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MaxVoltageSF

51 M Daly City, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:04pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My latest news:

Made Strawberry marshmallows, drizzled with home made banana caramel & Tcho dark chocolate, and topped with slivers of toasted almond! It's like a room temperature ice cream sundae.

I am one of those rare folks that actually grew up in SF. I'm not quite a native, as I was 3 months old when I arrived.. but close enough. Recently, had to move just a bit south of SF.

At first I may seem shy or too serious, but I'm actually very silly and playful. Some people think my life is quiet, while others think I'm totally outrageous. I guess It depends on who you ask
and how well they know me. :)

And yes, I am married. It is an open relationship. My wife is a wonderful gal, who knows I see other people. I don't hide it from her. I'm not looking to complicate anyone's life.

I'm looking for friendships. The day begins & ends with friendship. It is what sustains us through the ups and downs of life. Find common interests, or discover new ideas and places.

I think lies, deception and hidden agendas are toxic to any relationship.

I am also Intersexed. That means I am not fully male (XY) or female (XX). I was raised male, but have some features of both male & female persons.

I am Provocative, Playful, and Intersexed
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I continue to be more out & active as an Intersex person.

I am glad to see the continuing march to Marriage Equality.

Next step, making society more Gender Neutral. Why should it matter if a Boy is named Grace or a Girl is named George?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Photography

Listening

Nature Lore

knowing random facts

Giving Massages

I'm very good at helping folks be themselves when they are with me. I give them the space & encourage them to be who they really are.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
One of the first things people notice about me is my voice. It is unusually deep and resonant. It's so normal to me, that I kind of forget about. But if one of the things you like in a man, is a deep rich voice, you'll like my voice. (Ironically, it's actually an intersexed voice)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movies:
Fifth Element
Big Lebowski
Matrix I
My Favorite Year
Zorro, The Gay Blade
League of Extraordinary Gentlemen

TV:
Archer (although the "Archer Vice" Season kinda sux, so far)
Justified & Wiseguy
The Good Wife & NYPD Blue
Daily Show & Colbert Report
Rachel Maddow & Chris Hayes
Survivorman & (Never) Finding Bigfoot
Burn Notice & Lilyhammer
Doc Martin & Reaper
Highlander & Star Trek, Next Gen
Frasier & Simpsons
Grey's Anatomy & House
Are you Being Served?

Music: Walk Off The Earth, Jim Carroll Band, They Might be Giants, Joan Armatrading, lately really getting into Lou Reed, enjoy a lot of 80's alt bands (Clash, Police, The Alarm, The Tubes, The Specials etc), John Mellencamp.

Books:
Read all the Tarzan books when I was a teen. Gave me a sense of the possible. And helped inspire a can-do attitude towards life.

I still read a lot of escapist fantasy sword & sorcery type novels. But love deep, serious discussions too.

Finally read Middlesex. Didn't really care for it. I have a journal post on why.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
humor, friends, irony, communication, pen-and-paper-RPGs, & Soylent Green
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why should it matter if an adult wants to take masculinizing or feminizing hormones? If they have been told the risks and benefits, what the heck.

Why should anyone have to declare they have abandoned a gender?

I wish I passed more often as Queer in day-to-day life. Instead most folks see me as undoubtedly straight and undoubtedly male. I'm not looking to change who I am or how I act.. I just wish I didn't have to explain again to folks, that yeah, I AM Queer. I am wondering if I should make an effort to look more androgynous or genderfucked. And wondering how that would be different?

I choose to affiliate myself with queer folk & queer
causes. Because they are human folk & human causes.

I can speak only for myself. I am Intersexed by Nature. I am Queer by Choice. Others may choose to use other terms to describe me. And that's fine.. I'm used to them being wrong.

Gender, Genderfuck, genderqueer, androgyny..
When people hear about Intersex, they sometimes know about ISNA (aka Intersex Society of North America). But they NEED to know about OII. OII = Organization International Intersex. OII are intersexed folk, from all over the world, that do not accept the use of "DSD" or "Disorders of Sex Development", as good or useful terminology for Intersexed folk. Not good or useful for Doctors of Intersexed folk. Not good or useful for parents of Intersexed folk. Not good or useful for anyone else who interacts with Intersexed folk. (One of my early journal posts goes into some detail on this.

** I'm fascinated by Cryptozoology in general & Bigfoot in particular.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
likely stuck at work. But if not, I may well be at some spoken word event or helping out somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am FAR more Limber than you might think...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you see yourself as a bit off the beaten path. I like folks who see themselves as a dork. We have all struggled with that.. I think it's rather adorable.

My best availability is Friday, all day.

I like folks with a bit or a lot of androgyny. Women that are tall, or strong (physical or personality) or masculine, or tomboys or loud or outspoken or otherwise challenge common assumptions about who women are supposed to be.

You have any questions about anything you think I might be able to address, please send me a note.

I love a good conversation even more. Let's see what we find in each other