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  • Ages 18-45
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My details

Last online
Nov 18
White, —
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Full figured
Agnosticism and it’s important
Might want kids
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The prevailing opinion was that my profile was a little overlong, so it's time for spring cleaning!

I'm a shy but friendly fellow with a love of language, philosophy, comedy, semiotics, silliness, animals, music and lemon-flavoured desserts.

I love games of all kinds, board, card, video (particularly RPGs and anything with a good story). If you wanna play, say hi! I'm an unabashed fan of Pokemon.

I'm a very political person, though not as involved as I used to be. I've found myself here in Hereford after living in Cardiff most of my life, so I am adjusting to living in a much smaller and less accessible place!

I am married. My wife is here too, say hello: @_Delarie. I met her on this site nearly five years ago, which shows that this sort of thing works. I've also made some good friends here, and am eager to make more connections of any and all kinds. Well, positive kinds at least; I'm not in the market for a nemesis. That position is already filled.

As a couple, we're entirely in love, but not necessarily monogomous. My wife has a girlfriend, a separate relationship from ours, and we are both open to dating and exploring poly relationships together or separately as well as new friendships. We're both quite shy people though; we're not crazy party animals or anything. I would like to stress that just because I speak to you, does not necessarily mean that I am hitting on you. I am primarily here to find new friends.

A word on gender; Okcupid has recently introduced many new options for inputting one's gender. While this is generally a good thing, I am postgenderist and I don't accept any gender labels (including the traditional ones). 'Masculine' and 'Feminine' are arbitrary social constructs and I believe that gender politics is best off discarding these concepts entirely. It says above that I'm male. That's a biological truth, but entirely meaningless as far as I am concerned. You can call me whatever you want, as long as you're nice. Or at least creative.
Of course, I'm a feminist. It's not at all incompatible with postgenderism; as I always say, feminism isn't a gender issue; it's an issue with other people's gender issues.

Pomosexual, I guess.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to expand my social circle. We recently started a book club for socially awkward people in Hereford (ask if you're interested, more members always welcome!)

Working on writing children's books. My dream is to be published as an author, so I am persevering as strongly as possible. I study using distance learning from universities when I can afford to, as I love to learn, and it helps to fuel my own ideas. Hoping to do a philosophy masters at some point in the next few years. I originally studied physics at university, and worked as an astronomer briefly, but philosophy suits me far better.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
⦁ Making up portmanteau words on the fly.
⦁ Passing the time with whimsy and nostalgia.
⦁ Making friends with animals.
⦁ I am notoriously difficult to annoy, despite suffering from Misophonia.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The beard and moustache, which I'm attempting to tame!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Surreal, whimsical or political comedy. Anything written by Charlie Brooker, Graham Linehan or Armando Ianucci. Addicted to intelligent and silly panel games. Masterchef.

Pixar, Christopher Nolan, Studio Ghibli.

Anime - Excel Saga, Ouran High School Host Club, and I'm not averse to a bit of Ecchi comedy..!

Music... this section has been significantly cut for the sake of saving you reading time! I love folk-rock, folk, rock, but lots of other things too. I tend towards lyrically driven stuff, and unusual voices. My favourite bands are The Hold Steady, Counting Crows, The Waterboys, Levellers, R.E.M, Talking Heads, The Cranberries, NQ Arbuckle. Solo artists; Missy Higgins, Alanis Morissette, Jonathan Coulton... Ah, that's enough. Lets talk about music instead of just reading lists.

I really enjoy children's literature. I wish someone was writing naive, optimistic, imaginative fiction for adults, but for now there's nothing better than Tove Jansson's Moomin series and Le Petit Prince.
I love Terry Pratchett's work, and am devastated to lose him. I enjoy comic fantasy and the like in general; Tom Holt, for example.
The Manga Maison Ikkoku. It's great fun and high literature as far as I'm concerned!
When my concentration levels are high, I read philosophy.

Food... I like almost all of it. Just no raw tomatoes please.

I don't think I should leave out stand-up comedy, since that is also a great love of mine. My favourites are Bill Bailey, Dylan Moran, Stewart Lee, Richard Herring, Paul Foot, Simon Amstell, Josie Long and Eddie Izzard.

I'm also quite a fan of Channel Awesome, Cinemassacre, SpoonyExperiment and similar.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cats. I have three, and they are my babies.
Decent red wine or Gin.
A camera. I take a lot of pictures, as a kind of visual journal. This is because whenever I try to keep a diary, I forget.
Distractions from the inevitable.
Intelligent comedy.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The state of the world, and whether as humans we have the potential to clean up the mess we've made of everything.
Dismantling cultural constructs which get in the way of equality and us all generally being nice to one another.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Here, frankly. Hereford doesn't have a lot of potential for late-night hi-jinks, or jinks of any altitude really. I am at home cuddling my lovely cats, playing board games and watching DVDs. If you can help me vary this, give me a poke!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm Aspie. I use the colloquial term here because the urbandictionary entry fits me just about perfectly.

I am secretly a fairy princess baby hamster controlling a lumbering beardie from within.

I'm disproportionately attracted to midriffs. I blame the 90's.
You should message me if
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⦁ You're interested in talking about anything I've mentioned.
⦁ You think we could be friends. Geography no barrier!
⦁ You're attracted to me. It happens, unlikely as it may seem!
⦁ You want to play a board game.
⦁ You have theories about The Hold Steady lyrics that you want to gabble to a fellow enthusiast
⦁ You want to exchange Nintendo friend codes, Steam names, etc. I have lots of games to trade or gift to nice people.
⦁ You're a terrible tease!
⦁ You can provide good beard-wrangling tips.
⦁ You want to squee over pictures of one another's cats.
⦁ Hell, I don't know. Do what you want, person!