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44 Columbia, MO Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:00am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm going to put this right out on front street: I've been married for 20 years and our relationship model is non-monogamous / polyamorous. If you can't see yourself in a relationship with someone that has an anchor relationship, or multiple relationships, you'll probably want to stop reading here. Have a great day and good luck in life and love!

If you've continued to read, thank you for having an open mind. This type of relationship is not easy for most people. It takes effort and a high degree of self-awareness and emotional function. If you're not scared away, read on for more about me...

What I'm looking for is very flexible. I'm open to everything from friendship, casual, long term and everything in between. I really want to connect with a person in whatever relationship model that might transpire. I don't have any expectations other than this: no drama. My marriage is solid and is not going anywhere. I will encourage you to talk with my wife so that you know I am not misrepresenting myself. If you are fine with a relationship that might be some daily contact via electronic means, coupled with one or two in-person dates or visits a week, let's chat.

I value intelligence above just about anything else, with a sense of humor as a VERY close second. I love to laugh and make jokes. I can take a joke at my expense and can dish it out as well. I think one of the highest forms of intelligence is to be able to laugh, poke fun, be sometimes sarcastic, and know that we all love each other despite the ribbing.

I love music. I listen to nearly every style of music there is and am a bit geeky about my knowledge of music history, musicians, producers and such.

I read a great deal, including novels, graphic novels, short stories, non-fiction, etc. I love science / speculative fiction in all of it's variants, but read a wide variety. I am chronically, intellectually curious. I want to know everything about everything, which is nearly impossible and really a detriment to my sleep.

Lastly, I have a somewhat public profession, so I must be discreet in my local habitat about the non-monogamous lifestyle I've chosen. This doesn't mean I need to sneak around or obfuscate, but I won't be able to post full-on pictures or my real name on this site. If we get to know each other, I'll share both.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to change the world.

Trying to change myself: In March I began working out and now rarely miss a day. I've lost 25 pounds since then and would say I have a better than average body for a 44 year old male. I have more energy, stamina, acuity, sex drive, than perhaps at any point in my life. I've eliminated refined sugars from my diet except for one cheat day a week. This has made a HUGE difference. Check out this video
more information.

I've also begun to really put in the work on my own headspace. I am more self aware and am learning better communication skills than I've ever had before. I'm generally very happy and open to sharing my happiness with others. I want to laugh and make you laugh...and then maybe make you breakfast.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a great listener and problem solver. Once I get to know a person, I can really be a good friend. I'm a good communicator and I'm good with people. I'm compassionate and empathetic. If I know you well enough, I can interpret the hell out of your dreams, not that there is any science to it.

While I'm not an IT professional, I keep up on as much tech as I can. If I don't know how to do something with a computer or device, I know how to figure it out. That said, I pretty much hate printers.

I'm a nerd when it comes to learning everything I can about sexuality and in turn, my partner. I read everything I can on the "topic." I pay attention to what my partner is doing, how they react, how they breathe, the sounds they make. I aim to please, but know what I want as well. I am GGG (Good, Giving and Game), and will communicate in a sex-positive way if I'm not down with something. That said, you'll have to work very hard if you want to shock me. I like to talk about sex and desire with my partners. I want to know what turns them on and I want to fulfill their fantasies.

Sadly, I'm not good at making Malt-O-Meal, I always have effing lumps in it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Sirens of Titan, The Windup Girl, To Kill A Mockingbird, The Road, Their Eyes Were Watching God, Beloved, Lamb, Sex At Dawn, The Ethical Slut, The Age of Spiritual Machines, Game of Thrones, Jitterbug Perfume, Still Life with Woodpecker, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, The Martian Chronicles, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind, Harold and Maude, Being There, Treasure of the Sierra Madre, The Big Sleep, Raising Arizona, Bad Santa, The Big Lebowski, Obvious Child, Chasing Amy, Dogma, Blade Runner, Brazil, The Fisher King, Raise the Red Lantern, The Illusionist (animated), Up!, Wall-E, The Incredibles, Shawn of the Dead, 12 Monkeys...

Shows: I don't watch anything live, but to binge: Firefly, Louie, Doctor Who, Sherlock, Jeckyl, Misfits, Battlestar Galactica, Six Feet Under, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Game of Thrones, Maron, Louie

Music: Spoon, James Blake, Bon Iver, Beyoncé, Brandy Clark, Hozier, Agnes Obel, Dave Brubeck, John Coltrane, Ray LaMontagne, Cowboy Junkies, The War on Drugs, The Black Keys, Bobby Blue Bland, Otis Redding, Etta James, Nina Simone, Van Morrison, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, Jeff Buckley, Spoon, Royksopp & Robyn, Wilco, Uncle Tupelo, Pixies, Radiohead, the Cure, The Clash, The Police, Missy Elliot, Kid Cudi, Stacey Kent, and so many more...

Comedy: I love stand up and have daydreamed about trying it since I was very young listening to George Carlin ecords. Just a few of my favorites include, Eddie Izzard, Louis CK, Wanda Sykes, Marc Maron, Mike Berbiglia, Chris Rock, Bill Hicks, Bill Burr, Janeane Garofalo, Russell Brand, Noel Fielding, Patton Oswalt.

Food: I'm an adventurous eater and am known to try the strangest thing on the menu. I also tend to identify the BEST thing on the menu rather quickly as well. I can't count the times that the person I'm dining with tried a bit of my meal and said, "I wish I'd ordered that!" I love Indian, Mexican, Thai, barbecue, salad, and well-made healthy foods of any variety. I love all the breakfast foods including eggs, bacon, sausage, french toast, cinnamon rolls, huevos rancheros, and on and on. And coffee, oh coffee my dark mistress, how I love thee. Tea is good too, especially hot with a touch of honey and lemon, or iced and unsweetened.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Family & Friends
The outdoors
Books / My local library
My iPhone/iPad
Podcasts, I listen to several
Not being limited by the number 6
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Space travel, the future, politics, art, music, personal growth, words, weird stuff. Really weird stuff. Think of the weirdest thing you can think of. Got it? I'm thinking of something 10x weirder than that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching a movie or comedy routine on Netflix, reading or hanging out with friends. Playing games, listening to music. I will usually have a drink made from Bombay Sapphire or Hendricks Gin.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. have a big vocabulary and know how to use it or I haven't scared you away with all of the above. Even if you're a little trepidatious, let's chat. I can probably assuage your fears or even just answer your questions. I'm very open minded and even if I'm "not for you," I'm happy to know you.

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