I tend to change what I think about all the time but currently its
been how lonely I feel. Things are not going really well for me
right now as I shift my life around in a major way but I feel
confident that I will get through it and hopefully things will come
out better in the end. I've been thinking about unfulfilled needs
that were once met for me.Here is my Unfulfilled Needs List:
someone to ask about how my day is going and genuinely wants to
hear about it.
someone to watch the walking dead with and discuss how morals
change for people when your whole world changes. example, how does
one hold on to their moral convictions in the zombie apocalypse and
how does one's moral convictions fluctuate.
someone to garden with/build a bed with
someone to go on hikes with or go camping with/ generally explore
someone to go to a durham bulls game with
someone to watch doctor who with and discuss how the doctor's
morals change over the course of his regenerations/ how do the
companions fit into all this.
someone to do fermentation projects with
someone to go out and eat a burrito with
someone to go out contra/swing/square dancing with
someone to go on random road trips with
someone to go out to see the latest comic book movie with
someone to cuddle with me while we watch something on netflix
someone to clean cars together with
someone to work on bikes with
someone to do a woodworking project with
someone to be a penpal with
someone who likes to bake/cook delicious vegan healthy and
sometimes not so healthy meals (for example tater tachos or kale
someone who is genuinely interested in making a deep emotional
connection with me and cares to show me affection and love
someone who is good at communicating their needs and enjoys
processing their thoughts with me
someone to be in my corner when I'm having a bad day and is there
to cheer me up when I'm down.
someone who will do sweet things for me unexpectedly/ surprise
I want to be touched by someone who cares for me. This could
include just cuddling while we watch a movie.
someone to work on house projects with me such as staining my deck
or painting my shutters
someone who will be patient with me as I deal with depression
someone who will give me space when I need it.
someone who challenges me to achieve my dreams
preferably someone who is sober/straightedge or if not only drinks
minimally. I do drink but only in social situations and I've done
work around substance abuse with women and their children. It's
something I've been seriously considering getting back into. I
myself have 10+ years of what I consider to be clean time, aside
from the occasional drink but that was never my drug of
someone who wants to play an instrument with me ( I play
someone to practice my Spanish with
someone to run a mud run with. I'm currently looking to do the
zombie mud run on September 12th or the one in October 17th.
someone who is interested in working on getting their scuba diving
license with me.
In a nutshell, basically what it comes down to for me is that I'm
looking to make a genuine connection with someone who genuinely
cares to be apart of my life and that I can do the same with. I'm a
generous and kind-hearted person who just wants to love and be
loved in return and that doesn't necessarily equate to romantic
connections for me.