You: Are you friendly, interested in the arts, music, literature, responsive to friendly banter, quick to laugh and fun to be with? Are you a good, decent, loyal, faithful and honest lady, of high quality. friendly demeanor and have a good personality? Are you a teacher, nurse, psychologist, artist, dancer, musician or into marketing? Are you educated and refined? Do you have a degree in the arts or a social field? When I say, "we're going out for a fine dinner," do you hunt down and put on your most beautiful dress, make yourself pretty and hop in the car?
Me: I'm world-traveled, have actually lived in many places in the world, enjoy having fun with exciting things to do, in the water, at the park, cookouts, camping, hiking, biking, walking, beach-coming, sailing, boating, fishing, scuba. I don't care for watching sports - I prefer to PLAY. I have no idea who won the Superbowl and I don't care.
You: Do you love a man who loves to have fun, go to places (sometimes on the other side of the world), get out and have a day at the beach or even just have fun at home? Are you ready for another crazy, wild adventure, off in the sailboat to "god-knows-where"? When I say, "we're going to the beach," do you start packing a lunch, getting out beach towels and hop in the car, raring to go?
Me: I work out regularly and take care of myself, I cook my own meals, bake my own bread and avoid processed foods. I'm very food-conscious, and particular about a healthy diet.
You: Are you concerned about your own health and taking care of yourself? Are you a health nut? Is a good workout better than a frosting-covered cake? Do you read the labels on boxes of food before you buy them? (I'm not talking about being rail-thin, having an unhealthy attitude about self-image, or starving yourself to please others.) If I say, "Let's make dinner!" do you have a few healthy recipes of your own to share?
Me: I lived in my last home for 18 years, my new home for only two years, with a side-trip to Kentucky for a year, but the idea of being tied to one place (or home) is oppressive to me. If l like where I am, I'll probably hang here for a while, but if my feet get itchy, I have no compunction about picking up and going somewhere else.
You: Are you adaptable to change? If you were a military brat, you could be amenable to moving every once in a while (two, five, ten years apart - who knows)? Are you quick to make new friends? Do you keep in touch with old friends in Malaysia (or Morocco, or Spain, or maybe just New Orleans)? When I say, "We're moving to the North Pole!" do you run and grab your parka and snow boots?
Me: I'm ex-military, a war veteran. I was born and raised in the military (as a military brat), and hardly ever left. As soon as my Dad retired, I joined up. I did my four (six if you count inactive reserves), got out and went to college on the GI bill, then I went to work as an engineer, designing and building machines for the military.
You: Do you love military men? Did you grow up a military brat? Do you know where the BX is? Do you know WHAT a BX is? Did you get along with the discipline that came with a military upbringing? When you think of veterans, do you think of successful ex-military men (and women) who have built lives out of their military background?
Me: I'm okay with either having children or if you have children. If they're our children, then I'm a solid dad. I spend time with children and I know how to have fun with them, without hurting them (too much - okay, just a scratch now and then - waddaya want? It was just a small bruise - I threw the ball a little too fast - (s)he'll be fine"). If the children are not mine, then before we begin any relationship, it will have to be clear that they are your children, not mine, and I'm not here to raise them or be their stand-in father.
You: Are you okay with having children (if you're still in childbearing years)? If you have children already, are you alright that I'm not going to raise your children or be their stand-in father (they should have one already - unless you're widowed)? Are you okay that I won't be a "financial resource" when it comes to school supplies, groceries, clothing, college or other childcare expenses?
If you said "yes" to all (or perhaps even most) of these questions, then you need to contact me right away!