Pricks are spontaneous , unpredictable and fun and then were surprised when they turn out to be pricks

 

Folks, I'm curious about your take on the above quote.

Go for it.

 

--Ray

Using only song names from ONE ARTIST, cleverly answer these questions. Pass it on to 15 people you like and include me. You can't use the artist I used. Try not to repeat a song title. It's a lot harder than you think! Repost as "my life according to (band name)"

Pick Your Artist:
Incubus

Are you a boy or a girl:
Shaft

Describe yourself:
Stellar, Sick Sad Little World, Nowhere Fast <3 songs>

How do you feel:
I Miss You, I Wish You Were Here <2 songs>

Describe where you currently live:
Here in my Room

If you could go anywhere, where would you go:
Mexico

Your favorite form of transportation:
Drive

Your best friend is:
Oil and Water

What's the weather like:
The Warmth

Your favorite time of day:
11 AM

If your life was a tv show, what would it be called:
Pendulous Threads

What is life to you:
Echo

Your last relationship was:
Summer Romance, Wish You Were Here

Your current relationship:
Neither of us can See

Your biggest fear:
Consequences, When it Comes

What is the best advice you have to give:
Make A Move, Make Yourself

If you could change your name, you would change it to:
Glass

How I would like to die:
Quicksand

My soul's present condition:
Love Hurts

My motto:
Are You In

So, I was recently informed that a friend of mine has never been on a date.  She hangs out with guys she's "talking" to, they fool around. and that's about it.  I started asking a number of my friends about it, and it seems to be a growing trend. 

People in any sort of relationship, dating, seeing each other, fooling around, etc, do not GO on DATES anymore. 

..aside from going to the movies or something to eat, but even those seem to be less dates more time killers for them...

I was always under the impression that the date was an important part of the whole courting process.  It takes a little imagination and, assuming it goes well, can be a memorable thing.

So, i kidnapped my friend, and drove 3 hours to a store that she'd be interested in near the beach.  We walked around, I picked up a trinket she was eyeing, did the beach thing, and came back ( with her bag filled with shells) and ate crepes at a little bistro.

Took no planning, barely any though, a little internet research and a gps.  She seemed thrilled and we joked about her getting her first date from a guy she's not seeing instead of the 4 that she is.

Is the no date thing common or is it only in my area or my social group?  Or do their tastes in men simply suck?

And there she was, a slender woman standing, all graceful curves and poised reserve. She wore a pair of blue jeans over long, coltish legs, a simple t-shirt, and a silver pentacle hanging outside of it, resting on the curve of her chest.
Her skin was pale, like the inner skin of an oak, the living part of the tree, her hair a deep brown, the color of the moonlit forest in fall, her eyes, mirrored in its shade. Her fine mouth twitched, first into a smile, then a frown.


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She lowered her hands and closed the distance between us. She lifted herself onto her toes, to kiss my cheek. She smelt like wildflowers and and sun drenched summer afternoons. She drew back enough to focus on my face, and my eyes, her own expression gentle and concerned.

Well.. it's a mini rant.
It's mostly a chance to make that long post, so I can get my percentage up.
But also, it was a response to somebody's question, about their frustration over the "3 day rule."

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I may break "man law" here, but ah well. I lost my membership card years ago anyway.. or maybe I burned it in a bonfire.

There does exist a 3 day rule.
It's bullshit.. but it's there.
And yes, it's to keep distance, control, ect.

HOWEVER, it's also there for protection.
To keep a guy from being... THAT guy...
You know.. THAT guy. The one that's on top of you all the time trying to talk to you, get you, blah blah blah.

If a guy's into you, he might be afraid of scaring you off by being... THAT guy.
And tell me it hasn't happened in the past. If not with you, then with somebody you know. That you havent heard that person complaining that this guy or gal they just met wont leave them alone.

The control aspect? Not as many guys look at it this way, but I know a few that do. It makes it seem that the guy is slightly disinterested. If they girl is interested, it makes her anxious. Happier when he DOES call. More likely to agree to suggestions. It works both ways, but stereotypically ( and practically ) it is generally practiced by men.

I personally hate the "game." The one where guys have to pretend that they aren't interested. So that women can pretend that they don't know that the guy is interested. So that men can pretend that they don't know that the woman is pretending, and get on with the douchbagery that is telling half-truths.
But... on the other hand... you can't just come out and say, "I Like You."
It's too honest. It's too easy. It's too genuine.
It's too scary to most people.

I wish we could just skip all the drama and the bull and jump into the middle of a conversation. One where we're actually talking, not playing a game, not trying to set up for the next move.
I don't like looking at the piano keys when I play, I don't like looking at thee kyboard while I type, I don't like looking at the options while I'm trying to actually enjoy a person's company.

But what do I know?

I'm just trying to be honest.
Nobody needs that, right?