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41 M Milford, MI

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:51pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
A warm home. Breakfast. Friends and lovers sitting around a table sharing scrambled eggs and bacon, laughing about the movie they watched the night before, talking about the projects they're working on. This is a place of nurturing, a place of acceptance, love and intellectual curiosity. It's a place beyond suspicion and jealousy because we all know and trust one another. It's everything we ever wanted...and then more, because we realized traditional is too constraining.

That's what I want. I'm looking for a woman who understands that. Sure, it's atypical, but if you're the type of woman who's intellectually curious as well as physically passionate, I'd love to chat.

I am in an open polyamorous marriage with ButterflyRedSun. Feel free to contact her to verify this. We have no secrets.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a software engineer working from home, which offers a decent amount of flexibility in my schedule.

I bowl in a league on Sundays, we all bowl quite badly, but it's a good way to just connect with friends.

I'd love to find a tennis partner, I miss that a lot! During the summertime I try to get out and bicycle at least a couple of times a week if not more.
I’m really good at
I'm good with electronics, computers and logically wrapping my brain around a problem.

I am a shoulder to cry on, a strong loyal defender of those I love and cherish, and generous with my time and energies with my friends and family.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have varied tastes in both music and cinema. As much as I appreciate the depth and style of classics like Casablanca, I also really enjoy light-hearted comedies like Tropic Thunder, European TV shows the the original The Office and most of the material out of Monty Python. I truly get pleasure from sharing movies I love or respect with people I care about.

My musical tastes range wildly depending on mood and atmosphere, but include diverse genres such as industrial music, classical music, modern rock and rockabilly music.

When it comes to books, there are 2 ways I enjoy them. One side of the coin are those books that discuss political concepts either through fiction or analysis. A good example would be Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, or Unintended Consequences by John Ross. If familiar with those works, you probably already know I foster a libertarian streak a mile wide, and have great respect for personal responsibility and self made individualists.

The other side of the coin are fiction indulgences like the works of Tom Clancy, Dean Koontz, Robert Heinlein and various Science Fiction works by other authors.

Some of my Robert Heinlein favorites are Stranger in a Strange Land and The Moon is a Harsh Mistress.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Building my life and family. I am very happy right now, though I ponder a day where we might expand our family to enrich our lives with more partners.


Some of my favorite Robert Heinlein quotes:

"A society that gets rid of all its troublemakers goes downhill."

"Don't ever become a pessimist... a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events. "

"Everything is theoretically impossible, until it is done."

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy."

"Most moral philosophers consciously or unconsciously assume the essential correctness of our cultural sexual code-family, monogamy, continence, the postulate of privacy that troubled you so, restriction of intercourse to the marriage bed, et cetera. Having stipulated our cultural code as a whole, they fiddle with details- even such piffle as solemnly discussing whether or not the female breast is an 'obscene' sight! But mostly they debate how the human animal can be induced or forced to obey this code, blandly ignoring the high probability that the heartaches and tragedies they see all around them originate in the code itself rather than failure to abide by the code."
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are looking for a real relationship with a long-term goal, and if you feel comfortable starting at a friendship level with both my wife and I.

If you also see the possibility of a future with a chosen family of friends and lovers.