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25 Rochester, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:47pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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First and foremost, I am in a polyamorus relationship with Octoberly. We are non-hierarchical which means we do not believe in primary and secondary type of relationship. We do have two strict children and always practice safe sex (get tested beforehand/condoms). Polyamorus does not mean we are a swinger, looking for threesome/orgy or down for casual sex with strangers.

I also happened to be deaf and wear cochlear implant. I can hear with cochlear implant and can speak decently.

Please do ask any questions, I'm an open book.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work full time and am going to school for geology. I'm also trying to rack up all of the certifications for skilled trades. My goal is to have geology degree (sweet sweet career) and have skilled trade as backup career. I am in this for a long run.

I got into gardening last year. I never knew I would fucking love it and I cannot wait for this spring. For now, I am getting into snowboarding. It took me forever to get into it because I never had my own set up before. Next year, I am so buying a season pass so I can go every day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people/reading body language.
Being a naturally carefree and open-minded person.
In the past, I was so good at cramming homework/projects but I prefer a stress-free lifestyle at this point. I also used to be good at skateboarding and wouldn't mind getting back into it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair, maybe? It's long straight black/dark brown hair.
My partner says it's my "boyish good looks" (her words, not mine :P).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shows: Orange is New Black, Dexter, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Spartacus, Scrubs, Buffy, Six Feet Under, Rome, The Wire, and Wilfred.

Books: I rarely read books that aren't for school these days. My favorite books are Of Mice And Men, 1984, New Brave World, and Animal Farm.

Music: I'm deaf, so I will "listen" to music while driving, but only for the vibration. My partner laughs at me because she says I will pull in listening to anything such as sport talk or...I don't know country music on full blast.

Food: I'm a take-out addict. Chinese, Japanese, Mediterranean, Mexican, Thai, and Indian are my favorites. Now I am becoming more frugal and take-outs are my curse. Gah! Although I can cook decently too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My laptop
Ethnic food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm a big day-dreamer, and can spend a while in a naturally meditative state, almost not thinking! Don't make fun of me if you find me sitting around staring at the wall.

I do think about my future career, and the future in general.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing homework after I get home from work! Exciting.

My free time is mostly on week days. I go out my kayak, spend time with friends/my significant other, try new restaurants with my SO (we like to try new types of good and also practice signing to each other in restaurants - she is hearing) Netflixing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm insecure about my writing/grammar. I try my best but much of grammar is learned from hearing, I miss out on words. If my writing seems choppy that's why.
You should message me if
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Knowing ASL is a huge plus (I'm deaf - I have a cochlear implant and speak, but it is nice to sign too), you're looking for new friends, if you're poly or interested in polyamory. Open-mindedness is a must.