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31 M Silver Spring, MD

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:47am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Korean (Okay)

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My self-summary
I've been living in DC for a few years now. I spent my mid-20s teaching in Korea and traveling in Asia. I went to graduate school in Brussels, Belgium and studied international conflict analysis. In grad school, I wrote a lot about East-West relations. I'm basically Marco Polo.

I teach English as a second language at a private institute in DC, mostly to highly advanced students. My job is intriguing, because I get to meet people from all over the world every day and mediate international conflicts over whether Mexican or Korean food is the spiciest, and whether Thailand or Saudi Arabia has the best king.

I'm also a writer, editor and activist. I write and edit for a couple websites, mostly about social and economic justice and international relations. This is my real passion, and I'm in the process of launching a creative self-employed career. I am beginning to succeed, am determined to succeed and will succeed. I'm passionate about fighting for what I believe in, but I'm pretty laidback in my social life, and know when it's appropriate to separate the two.

I'm fascinated by history and I'm always reading up on past people, places, events. I can't even really say when/where are my favorites. But my interest in history often goes hand-in-hand with my travels and with current events.

One of my goals in life is to play Tom Petty's "You Don't Have to Live Like a Refugee" over loudspeakers at an actual refugee camp. I think that would solve a lot of problems.

I know how to dish out PUNishment.

I'm a Myers-Briggs INTP, and an Enneagram 5w4.
What I’m doing with my life
Watching the World Cup.

Brewing beer. For real. I'm working on a chocolate porter at the moment.
I’m really good at
Public speaking.

Running a classroom.

Listening. I apparently encourage people to tell me things they've never told anyone else without even trying.

Cooking. I'm getting good at baking fish at the moment.

Giving tarot readings. I have three different decks. I'm a very rational person, but Tarot is really cool.

Brainstorming and creative writing.

Listening to people talk about their problems, empathizing, and helping them identify the salient issues and come up with ways to deal with them.


Hiking, camping, starting campfires, pitching tents, cooking. I was a boy scout.

Editing. I can't really explain how uncanny my talent for editing is. I can make mediocre, confusing writing flawless and sparkly very quickly.

Accents and impersonations, especially making fun of annoying people.

Quoting standup comedians.

Being really disturbing in Cards Against Humanity.
The first things people usually notice about me
My infectious laugh.

Hur Hur Hur!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a lot of different fiction, nonfiction and poetry.
Fiction: 1984 and The Pillars of the Earth are my two favorite novels, and I think this says a lot about me. ALso: Slaughterhouse Five, The Lord of the Rings, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, The Eye of the Needle, Ragtime, The March, Game of Thrones, Catch 22, The Life of Pi, Catcher in the Rye, Invisible Man, The Things They Carried, Sphere; short stories by Hemingway, John Updike, Alice Munro

Nonfiction: Aftershock, The Rise and Fall of the Great Powers, Retribution, Diplomacy, The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of War, The Prince, The Fate of America, Guns, Germs and Steel, The One Percent Doctrine, The Imjin War, Korea Unmasked

Books of Poetry by: Elizabeth Bishop, Robert Lowell, T. S. Eliot, e. e. cummings, Wallace Stevens, Robert Creeley, Mary Oliver, Seamus Heaney

Movies: Anything by Wes Anderson. Fight Club, Garden State, The Royal Tenenbaums, Godfather I & II, Save the Tiger, A Thin Red Line, Ghostbusters, Jurassic Park, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, American Beauty, Inception, Memento, The Last Detail, True Grit, The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly, Apocalypse Now, Argo, Lincoln, Gravity, 12 Years a Slave, American Hustle

Shows: Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, The Cosmos! Peep Show, Modern Family, House of Cards, The White Queen, Colbert Report, The Daily Show, The Office, The Wire, The Tudors, Rome, Nature documentaries about ancient megafauna

Music: My musical tastes are super eclectic. My go-to Pandora stations are usually: Led Zeppelin, Radiohead, Notorious BIG

Food: Korean, Thai, Chinese, Italian, Indian, Moroccan, seafood.

Drinks: I've always been a beer connoisseur, but after a year in Belgium, I'm probably a full blown snob. I'm particularly into Porters and Belgian Trappiste ales, but I'm always up to try something new. I also enjoy a few different wines occasionally. Pinot Noir is my favorite.
The six things I could never do without
Late summer sunsets, breathing in fresh cut grass, curling up in cold spots on the mattress, forests' restless rustling, the silky taste of ice cream, the exotically normal faces in a foreign country...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
(And writing about) Other people's perceptions. And how/why people perceive things differently. Politics, especially international politics. History. Especially how people from the past would perceive the present. My novel, or whatever creative project I happen to be working on. Why OkCupid insists on describing people who identify as being very progress as "less progressive." Catch-22s, paradoxes and hypocrisies. Satire. My friends and their views. My future, and what I want out of life. Power. Propaganda. Whether America is more democratic or plutocratic. How to formulate my argument. How to describe 'it'. Places I've traveled to, the people I've met and the crazy adventures I've had. Places I want to travel to. Space. How to end racism, sexism, homophobia and blaming the poor. The best ways to teach my students. Famous quotes, like: "History doesn't repeat itself, but it does rhyme."--Mark Twain. How absurd it all is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going to a potluck with my awesome old roommates. Meeting friends for some games. Going out for drinks with some friends from grad school. Staying home and watching movies. So, going out or staying in. Yeah.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I published a book of poems in college, which won an award.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you have a plan to save or conquer the world. If you are smart/passionate/creative/artistic. If you know how to carry a conversation and have fun. If you are silly and serious. If you have a story of near-death experience in an unpronounceable place. If you would be willing to trudge out to some isolated field with a blanket and a bottle of wine in the middle of the night and cuddle and look up at the stars and indulge me with the most honest answer you can muster to the question, 'what does it all mean?' If you are a fucking awesome woman.