Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm pretty cerebral. I like to try to figure things out, like how
people make decisions about what kind of work to do, whom to marry,
or whether to have children. Dating, especially, is interesting,
given how much time I spending doing it or thinking about it. (You
probably do, too, if you're reading this.) How do people wind up
with their partners? Why do pairings that seem unworkable actually
work, while many that seem perfect go nowhere? I also like to find
out how other people think about those things, so if we go out, we
may end up talking about the life choices people make, and how they
either do, or do not, work out. Or we may end up talking about the
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Practicing tax law, hanging out with my kids playing cards or
Rummykub or chess, surfing the internet looking at power laws,
chaos theory, and 17th century history. Reading Commentary, the
Atlantic, and City Journal. I also like hiking, bowling, miniature
golf, playing pool, farmers' markets, and, in limited doses, art
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Staying out of (serious) trouble. Grilling things (charcoal, not
gas). Figuring people out (most people), and having fun with a wide
variety of people.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People usually don't notice anything about me at first.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Black Swan, Fooled by Randomness, Thinking: Fast and Slow, Up
in the Air, The Power of Habit, Classic Rock, Indian food,
Ethiopian food, sushi, coffee (I roast and grind my own beans),
beer (unique, I know).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a car (or at least a mule. An air conditioned mule)
the internet (although apparently I did fine without it for the
first 30 years of my life)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why people do things. Why the windows in my car go down for no
reason (actually, I did figure that one out: low battery voltage).
How to help my kids be happy and successful adults. Tax law.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
playing chess with my son, exploring the nuances of high school
social networks with my daughter, at a restaurant or bar unwinding
with friends, sometimes on a date, or possibly staying late at the
office to get some work done so I can dive into the weekend first
thing Saturday morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think people's reactions to this question are interesting. The
question assumes that privacy is a spectrum, rather than a binary
determination. It doesn't ask you to admit something very private;
it asks you the most private thing you are willing to admit. I'm
willing to admit that I have a 401(k) plan. That's private in the
sense that it's not obvious to anyone who sees me on the street and
is not a matter of public record, but it's also not intensely
private. Why do people have trouble with this?
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offered me any suggestions for improving this profile. I may have
to retract the request.)
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