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MarkinEssexCo

45 M Short Hills, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So, how am I supposed to show you who I am in a few sentences? In a nutshell, if you watched and were moved by the film "Before Sunset" with Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy, you will understand how I think and the way I view the possibilities of love and true connection...

....I'm a sincere, quick-witted, and [reportedly] smart guy in the 'burbs seeking a friendship with someone who is stimulating, kind-hearted and possesses a youthful spirit.

While I am mostly interested in meeting other guys, I don't want to limit myself to the possibility of meeting a fantastic woman to spend some time with. True connection transcends gender, in my book.

If you still have a pair of doc martens or high-top converse in your closet, I will be able to relate to you. And if your old vinyl copy of the Cure's "Disintegration" is in there, too, we are well on our way!

If you are the type of person who is unafraid to help an old lady reach something on a high shelf in a supermarket or to pick up a baby's rattle if it falls on the ground while you're walking by, you are MY type of person....
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I had worked in higher education my entire career (administrator and part-time faculty). I recently changed jobs to accept a position in a non-profit that funds educational opportunities for economically disadvantaged kids.

I've been fortunate to work in environments where there is a value to the "life of the mind." But, I'm also a big kid at heart who laughs easily, cries willingly and cares deeply.

I have also taught Public Speaking at another university for 17 years. "Always do a job you would do even if you didn't get paid," my grandfather used to say. This is THAT job :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
....reading people and what is behind the veneer. Oh, and changing lightbulbs without having to stand on a ladder!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is my height. 6'5"!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too many to name---love a good comedy, a scary movie (LOVE me some Zombies!), a tearjerker or a poignant documentary. Big time music fan--goth, industrial, electronic, alternative, shoegaze, etc. Concerts (Recently saw M83, Midge Ure, IAMX, Steven Wilson, Sigur Ros, OMD, Depeche Mode, Alison Moyet, Simple Minds, NIN, Cyndi Lauper, Skinny Puppy, Gary Numan, Blackfield, Kraftwerk, VNV Nation)...As for food? Anything except pickled beets, but I'll eat them if that's all you're serving:)

Books--Kite Runner, She's Come Undone, The Condition, 5 People You Meet in Heaven, Toni Morrison, David Sedaris.....I read a lot of corny books about the state of higher education. I was a comic book fanatic as a kid and have over 6000 comics (just ask my mom--she wants them out of her house NOW!)

Music---80s alternative (Depeche Mode, Cocteau Twins, New Order, OMD, Sisters of Mercy, Book of Love, Blancmange, Ultravox, Simple Minds, Siouxsie, Cure, etc); Lycia, Slowdive, Clan of Xymox, Moby, VNV Nation, Austra, Bel Canto, Faith and the Muse, Goldfrapp, Hooverphonic, IAMX, Informatik, James, Dead Can Dance, Sophya, Seabound, Sigur Ros, the Verve, Washed Out, Porcupine Tree, No-Man, Antlers, Malory, M83, Peter Murphy, Diary of Dreams, Ladytron, Front Line Assembly, Apoptygma Berzerk, Mind in a Box, Pride and Fall, Active Child, And One, Apparat, Assemblage 23, Beach House,Boxer Rebellion, Claire Voyant, Hammock, Bethany Curve, Gus Gus, the Knife, FKA Twigs, Trust, Highspire and the list goes on and on...

Food--If you want specifics? Thai, Indian, Ethiopian, a good Steakhouse or a Jersey Diner. I'm totally not picky. Eating is about breaking bread and having conversation--so what I eat is immaterial!

Drink--nice bottle of red wine does the trick...COFFEE!

TV--Walking Dead, Revenge, Desperate Housewives (RIP), anything on HGTV, Top Chef, Chopped, Orange is the New Black (almost obsessed with it!), Homeland, Orphan Black, American Horror Story, The Good Wife, the Fosters, the Blacklist, Shark Tank!.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love
2. Laughter
3. Health
4. Family
5. Friendship
6. Kalamata Olives (I had to throw SOMETHING insignificant in there!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my future and where I can provide the most value.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
trying to figure out how to NOT have a "typical Friday night."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Umm...I have over 6000 comics books (mostly at my mom's house, which she reminds me of daily!)

OR

I played the violin when I was 4? I was still playing it at 9, but hadn't improved ONE BIT!

Or more relevant---I often salt my food at a restaurant before I taste it. Impulsive, I know!
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are either young, but mature......or older, but in touch with your youth. If you believe that friendships are the choices we make so that the world feels a little less lonely, we might have a conversation starter....