45 San Francisco, CA
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My self-summary
Well-educated, bisexual, white man in his 40s seeking smart, independent, low drama, open minded woman for a dating relationship that could lead to something more serious.

Even though I have many vanilla interests, you should know that I am into kink, BDSM, love being pegged, and in a BDSM context am sexually submissive to men.

I am a bottom, but I date either sub women or Domme women. I don't date men, but I am open to submitting to the right Dom, in a group BDSM scene.

I find that the most compatible partners are open to all of that, and find my forthrightness refreshing and attractive.

If you are not interested in threesomes in which I submit to Dom men and you also participate, there's probably not a match.

I'm looking for a real dating relationship. I am well-educated, well-traveled, have a decent job, active hobbies, friends and a family. I enjoy smart, active, and independent women, who are seeking a compliment to their already full life.

Also, I'm pretty average looking. If you only date guys who turn heads, unfortunately that is not me...I don't post a photo, because I'm not out. My friends and work colleagues don't need to know about my kinky proclivities. I'm happy to share pictures with a woman who feels that we could actually date.

So, all that being said, if you think you might be interested in a relationship with me, let's chat & see if it is worth meeting to explore possible chemistry.

Light or non-drinkers only.

I'd love to hear from you....I realize this is naive, but I actually think I can meet a compatible mate on here....
What I’m doing with my life
Self-employed. Like to keep active and fit.

I spend some time wondering why people don't realize how stupid they sound when they simultaneously send me homophobic messages AND complain about my picture.
I’m really good at
Probably not as many things as I think. I am a good cook.

Pretending that narcissism doesn't make me ill.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile and / or my attitude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy short stories. Catch 22 is my favorite book and Blade Runner is my favorite film.

Television is the new film...perhaps.

Always good to have the bible handy, though I am not religious. Ah food, music and wine...epicurean to the hilt.
The six things I could never do without
air, water, food, safe place to sleep, bathroom & hot water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If OK Cupid is one large Turing test?

Why all the drama, yo? Relax!

Why, if a person on OKCupid will only date straight men, that person does not list straight men only in the "looking for" section?
On a typical Friday night I am
I am a homebody.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love people who are passive aggressive, obtuse, and narcissistic. Jk, gag....
You should message me if
You have time, are available, and willing to meet and get to know one another.

You are a woman who really wants to date a bi man, and you enjoy pegging.....

You are genuinely excited to meet a quality man, who is open to dating....

You actually want to meet in person, and not spend tons of time e-mailing, texting, etc.

You can see how a sub woman can date a bottom man!

If that's you, let's talk over coffee, or tea.