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34 Durham, NC Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:57am
Hispanic / Latin
5' 1" (1.55m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Buddhism and laughing about it
Post grad
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am a poly-amorous anarcho-queer originally from Raleigh, NC but I'm in the process of buying a house in Durham. I am pretty shy and don't really have a whole lot of friends but the friends I do have I am really close with. I like movies, dancing, walking in the woods, knitting, yoga, meditating, bird watching, cooking delicious vegan things, and hoping to get my scuba diving license. I've taken on a few new hobbies as well such as I'm learning the violin, I started taking capoeira, and I started volunteering at the bike co-op in Durham.

I am currently working for a nonprofit that works with people living with severe and persistent mental illness. I am passionate about my work and love every day I get to spend there. Not many people can say that and I feel pretty fortunate about my life and where I am right now. I worked hard to get here and am so glad to finally be done with school and to be able to say I finally have an MSW. I hope to further my career by getting my LCSW and maybe even someday have my own practice.

I am a vegan and I used to be a chef before deciding to become a social worker. One of my favorite things to do is bake delicious vegan treats. I love spending time in the kitchen while singing and dancing as I cook.

I am Latina and my family is from Cuba. I believe strongly in not just my blood family but of my friend family as well. I am a pretty emotional person and like to talk and process things and feel connected to the people I am with whether it be politically, romantically, friendly, or what ever way there may be. I don't have anything in particular that I am looking for on this site. I just want to feel more connections to others in what ever way that might be.

I am shy, empathic, and queer.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am living in Durham for the past four years and I love it there. I love that I live and work in the same city doing what I love to do, making people's lives living with mental illness a little bit better through the power of food and self determination.

I broke up with my longtime partner of 3 and a half years in late January and am feeling pretty heartbroken currently and am really not looking to start anything serious any time soon but would like to meet new people and get out and do something fun. There's always the possibility that could change as well.

I spend a lot of time making myself busy with lots of activities such as capoeira, violin practice, working out, meditating, practicing yoga, working on bikes, and learning what I can from being in the woods.

That's about it. I'm freeling a little more grounded in my life right now as I'm settling into my new place. I'd like to find more fun things to do in Durham and things to get myself involved with and fun people to hang out with as well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, gardening, bird watching, and helping others. I can vegan bake really well which I never thought of as a skill until recently because it always came so naturally to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am short (5 foot 1 inch). I am shy. I am nice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Harry Potter, Phillip Pullman-his dark materials, hunger games, twilight saga (I wouldn't say it's a good series but I enjoyed it for what it is), I am not really an avid reader because I have ADD which makes it hard for me to concentrate on anything other than easy reads but I tend to surround myself with well read individuals.

American Beauty, Rent, sailor moon, Lord of the Rings, Harold and Maude, Garden State, I love b movie horror flicks, anything by Quentin Tarantino, I tend to like shows like Glee, and nashville. Recently I have gotten into BBC shows like Dr. Who (not the classics but the new revival), and sherlock. I love a good Rom Com and a bottle of wine sometimes. I like disney movies (my guilty pleasure). I haven't been watching a ton of movies as of late because I've been trying to keep myself busy with other things but I'd love to cuddle up to a good movie sometime.

current selections include bad pop music (because it's fun to dance to), Mika, and all the divas out there. I like belly dance music like Gypsy Caravan and Beats Antique. Recently I've been listening to the grunge station on serius xm. I kind of like a mix of different things.

anything vegan really but my favorite is comfort food like vegan mac and cheese and eggplant Parmesan. I love dark leafy green things and lots of fresh veggies from the garden.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends
My family
compassion and empathy
My electric blanket in the winter time
my ideals
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I tend to change what I think about all the time but currently its been how lonely I feel. Things are not going really well for me right now as I shift my life around in a major way but I feel confident that I will get through it and hopefully things will come out better in the end. I've been thinking about unfulfilled needs that were once met for me.Here is my Unfulfilled Needs List:
someone to ask about how my day is going and genuinely wants to hear about it.
someone to watch the walking dead with and discuss how morals change for people when your whole world changes. example, how does one hold on to their moral convictions in the zombie apocalypse and how does one's moral convictions fluctuate.
someone to garden with/build a bed with
someone to go on hikes with or go camping with/ generally explore nature
someone to go to a durham bulls game with
someone to watch doctor who with and discuss how the doctor's morals change over the course of his regenerations/ how do the companions fit into all this.
someone to do fermentation projects with
someone to go out and eat a burrito with
someone to go out contra/swing/square dancing with
someone to go on random road trips with
someone to go out to see the latest comic book movie with
someone to cuddle with me while we watch something on netflix with
someone to clean cars together with
someone to work on bikes with
someone to do a woodworking project with
someone to be a penpal with
someone who likes to bake/cook delicious vegan healthy and sometimes not so healthy meals (for example tater tachos or kale salad)
someone who is genuinely interested in making a deep emotional connection with me and cares to show me affection and love
someone who is good at communicating their needs and enjoys processing their thoughts with me
someone to be in my corner when I'm having a bad day and is there to cheer me up when I'm down.
someone who will do sweet things for me unexpectedly/ surprise me.
I want to be touched by someone who cares for me. This could include just cuddling while we watch a movie.
someone to work on house projects with me such as staining my deck or painting my shutters
someone who will be patient with me as I deal with depression
someone who will give me space when I need it.
someone who challenges me to achieve my dreams
preferably someone who is sober/straightedge or if not only drinks minimally. I do drink but only in social situations and I've done work around substance abuse with women and their children. It's something I've been seriously considering getting back into. I myself have 10+ years of what I consider to be clean time, aside from the occasional drink but that was never my drug of choice.
someone who wants to play an instrument with me ( I play violin)
someone to practice my Spanish with
someone to run a mud run with. I'm currently looking to do the zombie mud run on September 12th or the one in October 17th.
someone who is interested in working on getting their scuba diving license with me.
In a nutshell, basically what it comes down to for me is that I'm looking to make a genuine connection with someone who genuinely cares to be apart of my life and that I can do the same with. I'm a generous and kind-hearted person who just wants to love and be loved in return and that doesn't necessarily equate to romantic connections for me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends and watching movies. I like to go out drinking sometimes but I'm not a heavy drinker and I don't go out often. My life is pretty chill on the weekends. I also have violin lessons on Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I do not consider myself a girl or a boy really but I do go by she and sometimes they.
You should message me if
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the mood strikes you. Also, if you read what I've been thinking about and are interested in doing any of the things from my unfulfilled needs list, then you should message me.