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Maethirion

21 / F / Gay / Single

Greenville, North Carolina

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Personality Changes

Feb 27, 2011

Many people view personality as something set in stone, inflexible and unyielding, but studies show that most people show changes in extravertedness, agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, and openness as they age. Depending on the situation, people readily adapt to changing environments and social expectations in order to perform better(open to different interpretations.) Changes in the work place may require workers to adopt more extraverted behaviors in order to establish connections, but in other instances they become less extraverted when social connections can be destructive and maintaining professional un-attachments is better for the self and others. Some social groups may find it more desirable to accept people who are more open politically, religiously, or culturally, while other social groups shy away from this trait. Many times we are forced to change our behaviors in order to move up in life, to improve ourselves. Many times changes in behavior can impact the way we think as well as behave. Most often these changes are impermanent and revert back to "normal", but there are situations in life where changes in behavior and thought patterns correlate with(changed from "results in") permanent changes in one's personality. 

Do you think personality is ingrained, and is established at birth like genetics, or is it always changing and adapting as we are shaped and influenced by our changing environments?
Do you believe that personality changes with behavior, or that behavior alone changes and it is interpreted as changes in personality? 
Are there certain personality traits that are more likely to change than others? 
Is there a certain age where personality is most likely to change? Least likely to change? 
If personality traits change over time, can people proactively work to change their personalities to better fit social requirements, or are personality changes involuntary?

Many people view personality as something set in stone,inflexible and unyielding, but studies show that most people showchanges in extravertedness, agreeableness, conscientiousness,emotional stability, and openness as they age. Depending on thesituation, people readily adapt to changing environments and socialexpectations in order to perform better(open to differentinterpretations.) Changes in the work place may require workers toadopt more extraverted behaviors in order to establish connections,but in other instances they become less extraverted when socialconnections can be destructive and maintaining professionalun-attachments is better for the self and others. Some socialgroups may find it more desirable to accept people who are moreopen politically, religiously, or culturally, while other socialgroups shy away from this trait. Many times we are forced to changeour behaviors in order to move up in life, to improve ourselves.Many times changes in behavior can impact the way we think as wellas behave. Most often these changes are impermanent and revert backto "normal", but there are situations in life where changes inbehavior and thought patterns correlate with(changed from "resultsin") permanent changes in one's personality. 

Do you think personality is ingrained, and is established at birthlike genetics, or is it always changing and adapting as we areshaped and influenced by our changing environments?
Do you believe that personality changes with behavior, or thatbehavior alone changes and it is interpreted as changes inpersonality? 
Are there certain personality traits that are more likely to changethan others? 
Is there a certain age where personality is most likely to change?Least likely to change? 
If personality traits change over time, can people proactively workto change their personalities to better fit social requirements, orare personality changes involuntary?

Personality Changes

Random Musings on Social Institutions and Control

Nov 25, 2009

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to grow up completely sheltered from the world, constantly taught how and what to think, and never given time to question your own existence?  Do you know how suffocating it would be if everything you did, and said, and thought was controlled and dictated by others?  In worlds ruled by liberal democracies like ours we have no experience with this way of life.  From the time of our conception - or at least from birth- we are viewed as free individuals free from social manipulation.  Our future is ours.  We may be influenced by those we encounter in life, but we've never been controlled.  How would you feel if you lived in a world that made it impossible to follow anything but the whims of the elite, religious, political, or otherwise?  Would you gladly paint the world with one color?  Would you knowingly let your life be dictated by this group knowing fully well that you have no control over it, and that your fate was decided for you?  Would you give up the freedom that allows you to control your own life?  What if you were raised under strict control and were suddenly and irrevocably rewarded social freedom?  How would you then, look upon the structures and institutions that molded you?  

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to grow upcompletely sheltered from the world, constantly taught how and whatto think, and never given time to question your own existence? Do you know how suffocating it would be if everything youdid, and said, and thought was controlled and dictated by others? In worlds ruled by liberal democracies like ours we have noexperience with this way of life.  From the time of ourconception - or at least from birth- we are viewed as freeindividuals free from social manipulation.  Our future isours.  We may be influenced by those we encounter in life, butwe've never been controlled.  How would you feel if you livedin a world that made it impossible to follow anything but the whimsof the elite, religious, political, or otherwise?  Would yougladly paint the world with one color?  Would you knowinglylet your life be dictated by this group knowing fully well that youhave no control over it, and that your fate was decided for you? Would you give up the freedom that allows you to control yourown life?  What if you were raised under strict control andwere suddenly and irrevocably rewarded social freedom?  Howwould you then, look upon the structures and institutions thatmolded you?  

Random Musings on Social Institutions and Control

Multi-culturalism and Prejudice

Nov 25, 2009

We tend to believe that the majority of people who hold prejudices against race and nationality tend to live in worlds of isolation.  However, many countries with the highest multi-cultural populations, like India or Nigeria, tend to hold the most prejudices.  I noticed that, even though, Hispanics tend to immigrate to America at high rates, they hold the stubborn belief that they are better than foreigners.  These countries that I mentioned before tend to have the highest rates of class conflict.  Luckily, Places like the USA and the EU exist for Jews, Homosexuals, and people of different race and culture.  What do you guys think of this?

 

P.S. I was studying surveys and mapping from 1998 and 2000 so my information is slightly outdated, but then again, change isn't that drastic when dealing with national statistics. 

We tend to believe that the majority of people who holdprejudices against race and nationality tend to live in worlds ofisolation.  However, many countries with the highestmulti-cultural populations, like India or Nigeria, tend to hold themost prejudices.  I noticed that, even though, Hispanics tendto immigrate to America at high rates, they hold the stubbornbelief that they are better than foreigners.  These countriesthat I mentioned before tend to have the highest rates of classconflict.  Luckily, Places like the USA and the EU exist forJews, Homosexuals, and people of different race and culture. What do you guys think of this?

 

P.S. I was studying surveys and mapping from 1998 and 2000 so myinformation is slightly outdated, but then again, change isn't thatdrastic when dealing with national statistics. 

Multi-culturalism and Prejudice

Quotes on Society

Nov 25, 2009

Never before has man had such a great capacity to control his own environment, to end hunger, poverty and disease, to banish illiteracy and human misery. We have the power to make the best generation of mankind in the history of the world.
President John F. Kennedy

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.
Edmund Burke, British statesman and orator

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.
Margaret Mead

Service to others is the payment you make for your space here on earth.
Mohammed Ali

Everyone can be great because anyone can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't even have to make your subject and your verb agree to serve... You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love...
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The magnitude of our social problems will require that all citizens and institutions make a commitment to volunteering as a way of life and as a primary opportunity to create needed change.
George Romney, former Michigan governor

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and help them become what they are capable of being.
Goethe

Giving kids clothes and food is one thing but it's much more important to teach them that other people besides themselves are important, and that the best thing they can do with their lives is to use them in the service of other people.
Dolores Huerta

Never before has man had such a great capacity to control hisown environment, to end hunger, poverty and disease, to banishilliteracy and human misery. We have the power to make the bestgeneration of mankind in the history of the world.
President John F. Kennedy

The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men todo nothing.
Edmund Burke, British statesman and orator

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizenscan change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that everhas.
Margaret Mead

Service to others is the payment you make for your space here onearth.
Mohammed Ali

Everyone can be great because anyone can serve. You don't have tohave a college degree to serve. You don't even have to make yoursubject and your verb agree to serve... You only need a heart fullof grace. A soul generated by love...
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The magnitude of our social problems will require that all citizensand institutions make a commitment to volunteering as a way of lifeand as a primary opportunity to create needed change.
George Romney, former Michigan governor

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and help thembecome what they are capable of being.
Goethe

Giving kids clothes and food is one thing but it's much moreimportant to teach them that other people besides themselves areimportant, and that the best thing they can do with their lives isto use them in the service of other people.
Dolores Huerta

Quotes on Society

Random musings on the Character of Man.

Nov 25, 2009

Man is a social creature. Many centuries have reared philosophers who questioned the importance of society. Mankind has always possessed a love-hate relationship with the community. While we long to be free, our own individual, we must seek solace in the company of others in order to feel successful in life. Society provides standards for us to live by. It gives all of us a reason to live. That same society, however, is also a source of oppression and corruption. Thoreau argued that society corrupts the individual, while Hobbes argues that society is the only institution that can regulate man. This only proves that one must look both inside himself as well as outside of himself, at society, to truly understand the world and create a life for himself.
"There can be pleasure as well as pain in the solitary life. But if we live only within ourselves, we are less than fully human because humans are made for society with each other. But, again, life in society, like life alone, can be as painful as it can be filled with pleasure." - Charles Lemert

Man is a social creature. Many centuries have rearedphilosophers who questioned the importance of society. Mankind hasalways possessed a love-hate relationship with the community. Whilewe long to be free, our own individual, we must seek solace in thecompany of others in order to feel successful in life. Societyprovides standards for us to live by. It gives all of us a reasonto live. That same society, however, is also a source of oppressionand corruption. Thoreau argued that society corrupts theindividual, while Hobbes argues that society is the onlyinstitution that can regulate man. This only proves that one mustlook both inside himself as well as outside of himself, at society,to truly understand the world and create a life for himself.
"There can be pleasure as well as pain in the solitary life. But ifwe live only within ourselves, we are less than fully human becausehumans are made for society with each other. But, again, life insociety, like life alone, can be as painful as it can be filledwith pleasure." - Charles Lemert

Random musings on the Character of Man.