I mention this first because it not only establishes a pretty important dimension to any relationship I'd have, but because it shows that I'm a strong person who is also caring and compassionate and has a sense of duty. It also shows that I am earnest about being a good father and man, and that I'm a person who can be counted on.
Anyway, my story is that I devoted six years studying philosophy in college, and was blessed to do philosophy with many fellow travelers who challenged me beyond what I thought possible, and continued together for many years afterward. After college I worked as a sawyer on fire crews in the summer, while spending my winters studying and writing and the springtime living on small farms.
I love working hard, outside and with my hands. I tried to get a normal job and return to suburbia after my daughter came along, but I couldn't do it. I don't know how anyone could do it! Nthing's better than a good days work for me, especially if I have good friends to come home to.
At the same time I'm an incurable intellectual, and the (literally) thousands of hours I've spent reading philosophy books inevitably enters into everything I do. I can't help it, and the only way I was able to cure myself of an incessant need to analyze everything was to take a step further into the religious dimension of existence. I've had a few really direct experience of where the limits of our overclocked monkey brain are reached, and there is the divine. This experience changed me, and its something that I want to share with everyone I meet.
The focus of all my efforts now, aside from caring for my daughter, is working to start a community. I spent a lot of time living on small farms, and since college I've been networking with my best friend from college, and some of our mutual friends who were fellow thinkers. Together we will soon have substantial savings and a solid base of knowledge with which to buy tools and land to turn into an open invitation, open source free school called the thinkery.
The thinkery is hard to describe quickly, but its basically where the living conversation of thinking is continued in the midst of a community that is devoted to education in the mastery of crafts, trades, and skills. the thinkery will try to provide a place where people can share knowledge in practical skills by working together on projects as teachers and fellow students, and by sharing tools and labor. It strives to reteach people how to create the things that populate their lives in cooperation with other people. It also will teach clear thinking so as to aide in the creation excellent human beings, with clear thinking being necessary in this regard.
I'm looking for a woman who would be able to treat my daughter as her own, and loves being around children. Someone who is strong and capable, and could share my dreaming of having a community. A woman who works hard and has goals, but isn't driven to succeed in the sense of success that is the "way of the world." A woman who is able to forgo comfort and ease and face hard times, even, if it means working alongside each other for what we think is right. Having to care for Maria has made me appreciate how amazing and important motherhood is, and I would hope to be with somebody who embraces this side of womanhood.