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42 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 5
Hispanic / Latin
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Portuguese (Poorly), Catalan (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Me gusta: pomegranates, rock en español, revolutionary politics, good poetry, dancing merengue, fútbol, growing my own food, cooking you a fine meal with the food I grow...
What I’m doing with my life
Uncovering a life of love & intimacy beyond the standard "there is just one way to do it" narrative. Steeped in humor, curiosity, adventure, communication, and piquancy...

I am in an open, solid, committed relationship with SpringGemini. And each of us enjoys exploring excitement, deep connection & thrills with others as well. Can be short & sweet...can be long-term & intense. Simply as long as it isn't shallow...
I’m really good at
Making people feel at ease
The first things people usually notice about me
The accent, twinkle in my eye, quick wit, street smarts...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: • The Inhabited Woman • Midnight's Children • Lacuna • everything by Michael Ondaatje

Poets: • Mary Oliver • Gioconda Belli • Hafiz • June Jordan • Mario Benedetti • Pablo Neruda • Rainer Maria Rilke

Music on my current heavy rotation list: • Zoé • Jorge Drexler • Thievery Corporation • Ella Fitzgerald & Louis Armstrong • The Cure (my personal 'Best of' mix is pretty hot...) • Gustavo Cerati • Bebe • Stacey Kent • Juan Luis Guerra • Supervielle • Willie Colón

Movies / TV: • Nueve Reinas • Usual Suspects • Y Tu Mamá También • Children of Men • El Hijo de la Novia • Game of Thrones • The Wire • Breaking Bad • Pan's Labyrinth • Run Lola Run

Food I'd bring on a hike with you:
Olives (anchovy flavored)
Manchego Cheese
Fine Bread
A splash of olive oil
Stone Fruit
Heirloom Tomatoes
Muscat Wine
Almonds covered in Dark Chocolate
The six things I could never do without
• a guitar...
• people to make music with...
• building community, connection & relationships thru food, cooking, eating...
• inspiring comrades - folks building beautiful alternatives to this crazy conflictual societal construct called capitalism...
• the two divine & deliciously delightful little human beings who chose to be my kids...
• the knowledge that we can always be better than the worse thing we do...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
• making music
• making out
• making vegetable gardens / orchards thrive
• making others laugh
• making a world that transcends hierarchy, patriarchy, white supremacy, heterosexism & our fossil fool economy
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–48
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You wanna dine, delve into deep thoughts, dance, discover dreamy possibilities...

(...and don't mind discussing the interesting navigational nuances of non-monogamous relationships...)