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46 M Basford, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
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6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), C++ (Okay), Irish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am very much a "what you see is what you get" kind of guy. I don't believe in hiding myself from people who actively try to get to know me. I don't really change for anyone and have been told that I am the same person whether I am talking to a prince or a pauper - to me, it's the person inside that counts.

Because I am a very open person, I tend to leave people to find out what they want about me instead of me telling everyone absolutely everything. That way, I don't overload people with useless information that they will forget in minutes. Just ask whatever you want and I will happily answer, no matter what the subject ... it also means that won't get a very guarded response, you will get total honesty and a lot of it. Make sure that you remember that when talking to me!

I don't often send out messages to new people. So, if I have messaged you (and you are checking out my page as a result), it's because I found you intriguing. I also won't assume that you want anything more than to chat unless you tell me so. Friendship is the most important thing to me. In fact, I generally only date people that I have already decided will make excellent friends - a "girlfriend" is also a friend who is a female and not just a sexual partner.

I am believable, dependable, and honourable. What I don't want is for people to misinterpret the fact that I am being nice and self sacrificing to them as anything more emotionally involved. I am akin to a "Sir Galahad" type of person and will do anything I can to improve the lives of others. What I don't do is get all mushy and sentimental straight away - that won't happen until I have been with someone in person for a while. If you feel that talking to me seems a little intense, it may be because you are misinterpreting the situation.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a multi-instrumentalist musician and a sound engineer. I teach electric guitar and bass guitar, specifically for the rock and metal genres. I am also writing a book on music theory as it applies to the guitar. In addition to recording rock and metal bands, I also write my own material which ranges from Speed Metal through to Classical. I have an two albums with my metal band on sale and a third on the way, plus an album of folk music on sale. Add to that a third project of old school thrash and a fourth of solo guitar and you may get the impression that I am quite prolific.

Job wise, I'm now back in Software Testing, specifically writing automated testing. Effectively, I write code that finds where the developers went wrong … much less hassle than being a developer!
I’m really good at
Music is one of my major talents - I have been playing guitars for over 30 years and teaching the occasional student for about 20. As I mentioned above, I am also writing a book on music theory in the rare free time that I manage to get to myself.

I am also pretty good with computers, which I guess one would expect given my job! I work with all three major operating systems, which is a rarity too ...

Other than that, I'll let you tell me ...
The first things people usually notice about me
I am rather tall and look distinctly like a Viking ... it's hard to say whether anything physical stands out as much as those two. Many people say that I have kind eyes and an infectious grin. I have been told that I have very muscular legs and a nice bum. I shall leave you to decide for yourself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(A) My Favourite Books:

Julian May -- Saga of the Exiles, Galactic Milieu Trilogy, Intervention, Perseus Spur, Orion Arm

Isaac Asimov -- Foundation Trilogy, The Robot Series

Anne McCaffrey - Dragonriders of Pern

Terry Pratchett

JRR Tolkein -- Lord Of The Rings, Silmarillion, The Hobbit

Robert Heinlein -- Stranger in a Strange Land, Time Enough For Love, The Moon Is A Harsh Mistress

William Gibson -- Neuromancer, The Difference Engine

Sheri Tepper -- The True Game, The Enigma Score, Grass

(B) My Favourite Movies: 2001, Alien, Capricorn 1, Event Horizon, Fourth Element, Outland, Star Wars, Terminator 1 & 2, The Matrix, Lord of the Rings, Blade: 1,2 & 3, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Underworld, Dune (mini series)

(C) My Favourite Music: Andromeda, Skyclad, Queensryche, Pain of Salvation, Kamelot, Sanctuary, Megadeth, Flotsam & Jetsam, Annihilator, Iron Maiden, Testament, Overkill, Nevermore, Mordred, Nuclear Assault, Iced Earth, Suicidal Tendencies, Death Angel, Pantera, Deep Purple, Jethro Tull, Styx, Marillion, Rush, Fish, Yes, Greg Howe, The Tea Party, Kate Bush, Joe Satriani, Ozzy Osbourne, Al di Meola

(D) My Favourite Foods: not sure I have any, as it all depends on who is doing the cooking. However, I do like Indian food quite a lot.
The six things I could never do without
(1) Guitar - my current instrument
(2) Bass - my first love (instrument wise) (3) My Studio Computer - without it, I might as well be dead
(4) Cats of all kinds, especially my Abyssinians
(5) All of the music on my computers
(6) My genuine friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Predictably, I think about music a lot. A very large amount indeed.

I am interested in politics, so I guess I consider current events and long term political problems quite a lot. I have reasonably well formed political views on all sorts of things. I would be a politician, except I am an appalling liar (no practice) and so would never get elected LOL
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging around with friends doing something - whether it is being out in a rock club or sat around someone's house playing some tabletop role playing game or other is negotiable.

On a typical Thursday night I am in a recording studio for one of two bands, which you can find on ReverbNation at:

… and …

Go have a listen - you may like it and you may not, but go listen anyway. There are no prizes in life for avoiding new experiences.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you ask me private questions, you will get an honest answer. Whether you want to hear those answers is another matter!

I am polyamorous and am open to offers, but if you can't see yourself getting on with Shadowtrance (here on OKCupid) then you might be wasting your time. She is a truly lovely person who will treat you with kindness and respect. If you feel like chatting to her as well, she will be happy to receive your messages.

I used to do a lot of LARP - for those who know the hobby, I was a Guild Leader in the Lorien Trust System for 6 years ... you might have met me already!! For those that haven't, imagine me dressed up as a viking ... and yes, I still have the costume.

I also play tabletop role playing games, including one that I am writing and play testing with friends on a Friday Night (as it happens). I would be especially interested in people that are fascinated by this part of my life, even if they don't participate in it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You feel the need to talk to someone who will never lie to you, will never think about himself before you and will always treat you with respect.