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Making_It_So

52 / M / Straight / Single

Deerfield Beach, Florida

His Details

Last Online
Aug 5, 2011
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Taurus but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Urdu (Poorly), Cebuano (Poorly), Ancient Greek, Occitan (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Pressure, pressure! Just received a US map showing states with the most "matches" to my own - SHEESH... California & the upper NE are the only places I'm not surrounded by "enemies!" Almost no one less than a 10% enemy in the entire state of Florida! As Pooh-bear is fond of saying, "Oh, Bother!" Wherever you are, you are a rare bird indeed! I'm ready to relocate if there's a reason to.

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I am gregarious, hermit-ish, and humanitarian.

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What I’m doing with my life
Oh the Irony! A lifetime of raising my nose at the "soft" sciences... now the main focus of my work is evolutionary psychology & sociology, with a special interest in how to prevent child abuse and its effects. It just doesn't feel right solving the mysteries of the universe while so many children are suffering. Solving the mysteries of longevity doesn't sound nearly so swift as long as the planet is populated by so many persons whose daily lives and decisions are based predominately on the emotion of fear instead of belonging & love.

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I’m really good at
Avoiding this type of question. A Short Biography (ha!) that also describes my current research can be found at the following website (once you get there, scan down till you find my picture & info)>

https://www.innocentive.com/servlets/project/ProjectInfo.po?s=AW

Ever hear of Innocentive? If you fancy yourself a creative/analytical type, or are interested in large-scale collaboration efforts you might want to check it out if you've a mind (to); it's at innocentive.com

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The first things people usually notice about me
Well... hopefully, that I'm the opposite of what I've emphasized here... which gives the impression I'm looking for a Nobel Laureate over someone with a good heart and loving soul.

For example; I haven't said a thing about wanting to find someone to spend my life with, or waxed poetic about what our life could be like, or tried to be enticing with elaborate displays of beguiling sensitivity, wit & humor... but this isn't a "real" profile yet, I'm just diddling right now. I'm stressing the "right-brain" stuff because it's a strength of mine and I'd like someone to share it with. I have a very lovable "left brain." so I'm told, (perhaps not in those precise words...) and have been fortunate enough to have met many wonderful women that appreciated that part of me, but none ever really got on-board with the whole hyper-creative imagine new realities, explore everything, right-brain aspect of my character - One or two I should have married but didn't because of my youth/stupidity (sigh!), or our combined youth/stupidity.

I've done many different things, but getting to teach kids in grade school & H.S. was the best - and KINDERGARTEN; Don't even get me started, Awesome! If I had a dang-nabbed womb, I'd be popp'n 'em out all over the place. Ever checked out the aisle with the W's at the supermarket? Don't bother - nuthin!

Despite the techno-nerdiness, I'm quite well rounded. Never married, no children, friends with my ex'es. I'm a DGSD... deliberate gentle slow dancer according to one of the myriad tests here. So, if you are artsy-fartsy, the fartsier the better - a plus if you can tolerate Battlestar Gallactica (newer), Star Wars, ST Next Gen., etcetera.

If you're an accomplished author, or are into social work, feeding the poor, or changing planetary consciousness kinds of things, you get a "get out of jail free" card in regard my hope for someone who can solve differential equations and do proofs better than I can.

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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love all music (really). All books (really). All food (sigh!).

The BEST ROMANCE EVER: "The Fountain" by the guys who also did "Pi."

Matrix(s). Dune. Star Wars(s). The new Gallactica(s). Next Generation(s).

The usual list, not all SF.

Like movies with heart, not a fan of gore. Prefer tears to gross-outs, emotional wringers to gut wrenchers.

I love the scene in "Bladerunner" where he let's go of the dove.

Also: the scene in "Mary Poppins" with the song "Feed the Birds." It's 17th century and old Walt insisted on its inclusion. High art.

Am dying to really dive into Second Life, but haven't made the time.

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The six things I could never do without
knowledge
spirit

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I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately, this artificial agent simulation software called Netlogo... if you are female and can program in it, I'll gladly marry you, or be your slave... your choice... if only you'll write code for me! Unless you're also accomplished in higher mathematics... or are an accomplished author or editor... in which case I'll gladly both marry you AND be your slave. Just kidding (I think).

In addition, if you're not an author, editor, programming guru, research scientist, or math whiz, but can see the same wonderful future for humanity that I do, then that would also be sufficient. So if you're a scientist-type, artist-type, or an environmental, animal rights, child or women's rights activist-type; I've never had a genuine partner in crime, as far as "saving the world" goes. My research is very important to me, I'd like it to be to you too. Then it becomes our work.

Regardless of whether what you bring to the effort is technical know-how, or heart know-how, either would be appreciated equally. If you're all about leaving the world a better place than you found it, and leaving your mark, direct a few electrons my way. If this seems weird, or you're curious about my research, well... check out the bio link provided earlier, you'll see why I feel it's important (or maybe you won't).

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On a typical Friday night I am
Dutifully Working: writing, learning programming, researching, reading, evolving.

When I wrote this profile, for example, I really, really should have been working on http://www.grandchallenges.org/Explorations/Pages/TopicsOverview.aspx since the deadline was looming... instead I procrastinated... on the other hand... I'd been procrastinating about getting onto one of these sites... so... now I'm confused... but I'm here now!

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The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Shhhh... When I go jogging, I jog on the curb... and pretend that there are sharks/lava on either side of it (I prefer stand-alone curbs that fall off to both sides, but they're very hard to find). A good run is to not die by lava or get eaten by a shark. If you've never tried it... you should... you'll never go back to boring-old "regular" jogging. Negotiating around the occasional mail-box & telephone pole without slowing down makes it like a video game... and leapable gaps and/or low bushes combined with the need to land on the curb are like hitting the jackpot when I make it out alive. But I digress... sorry.

Back to business: My biological clock is ticking... Clock is too demure a word, my Big Ben is Gonging is more accurate. Wow! Either there's no spellchecker, or "gonging" is really a word... Aha! spellchecker IS working, because the word "spellchecker" is underlined in an angry red squiggle; spell-checker. Gonging?!

I don't mean to be so abrupt with the whole "gonging-wanting-children" thing - but I really don't want to be chasing twenty-somethings, and I know there aren't many women left near my own age that are still wanting children. It's not just me though, it's my puppy too; He's a Golden Retriever, and he REALLY, REALLY wants more people around here, of any age or size, as long as they can throw, or at least scoot, a ball. He's sticking his big nose in, reminding me, right now in fact, so any typos, they're his fault too.

Anyone already has children, great! To be fully honest, I'm still kinda-sorta hoping for one of my own though, although adoption would be OK too (sigh!). Like in the Pink Floyd song... I didn't appreciate how fast TIME sneaks up on one.

Already had kids, not interested in kids, but still find something in what I've written where you'd still like to connect on some level? Well, nothing's ever written in stone, so if your inner muse seems to be insisting, maybe my inner muse will override everything I've just written once it meets yours. And besides, there's still also friendship, tennis, chess, intellectual commonalities... lots to share & explore, if there's enough of a common interest in doing so.

I've made this profile fairly "scary" in regard emplacement of numerous red-flags to warn-off huge segments of the population - my email-box isn't going to be overflowing, I'll have time to respond to those interested enough in contacting me & I'll respond to anyone that does.

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I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30-55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You don't believe anger or violence ever solves anything in the long run, except in the rarest & most extreme of circumstances, in which case it's more properly called compassionate anger & righteous outrage - which is completely different from generic anger/violence.

You're an Optimist. Artist. Poetess. Writer. Scientist. Lover of Life & Living things. Fan of the Wizard of Oz.

You'll still be giggling when you... get older.

You never have enough bookshelves.

You dream of a human connection, eye to eye, heart to heart, mind to mind, that makes you want to purrrrrr, and makes you're toes curl (sigh!).

PASSION is appropriate when confronted with a woman cradling a starving child, or a mighty Sequoia about to be made into toothpicks. Are known to be temperamental? Passion is ill-directed when you find yourself frequently yelling, screaming, shouting, hitting, hanging-up on people in mid-conversation. If you have a temper - if you are "hot-blooded," I know this doesn't mean you're not a wonderful, deep, caring person... it's just that... well... even if I turned out to be a great guy for you, there's probably still someone out there you'd be an even better match for, other than me. Well, that probably wasn't entirely true; Since I'm reasonably even-keeled, mellow, understanding, & forgiving (Geesh, positive traits in men sound so b-o-r-i-n-g!), I'm ideally suited to "temperamental" types, in the sense of being able to "connect," even through "baggage." Nonetheless, if this describes you, right now, it's not what I'm looking for. GUILT! Now I feel terribly selfish for having just said that, Aaargh!

Still... being empathetic & understanding enough to see past the drama of the moment, to see through to the person inside, doesn't make it any easier emotionally, and I wouldn't feel the need to be exclusionarily selfish in this way if it weren't for the need to finish what I'm currently working on. Phew! That was brutally frank! Now that I'm working on the "bigger" picture, and feel there's a chance of my being able to be a part of a "bigger" solution... I feel obligated to give this "selfishness" thing a try - and limit myself to those without special emotional needs. So... kind, sweet, un-damaged woman, if you're out there... DARN! Guilt again... just typing the words feels wrong, it actually HURTS! (Sigh!) It feels wrong to not be available when someone's in need... but sometimes... it's necessary... so full-time sweeties only, please (guilt!).

I'm also interested in meeting interesting people for tennis, scuba, all that. Recently relocated back here.

I'm chivalrous in the old-fashioned sense of liking to take the lead, where appropriate - however I'm going to play this "cupid" effort a bit differently - I WON'T BE CONTACTING ANYONE FIRST. It's a strategy, and let's face it, your mail-box is likely already nigh to overflowing as it is. Looks don't matter, heck, look at me! I only mention looks at all because in addition to having been fortunate to have dated some wonderfully big-hearted & intelligent women, I also seem to be a bombshell-magnet (based on my last few relationships), which makes no sense whatsoever; as I said, I'm no bargain in the looks department. There are lots of guys that are better looking and smarter than myself, but I'm pretty much anyone's equal in the creativity and caring (heart) departments.

I chose my work, over my personal life, frankly... but only because of the passion I have for leaving the world a better place. I'd like to find someone that's on-board with that. So... looks don't matter; heart & brains do. A womb would be nice, as I mentioned earlier... but... heck, check out how old (in years) I've gotten. Eew!

YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO WRITE ME: AND NO CHEATING WITH THE WINKING & SAVING, SORRY ~ I apologize for not "playing the game" like everyone else (big surprise!) but you're going to have to be the one to click your red-Ruby shoes together first in order to make anything happen. My job is to have the balloon ready and full of hot air when, and if, you do; I have more hot air in me than I know what to do with. ;)

I promise I'll respond (within a day or two or three or four; I get carried away & end up working through the night occasionally).

So... please... click those Ruby-red heels together (really; I'm not going to be clicking my heels, you're going to have to if we are ever to "connect" in any fashion whatsoever). Just one click should be enough - if you think life is WAY too short, as do I, and that a more natural human lifetime should be in the multiple thousands of years... which it will be... eventually... and which WE will likely not get to partake in... but that our children probably will... little stinkers!

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