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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Working on University
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Before any of you read too far into my profile, I'm in a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship with one partner. So that you know about my lifestyle and I'm sure some of you may have some questions. There are many type of polyamorous relationships. It's hard to nail it down on how/what/why. I'm going to make it more clear.

First thing I would like to mention about one and only big rule. Whenever someone start dating someone, they are required to get STD/HIV test for everyone's safety. That means casual sex is out of the picture.

Polyamorous does not mean we are out to fuck everyone or steal everyone's boy/girl friends or whatever stereotypes people would think of. It's not cuckholding, hunting for unicorn, swinging, dom/sub, or hot wife/husband kind of things. It's mostly about love and emotional connection just like any monogamous relationships.

Now some of you may ask how does monogamous and polyamorous can be similar. To answer that question, I'm in a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship which means everyone is equal. There is no primary or secondary aka “oh my primary partner comes first, blah blah blah” which is 100% bullshit. Think of this as having multiple best friends. It's actually not that complicated.

I'm looking for someone to date causally first to see if we clicks and see where we can go from there. If the whole polyamorous thing doesn't scare you, message me!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been trying to go back to school for years but I figured that school isn't for me. I always prefer to work with my hands so I've getting myself into blue collar type of jobs. I'm a painter currently.

Other than that, I also love to do stuff like snowboarding, gardening, kayaking, and minimalist camping. Right now I'm trying to save up for downhill mountain bike (why is it so expensive....)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people/reading body language.
Being a naturally carefree and open-minded person.
In the past, I was so good at cramming homework/projects but I prefer a stress-free lifestyle at this point.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair, maybe? It's long straight black/dark brown hair.
My partner says it's my "boyish good looks" (her words, not mine :P).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shows: Orange is New Black, Dexter, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Spartacus, Scrubs, Buffy, Six Feet Under, Rome, The Wire, and Wilfred.

Books: I rarely read books that aren't for school these days. My favorite books are Of Mice And Men, 1984, New Brave World, and Animal Farm.

Music: I'm deaf, so I will "listen" to music while driving, but only for the vibration. It's pretty awkward when I pull in listening to anything such as sport talk or...I don't know country music on full blast.

Food: I'm a take-out addict. Chinese, Japanese, Mediterranean, Mexican, Thai, and Indian are my favorites. Now I am becoming more frugal and take-outs is my curse. Gah! Although I can cook decently too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm a big day-dreamer, and can spend a while in a naturally meditative state, almost not thinking! Don't make fun of me if you find me sitting around staring at the wall.

I do think about my future career, and the future in general.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My free time is mostly on week days. I go out my kayak, spend time with friends/my significant other, try new restaurants with my SO (we like to try new types of good and also practice signing to each other in restaurants - she is hearing) Netflixing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm insecure about my writing/grammar. I try my best but much of grammar is learned from hearing, I miss out on words. If my writing seems choppy that's why.
You should message me if
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Knowing ASL is a huge plus (I'm deaf - I have a cochlear implant and speak, but it is nice to sign too), you're looking for new friends, if you're poly or interested in polyamory. Open-mindedness is a must.