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41 Milford, MI Man


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  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)

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I believe in carefully prepared steaks and sloppy diner burgers. I believe in long hot showers and cool spring breezes. I believe in leisurely walks with a beautiful woman, and fast rough rides through windy mountain bike trails.

I have faith in a God, but not in a church.

I believe a woman on a date should be able to forget how to open a door. I believe that in every woman's heart is a delicate place, regardless of what hardened exterior is presented to the world.

(I've been alerted that this makes me anti-feminist. To be clear, there's a delicate place in my heart as well, as I would hope in everyone's soul. As for opening doors for the ladies, it's offered, but never demanded)

I put stock in what a person does more than what a person says. I believe that a person's best qualities and worst traits can be discovered during adversity in their lives. I believe that only with hard earned trust can loyalty be expected, or given.

I believe that loving relationships are best defined by the people in them, and not by whims of society or government decree.

I believe in love without artificial rules or limits.

I am in a polyamorous marriage with a wonderful woman. We have no secrets.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a software engineer working from home, which offers a decent amount of flexibility in my schedule.

I'd love to find a tennis partner, I miss that a lot! During the summertime I try to get out and bicycle at least a couple of times a week if not more.
I’m really good at
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I'm good with electronics, computers and logically wrapping my brain around a problem.

I am a shoulder to cry on, a strong loyal defender of those I love and cherish, and generous with my time and energies with my friends and family.

(I've been alerted that because I say I'm a loyal defender of those I love that this makes me anti-feminist. This was not intended. I would add that I seek other partners who would equally defend and support me in return, and that I never suggested this was a one-sided exchange)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have varied tastes in both music and cinema. As much as I appreciate the depth and style of classics like Casablanca, I also really enjoy light-hearted comedies like Tropic Thunder, European TV shows the the original The Office and most of the material out of Monty Python. I truly get pleasure from sharing movies I love or respect with people I care about.

My musical tastes range wildly depending on mood and atmosphere, but include diverse genres such as industrial music, classical music, modern rock and rockabilly music.

When it comes to books, there are 2 ways I enjoy them. One side of the coin are those books that discuss political concepts either through fiction or analysis. A good example would be Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, or Unintended Consequences by John Ross. If familiar with those works, you probably already know I foster a libertarian streak a mile wide, and have great respect for personal responsibility and self made individualists.

The other side of the coin are fiction indulgences like the works of Tom Clancy, Dean Koontz, Robert Heinlein and various Science Fiction works by other authors.

Some of my Robert Heinlein favorites are Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Building my life and family. I am very happy right now, though I ponder a day where we might expand our family to enrich our lives with more partners.


Some of my favorite Robert Heinlein quotes:

"A society that gets rid of all its troublemakers goes downhill."

"Don't ever become a pessimist... a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events. "

"Everything is theoretically impossible, until it is done."

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy."

"Most moral philosophers consciously or unconsciously assume the essential correctness of our cultural sexual code-family, monogamy, continence, the postulate of privacy that troubled you so, restriction of intercourse to the marriage bed, et cetera. Having stipulated our cultural code as a whole, they fiddle with details- even such piffle as solemnly discussing whether or not the female breast is an 'obscene' sight! But mostly they debate how the human animal can be induced or forced to obey this code, blandly ignoring the high probability that the heartaches and tragedies they see all around them originate in the code itself rather than failure to abide by the code."
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I will ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.
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A warm home. Breakfast. Friends and lovers sitting around a table sharing scrambled eggs and bacon, laughing about the movie they watched the night before, talking about the projects they're working on. This is a place of nurturing, a place of acceptance, love and intellectual curiosity. It's a place beyond suspicion and jealousy because we all know and trust one another. It's everything we ever wanted...and then more, because we realized traditional is too constraining.

That's what I want. I'm looking for a woman who understands that. Sure, it's atypical, but if you're the type of woman who's intellectually curious as well as physically passionate, I'd love to chat.

(I've been alerted that the idea of a "warm home" makes me anti-feminist. To be clear, there was never any mention of women needing to be "homemakers" or that they'd need to be constrained to any such role. My wife, for example, is pursuing her 2nd Masters degree and a new career, and we hire out a maid-service for what housekeeping chores her and I jointly do not personally attend to)

IMPORTANT NOTE: Although eventually meeting my wife is part of the deal, I am not seeking someone who wants to have a threesome. We date separately from each other, and both are really only attracted to the opposite sex.

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