So, how am I supposed to show you who I am in a few sentences? hmm.....I'm a sincere, quick-witted, and [reportedly] smart guy in the 'burbs seeking a friendship with someone who is stimulating, kind-hearted and possesses a youthful spirit.

Single after 13 years in a relationship, I'm the kind of guy who knows how to compromise in a relationship, cares about the needs of another, and certainly open to doing it again. Friendship, dating, long term possibilities---all are on the table!

If you still have a pair of doc martens or high-top converse in your closet, I will be able to relate to you. And if your old vinyl copy of the Cure's "Disintegration" is in there, too, we are well on our way!

If you are the type of person who is unafraid to help an old lady reach something on a high shelf in a supermarket or to pick up a baby's rattle if it falls on the ground while you're walking by, you are MY type of person....

I've worked in higher education my entire career (administrator and part-time faculty). I'm currently working for a non-profit organization that funds indigent students from inner cities to go to college. I've been fortunate to work in environments where there is a value to the "life of the mind." But, I'm also a big kid at heart who laughs easily, cries willingly and cares deeply.

I also teach Public Speaking at a university (in my 17th year!). "Always do a job you would do even if you didn't get paid," my grandfather used to say. This is THAT job :)

....reading people and what is behind the veneer. Oh, and changing lightbulbs without having to stand on a ladder!

is my height. 6'5"!

Too many to name---love a good comedy, a scary movie (LOVE me some Zombies!), a tearjerker or a poignant documentary. Big time music fan--goth, industrial, electronic, alternative, shoegaze, etc. Concerts (Recently saw M83, Midge Ure, IAMX, Steven Wilson, Sigur Ros).....As for food? Anything except pickled beets, but I'll eat them if that's all you're serving:)

Books--Kite Runner, She's Come Undone, The Condition, 5 People You Meet in Heaven, Toni Morrison, David Sedaris.....I read a lot of corny books about the state of higher education. I was a comic book fanatic as a kid and have over 6000 comics (just ask my mom--she wants them out of her house NOW!)

Music---80s alternative (Depeche Mode, Cocteau Twins, New Order, OMD, Sisters of Mercy, Book of Love, Blancmange, Ultravox, Simple Minds, Siouxsie, Cure, etc); Lycia, Slowdive, Clan of Xymox, Moby, VNV Nation, Austra, Bel Canto, Faith and the Muse, Goldfrapp, Hooverphonic, IAMX, Informatik, James, Dead Can Dance, Sophya, Seabound, Sigur Ros, the Verve, Washed Out, Porcupine Tree, No-Man, Antlers, Malory, M83, Peter Murphy, Diary of Dreams, Ladytron, Front Line Assembly, Apoptygma Berzerk, Mind in a Box, Pride and Fall, Active Child, And One, Apparat, Assemblage 23, Beach House,Boxer Rebellion, Claire Voyant, Hammock, Bethany Curve, Gus Gus, the Knife, and the list goes on and on...

Food--If you want specifics? Thai, Indian, Ethiopian, a good Steakhouse or a Jersey Diner. I'm totally not picky. Eating is about breaking bread and having conversation--so what I eat is immaterial!

Drink--nice bottle of red wine does the trick...COFFEE!

TV--Walking Dead, Revenge, Desperate Housewives (RIP), anything on HGTV, Top Chef, Chopped!

1. Love
2. Laughter
3. Health
4. Family
5. Friendship
6. Kalamata Olives (I had to throw SOMETHING insignificant in there!)

my future and where I can provide the most value.

trying to figure out how to NOT have a "typical Friday night."

I played the violin when I was 4? I was still playing it at 9, but hadn't improved ONE BIT!

you are either young, but mature......or older, but in touch with your youth. If you believe that friendships are the choices we make so that the world feels a little less lonely, we might have a conversation starter....