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39 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:38am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The country I come from is called the Midwest. I've lived in San Francisco since the turn of the millennium.

I'm a European mutt, the largest accountable percentage of my lineage is Danish (mostly cheese filled, I'd suspect).

I live in the moment, just maybe not the current* one.

I consider myself to be a disillusioned optimist.

All I know is what I read on the Internets.

I am kind, sweet, witty ... no I am a man! Not a list of adjectives!

Yellow is a sadly neglected and misunderstood/mischaracterized color. The world needs more of it.

Sarah: You're not serious are you?
The Doctor: About what I do? Yes. Not necessarily about the way I do it.

The theory these days is that the universe is largely composed of dark matter and dark energy, the latter of which has yet to be detected. The dark matter is of course made up of things that have been lost, mostly socks. The dark energy likely derives from the universe's sense of humor and sarcasm, both of which are very subtle in my experience.

I have not been to nor do I have any intention of ever going to Las Vegas.

A song is something you sing. If I like singing it to myself as I'm walking down the street, that's how I know I've written a song.

I am a collector at heart -- music, tea, jazz festival t-shirts, books, ceramic cookware, guitars, dust bunnies ... I enjoy being able to appreciate the different qualities and varieties of something, to cultivate a knowledge of the different shapes, aromas or tones or what have you, to be surrounded by something you love and have all these varieties to chose from and further explore. This this altogether different than hoarding.

I'm looking for someone who's goofy enough to not take herself too seriously but not afraid to be genuine and open. Someone who is kind. Someone who likes to banter about with words. Someone who likes to cuddle.

Time does not make itself.

No smokers. No heavy drinkers. No religious freakers.

* There are lots of lovely moments, in the past, the future, or just imagined -- it seems silly to confine yourself to just the present one.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
While my days during the week are spent moving semi random bits about -- or programming, as they are apt to call it -- at night -- well that's when it's time to go see some jazz (my name is on the wall at the new SF Jazz Center) or a movie or even the symphony, ballet or opera. Or creating something of my own with paint or sound. Maybe on a weekend hike up in Marin or just a bike ride through Golden Gate Park.

Basically partaking in all that San Francisco and the Bay Area has to offer both in terms of culture and natural beauty.

I'm passionate about composing music and painting..

And of course, there's travel -- I have a long list of places to go to to add to the places I've been.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I make a mean tagine.

And fairly well-adjusted Rissotto.

I like to cook, especially Mediterranean, especially in clay pots -- I love my cazuela and my Schlemertopf baker.

I play guitar. Strictly speaking, this is not relevant to the question.

I'm pretty darn good at planning trips -- granted, they tend to be centered around jazz festivals. But those are just for providing the starting point for planning a much larger adventure.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I no longer wear glasses...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Non-fiction books with numbers in their title (1492, 1493) or anything by Tom Holland or Jared Diamond. Also Vonnegut and Hemingway.

Shows: The Daily Show, the Colbert Report, Doctor Who, Game of Thrones.

Movies: Cohen Bros, Charlie Kaufman, Alfred Hitchock, Robert Altman, Clint Eastwood, David Cronenberg, Woody Allen, the original Star Wars Trilogy. Suspense/Thriller (NOT Horror) is probably my favorite genre.

Music: (Too much) Jazz (probably): Miles, Coltrane, Ellington, Mingus, Bill Evans, the Bad Plus, Carla Bley, Dexter Gordan, Melody Gardot (my pretend girlfriend), Esperanza Spalding (my other pretend girlfriend) -- the list could go on and on. Random stuff I pick up at festivals. Classic Rock: Beatles, Bob Dylan, Rolling Stones, Neil Young, Led Zeppelin, Frank Zappa. Classical: Rachmaninoff, Tchaikovsky, Phillip Glass, John Adams. Also some Latin, blues and misc. stuff. The occasional Bulgarian choir and whatever you'd classify Goran Bregovic as.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Coffee and or tea
Dark Chocolate
Naps on Sunny Afternoons
and Cheese
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Travel plans -- I've been to 7 of the 16 IJFO member jazz festivals and I intend to visit them all.

The jazz festivals of course only serve as an anchor for a far more far ranging trip.

Weird and fascinating fact: If you wait for people to get off the train, it's easier for you to get on. It's hard to believe, I know! But it's 100% true!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
One of the following five things will likely happen:

A) Play at the open mic at Cafe International.
B) Go to a show at the SF Jazz center.
C) Break out the acrylics and paint until an absurdly late hour.
D) Practice guitar or compose a song.
E) Fall asleep early on my big comfy navy blue sofa because I am tired from the week.

That's right, you heard me, I didn't go with some bland neutral color for my sofa -- my sofa makes a statement, darn it. That statement loosely translates to "sleep on me."

No points will be awarded for correctly guessing which is the most likely to happen.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Given the content of my songs, there's apparently surprising little I won't admit.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're looking for fun, to explore the city and enjoy its cultural and culinary riches. Or you feel the need to snuggle up with someone and watch a movie.

You know you want to.

Do it. Do it now!

*Situationally unaware and flaky commitmentphobes need not apply. You know who you are. Actually you probably don't. Okay, short quiz -- one point per answer:

___ You have texted while walking and bumped into someone. Give yourself an extra point if you got angry at the person you bumped into.

___ When asked if you want to do something you find saying "I'm really busy lately and don't have time to do anything" is a pretty handy way to avoid actually saying "yes" or "no." Bonus point if you really *like* telling people how busy you are.

___ When you have actually told someone you would do something with them, you simply don't show up or only text them to say so within 10 minutes of the supposed meet up time.

___ When someone does something you don't like, you tend to just drop off the face of the earth and avoid contact for the rest of your life rather than assert a boundary or make your feelings known and at least try to smooth things out.

Did you get 1 or more points? Congratulations! You can safely skip to the next profile in what is likely to be a long and fruitless endeavor.