Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Perhaps I'm a familiar face. I've been here before. I thought I'd
give it another go.
I pride myself on being conscientious, loyal and trustworthy. While
I appreciate a little mystery and intrigue in the world of dating,
I really don't have the patience for game playing.
I'm at my best when I'm passionate about something and I'm innately
drawn to intensity. Though I'm often soft spoken and gentle in
demeanor, I doubt any friends would describe me as being a tranquil
My sense of humor tends to run darker than most but I still do
enjoy smiling and having fun (I keep telling myself that
I'm not really the outdoorsy sort. Hiking with the dogs, camping,
going for a dip in a lake…it's just not my thing. Hotels and hot
showers? Now we're talking!
But I do get outside. I adore going to the pool each summer and
though my endurance isn't top notch, I'm a very good swimmer. I
also enjoy monitoring bats as a volunteer for the DNR. When I go to
a park it's often when everyone is heading home. Following trails
and meandering down rivers by night is far more enjoyable in my
opinion and it's a lot more interesting dealing with what I imagine
seeing or hearing in the dark. I haven't encountered a
I'm a night owl through and through. I've tried scheduling myself
doing early shifts at work but all it means is that I take longer
naps. My most creative and energetic times seem to be in the later
evening so I try to make the best of it.
On things domestic--I've never been married and I have no kids. I
do have a house but lack the know-how (and motivation) to truly
improve it. I like to keep myself relatively clean and my home is
an extension of that. I appreciate dramatic colors, art and
lighting so I play to my strengths. I don't have any pets though
I've met one dog and one cat in my life that I thought were truly
special beings. As far as my interest in someday having children of
my own, I'm "fixed" so I'm afraid I can't be very flexible on that
One of my favorite ways to share an evening is listening to music
with beer or wine and discussing more than just the day's events. I
enjoy conversing about psychology, sociology, sexuality and gender,
art (no, probably not paintings, more like music, movies and
books), religion and perhaps a little politics. Though I wouldn't
describe myself as overtly political, I do harbor a handful (or
two) of strongly held beliefs. Having worked at a cooperative
business for many years, I'm more than a touch anti-corporate and
my social views tend to run exceedingly liberal. However, the world
is so complicated that I must admit that too much of any side is
either unworkable or unsustainable.
Spirituality is of some interest of me but I have no path of my
own. I do yoga once a week to increase my ability to be present and
to help avoid injury. If there is something greater than us, it's
been lost on me.
As far as who I'm looking for, it's really difficult to say. One
thing I have learned over the years is that big hair, make up, long
nails and high heels hold absolutely no appeal to me. If you think
of yourself as a bit tough or a tomboy, there's a higher
probability we'd find more in common. As you may have already
concluded, I'm not exactly a guy's guy, so I can only hope that
works for you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I can get lost in the routine of work and the weeks and months can
go by in a blur. It's very fortunate I care deeply about what I
I wish I was traveling more but being a homeowner has stifled much
of my wanderlust. I'd like to say I'm content but that would only
be a half-truth. I'd like to experience more yet I am disappointed
by my relative complacency.
Maintaining strong and caring friendships, and enjoying music,
movies and books are how I often occupy myself. I have an interest
in photography and hope to someday self-publish a racy coffee table
book. My parents are divorced (and live out of town) so I try to
keep them as engaged as I'm able.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hmmm. I suppose if you were to ask my my friends they would say I
should be a counselor as I feel a strong sense of empathy (at least
most of the time). As far as doing stuff: I randomly make music and
artwork (mainly of the graphic design variety), I can throw and
catch a football exceedingly well, I'm an (gods help me) excellent
bowler and I really enjoy teaching wrestling (nothing overtly
competitive--just for fun). Please don't get me wrong, jock or
workout warrior I am not. I'd say I'm very coordinated but then I
remember the time I took a dance class (samba). Let's just say it
could have gone better. I could become a worthy tennis partner with
a little practice.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably that I'm often smiling. Or perhaps that I'm very polite
and reserved (even a bit formal). Yes, that does change quickly
once I feel more at ease. I've been told I have very expressive
hands. I would not fare well in poker though I did play blackjack
in Las Vegas for two hours and came out ahead. Four whole bucks! I
was so proud of myself I gave it all to the dealer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Cliche as it may be, Russian authors are my favorite. The Brother's
Karamazov, Crime and Punishment, The Master and Margarita and
Lolita continue to be my favorites. Victorian era mysteries and
gothic stories have always made me happy. I guess I have a taste
for older books. More modern novels I've enjoyed include
Cruddy, House Of Leaves and Tinkers.
Most horror movies are worthless but it's the good ones that keep
me going. I'm a student of horror films because of the powerful
emotions they can create when executed well. As a child, I was
terrified by many films (though ultimately it was of my own
imagination) and I took it as a challenge. Though I don't care much
for comedies, many of my favorite movies are not horror films at
all. Some of these would be, Inception, The Ninth Gate, Solaris
(2002), Ed Wood, Melancholia, Drive, Her, Blade Runner and Donnie
Darko (boy, did I get in trouble when I recommended that to my 15
year old niece). I think Werner Herzog is the man. Dexter, Top of
The Lake, Game Of Thrones and Louis CK are all things I've been
enjoying on TV.
With music I'm a bit particular. I love making mix CD's! I
appreciate moody music and am the furthest thing from a funk, folk,
or bluegrass lover. I often listen to Ladytron, Broadcast, old
Cure, Front 242 and Siouxsie. I also have a soft spot for European
EBM music like Blutengel and And One but those are more guilty
pleasures. Some black metal and neoclassical music often works it's
way into my playlists. I'd never be dismissive of Duran Duran
or Marc Almond. Scott Walker makes me happy unlike our amazingly
I don't spend a lot of time thinking about or preparing food. Thai
and sushi are my favorites when I go out. Cheese curds and deep
fried pickles…and beer are also right up there. Just no fast food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why we believe in the things that they do.
If we are meant to be something more than animals (no disrespect to
other mammals and cephalopods).
What happens to us when we die and what we're supposed to be doing
here (I suppose this also includes online dating).
How excellent it would be if there were ghosts, secret societies
and giant (and I mean GIANT) squids.
The people I care about and how I can make their lives better
You should message me if
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You can relate to at least some of what I've written. I know that
none of this is easy or comfortable and that it's very easy to take
a passive role on these sites. I do appreciate and admire people
who can be assertive and thoughtful at the same time.
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