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MelodiousMonk

38 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 10
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
The country I come from is called the Midwest. I've lived in San Francisco since the turn of the millennium and I've been in the Bay Area for just a bit before that.

I'm a European mutt, the largest accountable percentage of my lineage is Danish (cheese filled, I'd suspect).

I live in the moment, just maybe not the current* one.

I consider myself to be a disillusioned optimist.

All I know is what I read on the Internets.

I am kind, sweet, witty ... no I am a man! Not a list of adjectives!

Yellow is a sadly neglected and misunderstood/mischaracterized color. The world needs more of it.

I'm pretty sure the universe has a sense of humor/irony. I will curse its indifferent indifference from time to time ("Why me? Why anyone?") but I also admit sometimes I feel like it's looking out for me.

I have not been to nor do I have any intention of ever going to Las Vegas.

A song is something you sing. If I like singing it to myself as I'm walking down the street, that's how I know I've written a song.

I am a collector at heart -- music, tea, jazz festival tea shirts, books, ceramic cookware, guitars, dust bunnies ... You could say I have a collection of collections. There's something about being able to appreciate the different qualities and varieties of something, to cultivate a knowledge of the different shapes, aromas or tones or what have you, to be surrounded by something you love and have all these varieties to chose from and further explore. A collection is curated and has limitations imposed on it. This this altogether different than hoarding.

I'm looking for someone who's goofy enough to not take herself too seriously but not afraid to be genuine and open. Someone who is kind. Someone who likes to banter about with words. Someone who likes to cuddle.

No smokers. No heavy drinkers. No religious freakers.

* There are lots of lovely moments, in the past, the future, or just imagined -- it seems silly to confine yourself to just the present one.
What I’m doing with my life
While my days during the week are spent moving semi random bits about -- programming and software architecting -- at night -- well that's when it's time to go see some jazz (my name is on the wall at the new SF Jazz Center) or a movie or even the symphony, ballet or opera. Or creating something of my own with paint or sound. Maybe on a weekend hike up in Marin or just a bike ride through Golden Gate Park. Basically partaking in all that San Francisco and the Bay Area has to offer both in terms of culture and natural beauty.

I have been on a composing and painting binge lately.

And of course, there's travel -- I have a long list of places to go to to add to the places I've been.
I’m really good at
I make a mean tagine -- I like to cook, especially Medterranean, especially in clay pots -- I love my cazuela and my Schlemertopf baker.

I play guitar -- mostly for banging around on chords for Beatles and Bob Dylan songs . I write songs too...

I'm pretty darn good at planning trips -- granted, they tend to be centered around jazz festivals. But those are just for providing the starting point for planning a much larger adventure.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Non-fiction books with numbers in their title (1492, 1493) or anything by Tom Holland or Jared Diamond. Also Vonnegut and Hemingway.

Shows: The Daily Show, the Colbert Report, Doctor Who, Game of Thrones.

Movies: Cohen Bros, Charlie Kaufman, Alfred Hitchock, Robert Altman, Clint Eastwood, David Cronenberg, Woody Allen, the original Star Wars Trilogy. Suspense/Thriller (NOT Horror) is probably my favorite genre.

Music: (Too much) Jazz (probably): Miles, Coltrane, Ellington, Mingus, Bill Evans, the Bad Plus, Carla Bley, Dexter Gordan, Melody Gardot (my pretend girlfriend), Esperanza Spalding (my other pretend girlfriend) -- the list could go on and on. Random stuff I pick up at festivals. Classic Rock: Beatles, Bob Dylan, Rolling Stones, Neil Young, Led Zeppelin, Frank Zappa. Classical: Rachmaninoff, Tchaikovsky, Phillip Glass, John Adams. Also some Latin, blues and misc. stuff. The occasional Bulgarian choir and whatever you'd classify Goran Bregovic as.
The six things I could never do without
Coffee and or tea
Dark Chocolate
Cheese
Music
Naps on Sunny Afternoons
and Cheese
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Travel plans -- I've been to 7 of the 16 IJFO member jazz festivals and I intend to visit them all.
On a typical Friday night I am
One of the following five things will likely happen:

A) I go play at the open mic at Cafe International
B) I go to a show at the SF Jazz center
C) I break out the acrylics and paint until an absurdly late hour
D) I practice guitar or compose a song
E) I fall asleep early because I am tired from the week

No points will be awarded for correctly guessing which is the most likely to happen.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I know how much wood a woodchuck would chuck if it was so inclined.

Also, I follow Marvels Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. -- it started out as my "junk food" show to watch but got pretty good towards the end, I swear!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–41
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
If you're looking for fun, to explore the city and enjoy its cultural and culinary riches. Or you feel the need to snuggle up with someone and watch a movie.

Do it. Do it now!