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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 3:55pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Strictly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am at the point where I'd really love to meet a long-term compatible partner, I'm ready to commit to the right woman.

I should note right off the bat, that I am into kink BDSM, primarily a bottom and very bi-curious. Bi curious means that I have not had sex with any man, but that I am interested in sexually submitting to a Dom men with the participation of the girlfriend that I am seeking on this site.

Even though I am a bottom, I date sub women, but understand if you are sub and don't date bottom men.

I find that the most compatible partners are open to all of that, and find my forthrightness refreshing and attractive. At this point, if you have qualms, and are not excited about the possibilities, we're probably not a match.

I'm looking for a real dating relationship. I am well-educated, well-traveled, have a decent job, active hobbies, friends and a family. I enjoy smart, active, and independent women, who are seeking a compliment to their already full life.

Also, I'm pretty average looking. If you only date guys who turn heads, unfortunately that is not me...I don't post a photo, because I'm not out. My friends and work colleagues don't need to know about my kinky proclivities. I'm happy to share pictures with a woman who feels that we could actually date.

So, all that being said, if you think you might be interested in a relationship with me, let's chat & see if it is worth meeting to explore possible chemistry.

If you want to set me up with your friend, are not interested in meeting, or not emotionally available for an adult relationship, please click next :)

Light or non-drinkers only.

I'd love to hear from you....I realize this is naive, but I actually think I can meet a compatible mate on here....
What I’m doing with my life
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Self-employed. Like to keep active and fit.

I spend some time wondering why people don't realize how stupid they sound when they simultaneously send me homophobic messages AND complain about my picture.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Probably not as many things as I think. I am a good cook.

Pretending that narcissism doesn't make me ill.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile and / or my attitude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I enjoy short stories. Catch 22 is my favorite book and Blade Runner is my favorite film.

Television is the new film...perhaps.

Always good to have the bible handy, though I am not religious. Ah food, music and wine...epicurean to the hilt.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
air, water, food, safe place to sleep, bathroom & hot water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why all the drama, yo? Relax!

Why so many people on OKCupid who claim to be bisexual state that the response "I have had sex with a member of the same sex," or "I want to" is "unacceptable"?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am a homebody.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love people who are passive aggressive, obtuse, and narcissistic. Jk, gag....
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have time, are available, and willing to meet and get to know one another.

You are a woman who really wants to date a bi man, and you enjoy pegging.....

You are genuinely excited to meet a quality man, who is open to dating....

You actually want to meet in person, and not spend tons of time e-mailing, texting, IM-ing....

You are into orgasmic meditation.

You can see how a sub woman can date a bottom man!

If that's you, let's talk over coffee, or tea.