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46 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:12pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Not at all
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Dutch (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Filter: I'm in an open relationship with CorporiSapient.
Perhaps you have found me from her page. Welcome, friend.

(If you are active on this site, you probably have already formed an opinion about polyamory. If not, here's a good starting point:

....And now, for those who are still reading.....a little bit about me....

Peripatetic. Iterant. Polyamorous. Polyglot.

Joyful. Fun. At times hilarious. Empathic. Curious.

I used to think I was INFP.

Now I realize that I am simply an intuitive extrovert who gets overwhelmed in crowds. So ENFP.

Not currently accepting applications for closed relationships. So if you're open, good news, so am I! :)

Born and raised in Northern California. Spent my early sturm und drang adulthood teaching English in Berlin, Germany and returned to Northern California for a career change, night law school, home ownership, two midlife crises and a divorce.

...all that was solid melted into the air....

...dizziness was followed by weirdness then giddiness as I slowly entered the strange world of workshops, potlucks, dance parties, meetup groups, and internet dating....

....and I've never felt more alive.....throughout the elation and heartbreak, things just seem to get lighter....happier....what a wild ride!

...and now....I'm traveling around the world and would love to meet like-hearted souls, fellow travelers, Wwoofers, adventurers, radicals, free spirits, artists, elves, feys, woodland nymphs, dancers, unicorns, and other magical forest denizens.

I often make new friends through this site, and when that happens, my life is all the richer for it.

And sometimes the Universe sends someone magical my way, and we create magic together!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Dancing. Singing. Camping. Learning Japanese. Reading Dutch. Hiking. Soaking. Traveling.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning foreign languages. Massage. Empathy. Being present.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My blue eyes and my calming presence. Broad shoulders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Rumi. Hafiz.
Kundera. Bukowski. Miler. Nin.
Dr. Who
Big Blue Marble (my childhood ended when they cancelled that program)
Mark Twain. Jonathan Swift. Oscar Wilde
Sex at Dawn and similar works of nonfiction.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Juicer. iPhone. Laptop. Coconut oil. Passport. Being.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the time, walking about in New Delhi, I was accused of resembling an Indian movie star.

The masculine essence and the feminine essence. What they need from each other. How they frequently get it wrong when they want so sincerely to get it right.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
noticing FOMA but not attaching to it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you see that I have visited you, it means that I read your profile and I'm curious. :)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...if you walk into a room and start to make things more beautiful with your presence..... want connection, compersion, companionship, chocolate, community, cuddling, or and/all of the above...

...if you have a hall pass you'd like to show me... live through the heart..... live your 100%... are an amazing woman willing to connect with an amazing man....

...if you'd like to call me out on the one word I've intentionally misspelled in this profile.... know some great hiking trails or live music venues...

...Je wil Nederlands met mij spreken....

...if you are a flight attendant, frequent business traveler, EFL teacher, iterant document reviewer or otherwise get my lifestyle....

...if you'd like to inform me that, while no actual misspellings came to your attention, you did find a glaring malapropism....

....if you'd like to regale me with scrumptious neologisms....

...Du willst meine vorgeschichtliche Briefmarkensammlung besichtigen... are a swinger and would like to invite me/us to a really awesome party...

....if you have an orchard and would like to invite me to partake of your fruit....

...if you don't automatically assume the above sentence to be a metaphor....

Or...If you are a digital nomad and might like to pitch your tent next to mine for a while.