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52 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Dutch (Okay)

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My self-summary
Now hold on a second.

Have you ever heard of synchronicity? Do you understand it? Do you buy it?

I do. One moment ago, we didn't know the other existed, and now we do. We'll never be the same again!

I am a curious, open-minded, open-eyed person who engages sincerely with everyone I meet, regardless of whether it's totally random, or if we're working together, or if our children are going to the same school, or if we've known each other since preschool. Every day I meet someone new. Every day. I strive to know everyone I meet, and for them to know me, because I don't believe we met by accident, and I want to know why we've met.

If you ask any friend of mine to describe me, you will probably hear words like, crazy, fun, smart, witty, irreverent, strong-willed, hedonistic, passionate, intense, opinionated, persistent, impulsive, direct, flirtatious. I don't do anything halfway. I'm all in, or not in.

Ideally, you've just read the above and get it. I love women, everything about them, and have no checklist of desired traits. I cannot "order" my ideal woman by checking the right boxes and "adding you to my shopping cart." So... all I ask is that you are a woman, you consider yourself desirable, can enjoy a good laugh, and can handle a sincere compliment. Anything further is out of our control at this point.
What I’m doing with my life
Recent realizations have finally coalesced, and I've now moved from "waiting" to "doing." I have several "careers". I am a professional musician by night, and a father and forensic psychological transcriptionist by day. I have always wanted to be a portrait photographer, and I am now pursuing this with new, intense vigor. I would love to find a soulmate, but making that my starting point seems to preclude too many beautiful women with whom I could engage joyfully in any number of activities. Also, a soulmate search includes too many universal mysteries...thinking I can dictate the journey is simply laughable!

I just got back from Jamaica. I didn't stay in a resort. I visited friends in the Peace Corps and lived with the people, who struggle, love, make music, and truly connect. I spent a day at an elementary school with 40 1st and 2nd graders. I taught them secret handshakes and read them The Lorax. I will never forget the experience of Jamaica. It isn't Sandals, if you know what I mean.

I learned from Jamaica to stop worrying about what people think of me. I'm going to tell you what I think, and boldly follow my desires.
I’m really good at
Spotting bullshit.
The first things people usually notice about me
Many random passers-by have been surprised by my spontaneous conversation with them. I also hand out compliments to complete strangers, often receiving a blush and a smile. Like I said, I've stopped worrying about what others think of me. This activity makes me happy, and I think it makes others happy too.

You'll notice that I have an irreverent sense of humor. If I think you're beautiful I just tell you. I'm often dressed in a tux. If you're smiling, I will tell you it makes me feel good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Brothers Karamazov (literally changed the way I saw life at the time I read it in my late 20s)
Everything Alexandre Dumas ever wrote
Snowcrash and Diamond Age (Neal Stephenson)
Song of Ice & Fire (George RR Martin)
Anything from Orson Scott Card (so he's a bit torn between the teachings of his faith and his own personal beliefs...maybe that's why he's such a wonderful writer)
Jitterbug Perfume (Tom Robbins)

Movies (I generally love movies. These are films I'll see over and over):
A Hard Day's Night
The Godfather I & II
Most Disney Animated Features, but especially Finding Nemo
Band of Brothers
Monty Python's Life of Brian
Blazing Saddles
The Princess Bride

I play shows for a living, but I still enjoy them. My all-time favorites:
Sweeney Todd
Guys & Dolls
Beauty & the Beast
The Who's Tommy
Jesus Christ Superstar
The Producers
Les Miserables

Everything, especially:
Classic Rock & Roll
Tango (new tango, i.e., Astor Piazzolla)
Talking Heads
Peter Gabriel

Literally anything from any ethnicity
The six things I could never do without
My daughter
The Cascades
The sight and feel of a woman's skin
Direct eye contact
My mathematical cognitive skills that tell me there are six items on this list
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an open book... or a book waiting to be opened. I've nothing to hide... just not here, you know what I mean?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You are here to find a man, you're ready to go, and you can listen to your heart as opposed to fighting against it. I'm very intimate with my mind and desires, and therefore trust my impulses. I will tell you how I feel about you, good or not so good. Be prepared for that!

Be who you say you are. It's understood that we are all presenting ourselves in the most positive way on this site. But, for example, if you say you're thin, please be thin. It's not that I am looking for a thin person; I'm looking for a person who presents herself honestly.

Please live in or near Seattle. Like within 10 or 15 miles. I'm not interested in pen pals or long-distance flirtations. Please don't clutter up my inbox with solicitations from a long distance. Look around you...your man is more likely to be living around your own corner!

I'm not expecting forever at first contact. I'll settle for just today. In a nutshell, I'm looking for a playmate today; if tomorrow we turn out to be soulmates as well, we'll both know it, right?