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  • Ages 21–39
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Last online
Yesterday – 4:38pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Korean (Okay)
My self-summary
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I'm originally from Western Massachusetts, which is wicked awesome, but I've been galumphing across the globe for about a decade. I think my friends would describe me as funny, deep and compassionate. I think of myself as driven.

I just moved to Buffalo in November, because I saw how much snow you had and I decided I wanted to be able to walk into my house through the second story window. My DC, Maryland and Virginia friends were like, No, you can't go there! You'll DIIIIE!!!

I came here to pursue two jobs, one as an English teacher, and the other as a political writer, to enjoy rent a third of the cost of that in DC, and to be closer to my sister and her family.

I lived in DC for a few years, where I taught English to students from all over the world. Before that, I spent my mid-20s teaching in Korea and traveling in Asia. I went to graduate school in Brussels, Belgium and studied international conflict analysis. In grad school, I wrote a lot about East-West relations. I'm basically Marco Polo.

One of my goals in life is to play Tom Petty's "You Don't Have to Live Like a Refugee" over loudspeakers at an actual refugee camp. I think that would solve a lot of problems.

I know how to dish out PUNishment.

I'm a Myers-Briggs INTP, and an Enneagram 5w4.
What I’m doing with my life
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Televising the revolution.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Public speaking. Hey, is this thing even on?

Running a classroom.

Listening. I apparently encourage people to tell me things they've never told anyone else without even trying.

Cooking. I'm getting good at baking fish at the moment. I make a very good Thai curry.

Giving tarot readings. I have three different decks. I'm a very rational person, but Tarot is really cool.

Brainstorming and creative writing.

Listening to people talk about their problems, empathizing, and helping them identify the salient issues and come up with ways to deal with them.

Portmanteaus. You might think they're awkward words. I think they're awkwords.

Hiking, camping, starting campfires, pitching tents, cooking. I was a boy scout.

Editing. I can't really explain how uncanny my talent for editing is. I can make mediocre, confusing writing flawless and sparkly very quickly.

Accents and impersonations, especially making fun of annoying people.

Quoting standup comedians.

Being really disturbing in Cards Against Humanity.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My infectious laugh.

Hur Hur Hur!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like a lot of different fiction, nonfiction and poetry.
Fiction: 1984 and The Pillars of the Earth are my two favorite novels, and I think this says a lot about me. ALso: Slaughterhouse Five, The Lord of the Rings, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, The Eye of the Needle, Ragtime, The March, Game of Thrones, Catch 22, The Life of Pi, Catcher in the Rye, Invisible Man, The Things They Carried, To Kill a Mockingbird, Sphere; short stories by Hemingway, John Updike, Alice Munro. I'm currently trying to get through Shogun.

Nonfiction: A Short History of Nearly Everything, Aftershock, The Rise and Fall of the Great Powers, Retribution, Diplomacy, The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of War, The Prince, The Fate of America, Guns, Germs and Steel, The One Percent Doctrine, The Imjin War, Korea Unmasked, The Autobiography of Malcolm X; and I keep up with ThinkProgress and The Economist.

Books of Poetry by: Elizabeth Bishop, Robert Lowell, T. S. Eliot, e. e. cummings, Wallace Stevens, Robert Creeley, Mary Oliver, Seamus Heaney

Movies: Anything by Wes Anderson. Fight Club, Garden State, The Royal Tenenbaums, Godfather I & II, Save the Tiger, A Thin Red Line, Ghostbusters, Jurassic Park, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, American Beauty, Inception, Memento, The Last Detail, True Grit, The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly, Apocalypse Now, Argo, Lincoln, Gravity, 12 Years a Slave, American Hustle

Shows: Broad City, Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, The Cosmos! Peep Show, Modern Family, House of Cards, The White Queen, Colbert Report, The Daily Show, The Office, The Wire, The Tudors, Rome, Nature documentaries about ancient megafauna

Music: My musical tastes are super eclectic. My go-to Pandora stations are usually: Led Zeppelin, Radiohead, Notorious BIG, Mozart, Rage Against the Machine

Food: Korean, Thai, Chinese, Italian, Indian, Moroccan, seafood.

Drinks: I've always been a beer connoisseur, but after a year in Belgium, I'm probably a full blown snob. I'm particularly into Porters and Belgian Trappiste ales, but I'm always up to try something new. I also enjoy a few different wines occasionally. Pinot Noir is my favorite.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Late summer sunsets, breathing in fresh cut grass, curling up in cold spots on the mattress, forests' restless rustling, the silky taste of ice cream, the exotically normal faces in a foreign country...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
(And writing about) Other people's perceptions. And how/why people perceive things differently. Politics, especially international politics. History. Especially how people from the past would perceive the present. My novel, or whatever creative project I happen to be working on. Why OkCupid insists on describing people who identify as being very progressive as "less progressive." Catch-22s, paradoxes and hypocrisies. Satire. My friends and their views. My future, and what I want out of life. Power. Propaganda. Whether America is more democratic or plutocratic. How to formulate my argument. How to describe 'it'. Places I've traveled to, the people I've met and the crazy adventures I've had. Places I want to travel to. Space. How to end racism, sexism, homophobia and blaming the poor. The best ways to teach my students. Famous quotes, like: "History doesn't repeat itself, but it does rhyme."--Mark Twain. How absurd it all is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wondering what's happening in Buffalo...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I published a book of poems in college, which won an award.
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