Screw that. I can't be summarized. I think people put too much pressure on themselves by focusing prematurely on things that should come later instead of just getting to know each other.

I try not to define my relationships before they happen, but I do have a few things in mind. I would love to find someone that I could meet about one or two nights a week to hang out with and get to know. You might be someone who is busy the rest of the week with work or kids, or something else. My criteria: First, we need to be attractive to each other. That's a two way street, I know. Second, please have your shit together, or at least most of it. And Third, most importantly, you must always observe Wheaton's Law.

I am also open to meeting women who already have a primary relationship and are looking for a secondary, since poly people are usually super cool. I do not consider myself poly but I find nonmonagamous relationships to be a very interesting topic.

I have one daughter, 8, who is the true love of my life. You won't meet her for quite a while but I will talk about her a bit if we start chatting. I have her 50% of the time, and I don't mix parenting and dating. I am on good terms with my ex, and we cooperate on parenting with no drama.

I think it's very important to stay active, both mentally and physically. Some things I like doing in my free time include all but two of the following things: Traveling, bicycling, hiking, rollerblading, cooking, conversation, yoga, seeing a live band, karaoke, dancing, playing boardgames, armed robbery, cow tipping.

For the past two years or so, I've been engaged in a sort of perpetual journey of self-discovery and exploration. I learn the most about myself through other people. I've had the mid-life realization that our time on Earth is limited, and I want to make the most of it. Career wise, I have been at the same company for 16 years now, and I enjoy my job. Outside of work, I enjoy my life and get outside as much as possible. Sometimes I take day trips around Ohio on weekends. Hocking hills are a favorite. Or Highbanks. I also enjoy reading a lot of books, playing boardgames, and enjoying the company of my friends. I try to do things worth taking pictures of and telling great stories about later.

Helping my friends achieve their goals whenever possible. Lately, that has meant helping a lot of them move.

Playing and designing games, mostly board games and card games. Scrabble is good, Settlers is better, Agricola is my current favorite.

Home maintenance projects. There's always something.

Deep conversations with inappropriately timed jokes.

Cooking. Pad Thai. Vegetarian Tacos. Homemade Macaroni and Cheese. Let me know how you like your eggs, in case I end up making you breakfast.

(just kidding-- You're getting pancakes)

A lot of people tell me that I don't look my age. Or Act it-- I am 41, but I have the emotional maturity of a 32 year old.

I have a full-scale, all-over body tattoo of myself. It hurt like hell.

I usually skip this section, so I won't be offended if we go on a date and you don't have the least inkling what I wrote here. But I filled it out just for my own amusement. Suffice it to say that if we are dating, I expect us to be more than adequately entertained by each other instead of consuming media.

BOOKS: I read whatever looks interesting at the time. "Why People Believe Weird Things", by Michael Shermer was pivotal in my life, although you wouldn't have expected it to be. Guns, Germs and Steel. Sex at Dawn. Opening Up. Also a mix of self improvement and science fiction books. The Honor Harrington series by David Weber. I don't believe in keeping books after I've read them, unless they are in the top 5% of everything I've read.

MOVIES: I enjoy movies, but only a few are good enough to be quoted later. Here are a few of mine:
The Fifth Element-- "Does anyone else want to negotiate?", the Die Hards-- "Yipee Kai Yay, motherfucker"
Forrest Gump-- "Life is like a box of chocolates".
Team America World Police-- "America. Fuck Yeah!"
TV: Farscape. You just can't beat muppets in space. Or Ben Browder. Also, anything produced by Donald P Bellisario.

I chose not to subscribe to cable, not because all the shows are crappy, but because they are so good. I know I'm missing out on Walking Dead, etc., but I really don't need more stuff to suck up my time. I also never plugged in the converter box for the same reason. I have a spare TV in my basement if you want one.

MUSIC: Where would we be without Pandora? Right now my favorite Pandora stations are Rush, Green Day, The Pet Shop Boys, Bowling For Soup, Arcade Fire, Tony Bennett. But I like just about everything, music-wise. Old standards can sometimes make my neck hair stand up.

PODCASTS: Savage Love, Radiolab, The D6 Generation, This American Life, Intelligence Squared.

FOOD: My favorite is what I cook myself. It's still kind of a new activity for me, so please share your recipes with me. (Fyi, I'm vegetarian, but not vegan. Eggs and cheese make me happy)

It is often the simplest things that bring us the most joy: Personal conversations. Slow dancing with you in the kitchen, with or without music. The warmth of a fire on a blustery winter day. The smell of fresh bread baking or garlic sizzling in a pan. The wet morning dew before sunrise or fireflies dancing in the tall grass during summer twilight. Puffy white clouds dotting an azure sky. The electric feeling of an angry pink sky before a storm or the peace of the last red maple leaf falling in autumn. The warmth of two bodies under blankets at the beach and the first passionate kiss on quivering lips.

Certain core beliefs that not everyone may share (you don't need to agree with all this but you must be ok with me believing it) :
Life is not even remotely fair, and it never will be. I believe in luck. I believe that blind, stupid, meaningless, random luck, both good and bad, is real. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, and vice versa. True Luck plays a significant role in our destinies, almost as much as the choices we make. That said, our lives are still solely our own responsibilities, and we all need to play the hand we're dealt the best we can. Sometimes it can be difficult to distinguish between the consequences of our decisions and just pure luck. Often it is a combination. Either way, how we choose to react to events and circumstances in our lives makes all the difference in our own lives and those we touch. We only live once, and there are no do-overs and no partial credit.

I think most people need adversity in their lives to stimulate personal growth. This in no way diminishes the importance of helping others.

I also think a lot about how to be even more awesome. Self improvement is something I think everyone should be working on most of the time. In particular, I think a lot about how to be the best dad I can be. My daughter amazes me every day, but I'm probably biased.

And cooking, but I already talked about that.

With my daughter every other weekend. Other weekends, I will either be out with some friends of mine, or at CABS. (Columbus Area Boardgaming Society, check it out) I also like to get out swing dancing or to watch an open mike night. Love watching karaoke, might try it one day. Update: I suck at karaoke but it's fun anyway.

"Just Dance" games for Wii are more fun than they have any right to be.

I've had Justin Beiber's "Baby, baby, baby" stuck in my head for two weeks now. It must be my daughter's all time favorite song.

Eminem and Rihanna's "Love the Way You Lie" puts a lump in my throat.

I just had a doctor's appointment and when they measured my height, it was 5' 10"-- One inch taller than I thought I was for the last 20 years! That was a nice surprise. Yay, me!

I answered over 2500 questions on here because I do that sometimes when I get bored.

...You can swear creatively. I like a good, well placed f-bomb as much as the next guy, but sometimes it's a crutch.

...You have at least a passing interest in physical fitness. I'm not a body snob, but if your idea of a workout is looking for the remote under the couch cushions, that's not a good sign.

...You still have things on your bucket list that you are interested in trying.

...You won't sell all my furniture on Craigslist while I'm at work. In fact, you should be shocked I even mentioned the possibility.

...You love playing boardgames, card games, or if you own some d20's and know how to use them.

...You have a home improvement project and you want to swap manual labor.

...You are tired of all the losers on this site sending you their dick pictures.

...You don't put too much value on these percentage scores-- I find most of the questions irrelevant or hard to weight correctly.

...You are not out to bag a husband RIGHT NOW. If you have a contract with Ursula the Sea Witch that requires you to get married immediately, then I'm not your Prince. I want to find "The One" eventually, but a long term, committed relationship has to grow organically and without up-front expectations.

...You understand that love is not something you find, it's something you do.

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