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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:03pm
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Until recently I was in a flexible partnership with an amazing woman I met here. She knows me well, and offers the following testimonial:

"This man is like caramel pudding with dark chocolate chunks throughout....then a crunch when you least expect it.

He's smooth and silky, physically and incredibly easy to get along with....doesn't trip on sh*t, stays on his side of the fence, and is a great communicator (most of the time).

He's also got great, well-thought out progressive/radical politics, and can discuss history and current events intelligently, without posturing (all too rare among tall, blue-eyed white males).

He's implicitly and explicitly feminist, and is smart and sexy enough to be able to separate out sexual power dynamics (for example, if you have a submissive streak...) from real world egalitarianism.

He's always up for a fun time, especially in the social realm, and generally has sparkling ideas of his own for what to do on a date, as well. He's a happy camper, for the most part, who can play on many levels, hold you when you're sad, and listen without trying to fix it. Trustworthy, sane, warm funny, and sexy as hell....what's not to love?"

Why did we part ways?

I'm on a journey that is likely to take me to a number of places over the next two years.

What am I looking for?

Someone to enjoy the moment with.

Someone who appreciates me and respects my journey.

Perhaps someone who is herself a traveler or in transition, and who gets it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Dancing. Singing. Camping. Learning Japanese. Hiking. Soaking. Traveling. Supporting and cheering on the Sanders campaign.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning foreign languages. Massage. Empathy. Being present. Owning my feelings and staying on my side of the fence.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My blue eyes and my calming presence. Broad shoulders,
People who know me well have said I have "clean energy".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Rumi. Hafiz.
Kundera. Bukowski. Miler. Nin.
Dr. Who
Big Blue Marble (my childhood ended when they cancelled that program)
Mark Twain. Jonathan Swift. Oscar Wilde
Sex at Dawn and similar works of nonfiction.
Currently enthralled by "1491"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Juicer. iPhone. Laptop. Coconut oil. Passport. Being.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the time, walking about in New Delhi, I was accused of resembling an Indian Movie Star.

Connection and autonomy.....autonomy and connection.


What makes hair pulling so damn hot?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
noticing FOMO but not attaching to it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like samurai movies.
I am 2.7 percent Neanderthal.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...if you walk into a room and start to make things more beautiful with your presence..... want connection, compersion, companionship, chocolate, community, cuddling, or and/all of the above...

...if you have a hall pass you'd like to show me... live through the heart..... live your 100 %

...if you get that poly is not about random hook-ups....being "friends with benefits" starts with friendship.