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30 Bellingham, WA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 16
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Other, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Doesn’t want kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***This profile is in need of an overhaul, it has been a few years since I went through and updated. Stay tuned for more 11/19/13***

I have and for always will hate writing descriptions of myself. I think it has something to do with observer bias, if there is anyone you shouldn't trust to describe me, its me. Trust me. I'll tell you I'm awesome, and mean every word of it. I might even be right some days. I think I'm smart, funny, sexy, amusing, comforting (insert a long litany of positive adjectives here), but again, I'm biased. I have to live with myself, and if I don't say nice things about myself I'll have to become very cross with myself, and then no one wins.

I find myself editing this this constantly, I think its the fact that usually as soon as I state something in concrete terms, I start to question myself, because I hate certainty, especially in self identification. We all change so much and so quickly that I almost fear saying that I am any specific way for fear of someone reading something I wrote in the past and those words no longer applying. Does that make sense?

I generally only message people who mutually rate each other highly, I know most people out there aren't poly and I dislike bothering people who aren't poly friendly.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Work, swordfight, sleep, repeat.

I also got married to a wonderful woman 7 years ago, Ambershanks . She may be the best thing that ever happened to me, and we work wonderfully well together. This would probably be a good place to mention that we are poly. Don't let that scare you off, we don't bite, we promise. Unless you ask. In which case arrangements might be able to be made. However on that note and for those of you in the know, I'm not unicorn hunting, just looking for someone to spend some enjoyable time with, the exact details to be determined. Just friends would be awesome, actually, there are potential pressures to dating and some days I think all I'm really for is another cool person to hang out with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Memorizing trivial details, preferably en masse. Yes, I'm a gamer. How could you tell?

I really enjoy having long conversations. I love talking to people, especially people that I disagree with. I think how people are different is frequently more interesting that how we're alike. I know what I'm like and I'm perfectly willing to talk about that, however I what to know what YOU'RE like, what you think, and what you're going with your life.

I'm great at sarcasm and snarking. Watching good movies is fun and all, but making fun of bad movies is so much better. I've been on a huge foreign movie kick lately as well, seen anything you can recommend?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My attitude. I"m very confident, but my views are far enough from mainstream (not that there is necessarily anything wrong with mainstream ideas, if they are good ones) that I frequently get asked (or yelled at, or confronted or some other strong reaction) why I say what I do. Given that I think its vital to a well lived life to understand your own reasons for being how you are, the question of why I think the way I do can be a long answer.

The other thing people tend to notice about me is my eyes, they are very very blue, and I think I get more comments about them than any other physical feature.

My hair is also shorter than in my profile pictures, its still long but only shoulder length these days. I'll get new pics up soon, I promise!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite movie is, still and always, Star Wars. It was one of the first movies I ever saw, and loved it ever since, even after Lucas ruined the series with the new movies. I also enjoy most modern sci-fi and fantasy movies out there. Want details? You should message me.

Favorite books: I'm going to have to go with Lord of the Rings for nostalgia, I had them read to me as bed-time stories as a kid. I also enjoy George R.R. Martins Saga of Fire and Ice Series, I think that its some of the best written fantasy series of all time.

Music: I like anything with a good beat. I've been listening to lots of Alestorm, Juno Reactor and Turisas lately, but my all time favorites would have to be Tool and NiN (clique I know, but I think that both Reznor and Maynard are genius). Synphonic metal has been a new discovery for me, and Epica has made it into my regular rotation.

Food: Spicier the better.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Only 6? I actually really hate this question, so it gets no answer.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Nerdy/geeky stuff. But you don't want to hear about that. Unless your also a nerd/geek, in which case you should definitely message me about it. I'll be interested, I promise. The more obscure the better.

Occasionally I consider that I frequently spend copious amounts of time engaging in long winded verbage in response to queries for personal information that may or may not be adequately summarized into concise forms such as "Yes", "No", and "Of course I like Sushi."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, frequently at Rumours or a friends house. While I enjoy intellectual pursuits quite a bit, I think getting out and enjoying all the world has to offer is vital, too many people shelter themselves away from real world experience, preferring to read about something rather than do it. I think thats silly, and those people should be grabbed, slapped in a bar stool, given a round or two, then forced to talk about something irrelevant. Because the easiest way to find out what someone really thinks is clearly booze. /sarcasm off
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That secretly I like being a nice guy. Shhh! Don't tell anyone! It'd ruin my image. Not sure exactly how, but it sounds good right?

I'm also willing to admit that I'll try almost anything once, twice if it was fun.

Some days I like listening to pop music. Seriously.
You should message me if
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You should message me. Initiative and aggression are two of my favorite traits in people. Anyone who can take the first step has already made a favorable impression.

Or if you want to. I like talking to everyone. I especially enjoy talking to others who are/have been polyamorous, hearing how others have made it work gives me more insight into how I might live my own life. If nothing else poly people tend to have good stories. Of course if you aren't poly and have good stories, I'd love to hear from you too.