The Americans." Oh okay, how about "Penny Dreadful." There must be about fifteen or twenty shows since ca. 2ooo I have followed.

MUSIC -- (haven't we been there?...well, I could go on 'til the cows come home...) Flamenco, Fado, Post-Bop Jazz (with free-jazz an essential to me), some Hard Rock, some Folk, and, notably, most "Classical" (from late-baroque through ink-still-wet post-modern academic wankery). I'm not excessively keen (hey you, no love for an artform can be excessive!!) for the most oft-performed operas, but there are a half-dozen or so operas (one from Wagner, a couple from R.Strauss, Britten, Berlioz, and a few modern things) that pull my chain pretty well. I distinguish between opera and other forms of vocal music that normally employ "classically trained" voices. In that category there are many works I love. Maxwell-Davies' "Into the Labyrinth", Mahler's "Das Lied von der Erde", Strauss "Four Last Songs (oh my Jove, send me to the firmamant!) and Berlioz' "Les nuits d'ete" are examples.

FOODS-- Another OkCupid'er remarked about how incongruous it seems to include food as a category here. Well, given the purist that I am not, I shall, well, scatter a few crumbs: Thai!!!! But then, there's Cajun. Oh, and Indian, Vietnamese, Mandarin, and (fire extinguisher please) Hunan. Ooops, let's not forget...well, you might just say that I enjoy most of the world's cuisine when prepared with care and flair. Ok, Pizza (thin crust and *real* tomato sauce)!

MISC-- I'd like to show up on the geekier keyword searches because connecting with hardcore arts, music, literature, and cinema lovers is tougher than I'd like it to be (apart from finding a potential romantic partner here, it'd be fun to find some conspicuously weird "activity partners"). To that end, I'll characterize my interests as falling into these categories (under 'normal' circumstances I actively seek to avoid categories, he states, ever so self-consciously): avant-garde, modern, post-modern, expressionism, surrealism, abstract art, abstract expressionism, serialism, post-romantic, and late-romantic. The thoughts and writings of people like these get me to thinking about interesting stuff: Susan Sontag, Lyotard, Derrida, Adorno, Hofstader, Curtis Roads, Wittgenstein, Sartre, Nietzsche, T S Eliot, Robert Creeley, Herbert Brun, Larry Austin, and George Flynn. Let's name-drop some composers to maybe trigger a spark of kinship: Schoenberg, Mahler, Beethoven, Boulez, Berio, Maxwell-Davies, Lutoslawski, Ligeti, Penderecki, Carter; ...just a few more: Brahms, Webern, Berlioz, Dhomont, Tutschku, Shostakovitch, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Ake Parmerud, John Butcher, and Xenakis (there are many more, but I had to stop somewhere!!).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A, B, C, D, E, and F.

Actually, the other eighteen are important to me as well, but the first six are enough to remind me how much I depend on all of them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about the fact that Post-Modernism may or may not exist. Lyotard understood modernity as a cultural condition characterized by constant change in the pursuit of progress, and post-modernity to represent the culmination of this process, where constant change has become a status quo and the notion of progress, obsolete. Art was supposed to re-imbue the world with the meaning, which the rise of science and Enlightenment rationality had removed. However, in the postmodern period this task is finally revealed as a futile one. As with post-modern philosophy, post-modern music questioned whether this hierarchy of “high” and “low” culture was correct or appropriate.

Okay, not really. I mean, the above hits me when I'm thinking about whether the music I try to write is "relevant". But most of the time I just feel "art for art's sake". My music must simply sound good to me.

But here's an area I do reflect on a lot, as a sort of day-to-day encounter (not literally) especially since the terrific polarization in our society has reached such stunning levels: I spend a lot of time thinking about what it means to be a member of the human species and the fact that allegiance to the hunk of land one considers oneself a citizen of is secondary.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
That is true.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I began masturbating at age five. I'm better at it now.
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You should message me if you're capable of hiding the pity you'll be near-compelled to pour out upon noticing my mismatched socks (what you're reading now is kid stuff -- the impact of bi-sox-uality can only be felt in person).