"Everything that need to be said has already been said. But since
no one was listening, everything must be said again." Andre
A friend recently posted this on FB, and I really like it, I'm not
sure why. Maybe because when it comes to what we are seeking or how
we think about ourselves, everything has already been said.
What I’m doing with my life
To earn a living I am an immigration attorney - I think I have had clients from over 80+ countries at this point, and I love hearing people's stories - how they got here, what they are doing with their lives, what they think of the country they have come from. I have traveled a lot myself (though I haven't been to all the counties my clients come from), though it's harder to travel now with my daughter and my practice. But I moved to Seattle 20+ years ago to have a balance between work and play, and I really enjoy the play side of life.
I’m really good at
I think I am a good conversationalist, though some people don't
really like east coast sarcasm. I'm working on being more kind and
joyful, I think these qualities are very important, even if they
don't come naturally sometimes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books: For easy reading, anything by Nick Hornby; TC Boyle short stories (his novels aren't so good), most books by Paul Auster (though he started repeating himself). More important books in my life include: The Long Goodbye by Raymond Chandler (now that's someone who could flat out write); A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving; The Book of Laughter and Forgetting by Milan Kundera; Catcher in the Rye by JD Salinger (mandatory for those of us sent off to boarding school), Big Sur and the Oranges of Hieronymus Bosch by Henry Miller (though most of his books are terrible); the Dharma Bums by Kerouac.
Movies: I really like French film noir, especially the movies from around 1950-1970. There is something about the style that I can't explain. I wish I could have lived in Paris in those years. "Jules and Jim" is perhaps my favorite movie of all time.
I don't really watch live TV, but I will rent out the various things on disc, such as Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Mi-5 (British spy thing). I loved the piano music in the series Lost, but it fell apart after about 3 seasons.
The six things I could never do without
1) the New Yorker magazine (followed closely by the NYTimes)
2) Distance running;
3) bridge (the card game);
4) good coffee and good beer;
5) my friends
6) my daughter (the most important)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I always thought when I got older I would gain wisdom and
understanding. I have, in a way, but I'm not sure my decision
making is any better now than 20 years ago.
I think a lot about raising my daughter, I'm a single Dad sharing
joint custody. It's not a position I ever imagined myself in, and I
think about what went wrong and what could have been done
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm with my daughter, it's the usual routine of dinner, usually
some board games, definitely a lot of reading. If it's a friday
when I'm on my own, there really is not any set routine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I really should be using reading glasses....sigh.....
You should message me if
Message me if you have seen the Documentary (or read the book) "Man on Wire" and it moved you. A beautiful story.
I find myself in an awkward place in this site, as an older "Dad." Women my age have children who are adults, or almost adults, and are enjoying their new freedom to travel. But women with children who are approximately my daughter's age tend to be much younger than me, so that can be a little strange as well. But if something in my profile resonated with you, please do message me.