Aloha kāua! Thanks for visiting my profile.
I make my home in Kihei on the beautiful island of Maui, but I divide my time between Hawai'i and my native NYC, caring for my aged mother in my boyhood home. I visit frequently for that purpose, and at the moment I plan to stay here in Woodside through mid-October.
(Were I a scarysmart geek girl who dreams of life with a decent man in a first-rate tropical beach town, I would definitely invite me out for coffee. Just sayin'.)
I'm looking for a life partner who has a deep sense of personal integrity, and is something of a math, science, and computer geek. I'm open to befriending or dating you if you have these qualities, but you aren't interested in that level of involvement. And I would also consider partnership in a high-integrity, closed, mutually committed MFF triad where I could get my intellectual needs met, but that is not a situation I am actively seeking.
"Me? I don't care too much about the looks. I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go 'Ouch!' due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with. I decided this all means that I am sapiosexual."
I offer what I seek.
I am a complex superposition of the ordinary and the unique. I am decidedly quirky, yet mostly harmless. Many have remembered me upon meeting again long years after a single brief introduction, but like any other acquired taste it takes time and experience to develop a full appreciation for some of my finer qualities.
My interests and talents form a constellation which places me squarely in the geekier regions of the nerd-jock continuum; my computers run Ubuntu and my devices are Android.
Politics are important to me, and I am an activist for progressive societal change. I lend moral and, where I can, material support to what I believe to be the primary mission of each human person: to grow towards his or her own full potential, and to help others to do the same. I believe that the spirit of service without expectation of reward is the road to nirvana. I hold myself, my intimates, and all those with whom I choose to associate to a high standard of personal integrity, yet I recognize that we all make mistakes and come from different places, so progress, rather than perfection, forms the yardstick by which I measure myself and others.
I banished the phrase "the opposite sex" from my thought and speech quite some years ago, replacing it with "the complementary sex". This simple shift in one word radically improved all my relationships with women and revolutionized my entire perspective on human sexuality.
I am a highly social and sexual person, who tends to care about others deeply and permanently. I need friends, lovers, and - most especially - friends who are lovers, and I regard all three - friendship, love, and sex - as important synergic, yet distinct, needs.
Why Am I Here?
I have numerous acquaintances; I am blessed with more tried and true friends than I can count with all the digits on every limb; and have had my share of lovers passionate, affectionate, and tender; yet the rich intimacy of a full partnership which I fear, need, and crave down to the very depths of my being continues to elude and tantalize me.
Ultimately I would like to co-create, build, treasure, and nurture a lifelong, love-drenched, committed partnership with a special woman. My long-term goal is to delete this profile.
Apart from your general intellectual prowess, other things about you that I most appreciate are: your uncompromising sense of personal integrity; your ability and willingness to communicate directly and clearly, especially when I'm clueless; your commitment to improve yourself and the world around you in whichever ways you deem important; your level of science/math/computer geekiness; your habitual and almost compulsive creativity with sound, words, images, and ideas; your general playfulness; your honesty, courage, generosity, patience, fortitude, gentleness, and kindness; your ability to be vulnerable with me; your affectionate nature; the way we complement each other and shelter each other from life's inevitable passing storms; the way it feels as if the contours of your body were custom-made to fit mine when I put my arms around you; our sexual chemistry and compatibility; the way we love and respect each other.
Looks are somewhat important to me, and there definitely are certain distinct appearance "types" who easily arouse my interest in a reflexive sort of way, but it takes a very special woman to hold my attention; and if you are she, I will grow to see you as more and more stunningly beautiful the longer you stick around, no matter how you might appear to others.
About Our Relationship
My relations with others are built on a framework of freely negotiated agreements, which are always open to renegotiation, but abrogation will make me walk away. If you wish to get close to me on any level, I will insist we practice openness, radical truth-telling, and taking responsibility for our words and actions. I try to practice these principles in all my areas of my life.