I used to live in my head, my head rules my heart, at least most of the time. But it gets lonely up there. I'm looking for someone who, when I come down to the real world, would like to share parts of it with me.
I am interested in developing a relationship. Most successful partners are also really good friends, or so I believe. I make no moral judgments against polyamory, but I am not interested in that type of relationship myself.
My personality type according to Meyers-Briggs is INFJ.
I'm actually a nice person. Yes, I am more than capable of being a jerk, and if you hit me with some snarky, irrational comment, I am very likely to throw it right back at you so that you know that I am not taking bull from anyone. I've taken plenty of it and it took me until I was about 25 to realize that people really ought to treat me like an adult, and if they don't I need to be more assertive and demand it. Despite this, the core of how I want to be treated is respect. I'll listen to you and do everything I can, please return that courtesy, at least some.
WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR:
Since OkCupid doesn't give this as a category, I'm adding my own. I'm looking for someone who is looking to be an equal part of an ideally long-term relationship with me, who doesn't see either of us as substantially more important or more entitled than the other. I'm looking for someone to love who will love me back, who will face me and hold me as often as I do the same to them. I'm looking for someone who will tell me the truth, even if it's difficult. I will always do the same for you; I hate passive-aggressiveness. I'm looking for someone reliable and faithful, who for the duration of the time that we spend together will invest themselves in our relationship. While I'm at it, apparently I should say that I believe in leprechauns, fairies, and brownies that make you lose weight. I'm not usually an optimist, but I know that there must be someone out there who feels similarly to how I do.
I am gently sensitive, highly quixotic, and musical to a fault.