Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm not going to pretend to be amazing. I'm just me and I'd like to
connect with someone who, like me, is cute, creative, smart,
caring, playful, warm, loving, companionable, fun, laidback,
adventurous and willing. But also handsome and charming - but not a
playa, please, and on other hand, not controlling either. I want to
meet someone who is ready and eager to love me just as I am, and
who is not afraid to be loved back, for I am intensely
I'm a Myers-Briggs INFP. Currently living in BC.
Never been married, never had kids (not the human kind).
Montreal-born, Sydney (Australia) raised. Lived the first half of
my life in Sydney, Australia, and the second half in Northern
Hmm I should say that I am 44, born in 1971. Just wanted to mention
that as people have told me they thought the age was a mistake.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
What am I doing with my life? First of all working to pay the
And then after that my first priority is to be healthy and
physically active, as this is one thing I CAN control, or at least
make the best of. My favourite workouts are swimming long distances
(particularly in natural bodies of water) and walking up and
running down very steep hills. It's a fantastic workout. I also
enjoy heavy duty power yoga, which I do every day without fail to
keep my body feeling loose, limber and toned like a 20 year old. I
just wouldn't be the same without it!
I love exploring new places and just recently travelled by myself
to the National Olympic Park at Port Angeles, Washington and also
spent a couple of days in Bellingham. Washington was great. Next
time I'm taking a sleeping bag and bivvy to get more vacation for
I enjoy photography and just picked up my first (second-hand but a
year old) DSLR camera to play with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
☆Taking very good care of fluffy guinea pigs (although I don't have
any currently) and being kind to animals in general. However I am
very allergic to cats and most dogs, but am going to start allergy
shots soon to see if I can eliminate this. I never say never, and
even now there could be individual dogs/cats that I might be okay
☆Having really outstanding oral hygiene, and it is important to me
that anyone I date also has good oral hygiene.
☆Catching onto musical instruments quickly - I can play several
although I haven't pursued any in great depth.
☆Detecting odours. I have the most amazing sniffer and am very
sensitive to smells.
☆Taking photographs creatively.
☆Having a sense of humour.
☆Having compassion (learning limits though).
☆Being very human (been told I do that very well - whatever that
The first things people usually notice about me
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a very calm, serene presence, and if I'm speaking, an Aussie
accent. They usually think I'm younger than I really am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books & Authors: The Te of Piglet
, Jane Austen
about Physical Anthropology
many more! One of my favourites is The Pursuit of
by E. Perry Good
. Its wisdom saved me
at 20 years old. I'm reviewing it and being saved by it again 23
years after the first reading. I haven't read 1/100th of what I'd
like to. To be honest my energies have been taken up with just
Movies/TV Shows, Actors/Entertainers, Writers/Directors: Remi Gaillard
(French director/comedian), Jane Eyre
, Bridget Jones's Diary
, American Beauty
, Magdalene Sisters
, To Kill a
, Local Hero
, The Piano
with Holly Hunter, My Left Foot
, Alice in Wonderland
, period pieces such as Marie Antoinette
and Pride and
, Battlestar Galactica
old & new), Tim
- in particular "May
" and "Sick Girl"
(House of Horrors)
, Ang Lee
, Colin Firth
, Kirsten Dunst
, Minnie Driver
, Kevin Spacey
, Dylan Moran
, Jane Horrocks
, Woody Allen
, Barry Humphries
, Michael Moore
) and many
Some examples of Music I like are Lily Allen
/Lord of the Dance
), David Byrne
, The Cure
, Bright Eyes
(Simon & Garfunkel),
, David Bowie
, Kate Bush
, Depeche Mode
, most 80s' music
and modernised classical
in general, Ennio Morricone
and many more... To
be honest I'm the biggest John Denver
fan I know. Yes I know
he's dead but his spirit will never die.
My favourite cuisines are Malaysian
, East Indian
. I love most food except for
seafood. I am mostly vegan
. It's not that I don't like the
taste of meat, I just don't like the way animals are treated in the
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
☆A clean, unpolluted environment, ☆a fit/healthy body, ☆a positive
, ☆sense of humour
, ☆my car,
and ☆iPhone. Another thing I can't do without is good family and
good friends in the flesh, but I don't have either of those in this
place, so I don't function ideally here, but I AM a survivor. My
time is coming.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately, especially with a recent trip to the USA, realising maybe
I've lived half my life in the wrong country (Canada). I'm perhaps
more Australian than Canadian in that I'm more open, friendly and
straightforward. I never really quite felt at home in Canada!
Canadians are a little too reserved and traditional for me. What I
find very attractive is a combination of energy/drive, emotional
intelligence, compassion, open-mindedness, confidence, courage,
honesty/forthrightness, humility, openness and genuine
outgoingness. Also I am very questioning. I feel it's healthy and I
question everything. I find this makes Canadians uncomfortable and
when I go to the US, often I feel right at home in that sense. If I
met a Canadian who seemed right for me I would throw all this out
the window, however something tells me any Canadian that was "right
for me" would have left Canada already. I'm working on leaving it,
or at least moving to a more tolerable part of it with a better
energy for me, such as Victoria? And that way I'd be closer to the
US as well for more diversity. But I'd be willing to try living
just about anywhere that fits certain cosmopolitan, cultural and
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday is just another night for me.
But I'll use this space to fit this in: I'm saddened by the number
of people that message me and then deactivate their profile before
I can even reply. What is going on there??? Or are they blocking
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well this is not really private as it's indicated by my OKC
personality traits, but I am not driven by sex. I always seek
friendship FIRST. Sex, for me, should fall into place naturally
after the more important psychological elements of a relationship;
like a feeling of trust, safety, chemistry, wellbeing. I need to be
valued for many things apart from my body/sexuality. I know I will
get less interest for having said this, but I need to weed out
those that are just not looking for what I'm looking for. Also,
people get old and lose their looks etc. It's so important to just
like a person for who they are first of all and to be friends
first. Everything else is a bonus. Also I wanna say this is not an
issue of chastity, but the fact that I'm a very cerebral person and
my mind must be turned on before my body can be turned on.
Another thing that I will admit is that I survived the type of
childhood that would have caused many the average soul to have
committed suicide by now or be attached permanently to the psych
ward. It has stunted me greatly but I chose life and sanity, and
trust my innate intelligence, which is all I have (having no family
that is sane, and living currently in a very harsh environment on
many levels) to get me through. My past has also given me a
bottomless pit of tolerance and compassion, which can be taken
advantage of. And the fact this is a troubled society makes it more
Thirdly, I have been on OKC about 17 years now and on the whole,
guys on here have expected me to travel great distances to meet
them, not just for the first date but subsequent ones as well. That
is no way to treat a lady and basically, if you aren't interested
in making the effort I won't be making the effort for you.
You should message me if
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you think we might ☆☆☆ hit it off ☆☆☆ or if your guinea pig or
rabbit needs a new friend. You should love animals although I am
allergic to cats and dogs. You are an honest, sensitive, courageous
person with a healthy balance between self esteem and compassion,
health-oriented with good self-care, respectful of animals and
people with good hygiene and you don't smoke or do drugs. Please do
NOT message me if you are married, in a relationship, not ready for
commitment, taking drugs or are otherwise emotionally available.
Not interested in being codependent to anyone's addiction or double
life. I've got my act together, so to speak, and so should you.
Thanks for reading.
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