Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I don't presume to summarize other people and so won't summarize
myself, except to say that I hope I am worth learning about just as
I trust you are.
I am not here for meeting people in meatspace, unless of course we
become friends, in which case my favorite thing is to break bread
with pals and hang out and swap turns playing iPod DJ and talk shit
and learn stuff.
If you are looking for a romantic connection, I wish you the very
best of luck and will gladly serve as a sounding board and friendly
counselor, but I am not in the pool of available folks and am not
even remotely playing about that.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty good at a bunch of things, but I would rather list the
things I am trying to be better at. For starters: authenticity. It
is not that I am bad at it, it is just that I have been a pleaser
for so long--an aspect of my character that has largely served me
well but not always--and so making sure I am not bullshitting
myself or anyone else, tempering my wish to make people comfortable
and happy with a dose of truth, especially when truth has important
consequences, is one of the things I work on. The results have so
far led not only to a great deal of work but also to a surprising
strengthening of my marriage and my friendships.
Acting on empathy ranks pretty high on my list of things I work on.
I find I easily put myself in other people's shoes but don't always
reach for the action or words that I suspect might help or be most
meaningful. Just for example, I have been that guy who fails to
call a dear friend when his father dies. It is not that I don't
feel my friend's pain or don't know what to do, it's that let the
fear of dealing with the anguish of such situations paralyze me. I
have come to recognize that this kind of neglect is far worse than
being oblivious. Among the things I am working on right now, being
there for people is the highest on my list. It has been enormously
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have favorites that change, authors and artists and stuff that I
fetishize for a time and move on, old flames that rekindle on my
playlist, etc., etc. I don't suspect these things offer much
insight into my character or my personality. My REAL favorite is
for other people to show me stuff and for me to do the same in
return. I love sharing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
It would be easy to dismiss or to argue this prompt, but I actually
think this is a useful and instructive question, so I'll play this
one straight, but as a poetic litany, because I am nothing if not
1. Love for my loves.
2. Food for my belly.
3. Water for the river inside me.
4. Air for my fire.
5. Earth for my garden.
6. Roof for my sky.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether I am doing a good job.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't feel the need to "admit" anything, and if it is private it
is not going to be posted here, but I appreciate the spirit of this
prompt, too, and so I will admit that I do things, enjoy things,
imagine things and utter things to the darkness that would
absolutely shock the conscience. Just like you. Seriously, though,
can we please all just stop with the judgment and the taboo and the
secret-worshiping, gossip-whispering drama part of life? I am
looking out my window now at a crescent moon that flies through
nothingness, and though it is 240,000 miles distant, it looks as
though I could drop a ping pong ball into its glowing cradle. Tell
me why admitting our sassy little private musings should be of
greater interest than that? Are we, as Tom Waits sang of the
solitary sailor, just spending the facts of lives like small change
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