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39 F Bonney Lake, WA

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4′ 10″ (1.47m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has cats

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My self-summary
"Courage is a love affair with the unknown." Osho

I've spent most of my life being "happy." Then I learned how to come undone. I had this vision of becoming "whole." Whole, I believe, is something you are to the degree that you are present with what is--to the degree that you engage authentically with life as it happens. However, the notion that I may some day be perfectly whole and forever happy is now an illusion which led me here: Wholeness IS--for everyone whether they know it or not. AND my experience, no matter what it looks like, is an expression of that. What that means is that even the broken-hearted, aching, misery that I have journeyed through (with an openness and courage I am proud of) is also an expression of my wholeness. It's how I meet life that makes me feel whole, not how perfect I appear to be. Because I will never find an end to my opening or deepening. Life's mystery is infinite. Best just to live in it moment to moment.

"As your area of knowledge grows, so too does your perimeter of ignorance", Neil Degrasse Tyson.

That being said, I enjoy most the people who are no longer hiding from all that life brings to them and their true experience of it; It doesn't have to look pretty. They allow that they are Creators, but also allow life to have its way with them and then deal presently with the new currents that are left behind. Life is this beautiful conversation that causes us to change in every moment as we bring it in, allowing ourselves to be "touched" by it all. The real joy comes in knowing the holiness of every moment--the gift of love being born through it all.

Emotions are what move me. Don't hold back. I like people who know how to make self-reflection an amazing experience and are comfortable doing that with their beloved. Please don't hide from me.

I love authentic people who genuinely love themselves, know what they want in life, and offer all of themselves to every situation. That's a tall order, and maybe they don't get this in every moment. Maybe they have fleeting doubts and say, "Fuck it!" sometimes. But that's awesome too. I like the people around me to do whatever pleases them fully without guilt, apology, or excuses. It doesn't matter to me if the action is sleeping or some more productive activity. And I do my best to do the same. It is very sad to me to discover that someone did something for me that they did not want to do or enjoy doing. This builds resentment and co-dependency. For me giving comes without thought or expectation. I love knowing that those around me give with the same genuineness.

I truly admire people who don't easily get their feelings hurt but aren't afraid to share when they do feel hurt. People like that know how to make anything a powerful and positive experience simply because they are living it fully. I like fearless people. Nothing touches me like vulnerability unafraid of itself.

I like to play and find life amusing, vibrant, and beautiful. I love to be with people who do too. I enjoy being in places I'm "not supposed to be" and doing things I'm "not supposed to do.". I am daring and outrageous and complex. I'm not always nice, but everything I do comes from a deep love of humanity. Most of the time I just honor what is; sometimes (rarely) I push. And I love that about me. I know the beauty of my own heart--and because of that, I can see the beauty of another's, no matter what it looks like on the outside.

I LOVE to dance and sing and make friends. My favorite thing with a partner is eye gazing. It's right up there with amazing sex. Please be open for deep and moving intimacy. I want what is still unseen in me to be seen by you. And I am no doubt going to see that deeply into you.

For me an action is only as meaningful as the energy behind it. Please be YOU, feel YOU, speak YOU, and know YOU as best as you can, and then your feelings, thoughts and words will be ONE. To do other than that is to lead yourself and others into confusion, walking a path you don't understand or desire.

Let's be real! Let's play together! Let's explore!
What I’m doing with my life
I have a business that I love as a spiritual counselor and teacher.

I have a 14 year old son that I spend part time with. He's is the most delightful, grounded, interesting, emotionally competent, confident, and compassionate person I know. He asked for books on Taoism and Buddhism for his birthday so that he could study and begin practicing. Cool Kid!
I’m really good at
Getting to know people. Understanding what and why a situation is happening (the internal motivations) Letting go of the past; being Present. Finding something fun to do. Relaxing. Sharing my feelings. Creating commonality. Doing something completely unexpected--even for me! Saying exactly what is on my mind and in my heart. Cooking fabulous food (and eating it). Trying new things and doing well the first time--except throwing a frizbee well. I can't do that. Letting people be themselves. Not taking responsibility for other people's feelings. Inspiring people. Randomly laying on the floor with my arms out--it's very important.

I'm probably most known for my exquisite ability to make ordinary moments magical and awe-inspiring. With the enthusiasm and innocence of a child and the courage that a life met with challenges can give you, I can make things come alive. I'm pretty fearless even when I'm scared shitless. Add to that massive amounts of joy, and life gets interesting really fast! :)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm VERY short!

That I am REALLY listening to them. When people are speaking to me, their words and how they say them, what they want me to understand about them and their world is all very important to me. I think people notice that they feel heard and understood right away.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love fiction that is thoughtful and moving and pushes the boundaries. Recent favorites are "Stranger in a Strange Land," "Wicked," "The Girl with the Dragon Tatoo" Trilogy. I like self-help/spiritual/metaphysical/quantum physics books, but I've read so many that they all sound the same now. I love Ernest Holmes, Gangaji, Eckhart Tolle, Nietzsche, and so many more...

I like all kinds of movies (including action, thriller, and horror), but am still a girl, so romantic comedies are always nice. I had a friend who was a horror movie buff and made it his personal mission to find a movie that would really unsettle me. He failed. But he did introduce me to one of the most disturbingly beautiful movies I've ever seen: "Martyrs". It's french subtitled.

I like movies that are REAL or based on real life that make me say something like, "That writer wanted me to know life on its own terms--to FEEL it truly." When I cry in a movie like that, I am not crying for my own pain only but for the truth of life. I love that life can exhibit every dynamic, dip, and turn, and only the truly daring writers are willing to make you look right at it. Examples: "Precious", "The Cove" (Documentary), "Blood Diamond." Most people only watch movies to be entertained. The Soul of a person will watch a movie to be opened.

No cable for about 10 years. A bit of Netflix now and then. I am presently into Orange is the New Black.

As I said, I LOVE food and am always seeking new and fabulous tastes--both in dining out and in cooking. I do not waste putting food in my mouth that I don't love. I am always changing recipes and not writing them down, so every time is like the first time. I Love Sushi, Thai, Indian, Greek, Mexican... and more. However, I spent 3 weeks in France and discovered that I'm not real big on French food.
The six things I could never do without
Profound love and connection with another
The love and wisdom of my son
Amazing, deep, connected, and adventurous sex
Food worth living for
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fun things to do. The nature of the Universe. My motivations and internal awareness. My next creative project. The next place to travel to.
On a typical Friday night I am
I may be out with friends singing, dancing, eating amazing food or finding trouble (crashing a wedding, trying on random outfits at Goodwill, having a deep and rewarding conversation with the stranger next to me, dancing on the bar, taking my shoes off and wading in the freezing river, climbing the cool tree I just walked by.) Hopefully, I'm in bed being ravished by a fabulous lover. Or maybe I'm alone enjoying a great book, a glass of wine, a bath, and some chocolate. Actually, often there is no book--I love silence.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think I've already shrunk a little bit.
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Something about my profile made you feel good about YOU.

You know you have a lot to offer. Your life Rocks!

You love rediscovering yourself.

You are comfortable in your body and adore/crave intimacy on all levels.

You have that great feeling that we would connect--have fun together, create something cool together, inspire each other, and feel beautiful in each others' space.

You have the ability to stay committed to Love even when you get hurt, even when things become challenging. You are willing to see yourself in the situations that are arising and stay out of blaming others or even yourself. You know that the point is to bring love, share love, be love so that even the points of pain become an opening to deeper connection. So you share...even the things that hurt because you know that love lives there too.

"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but will never break", Chinese Proverb.