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MidlifeCroesus

46 M Schaghticoke, NY

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Last Online
Nov 20, 2012
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Married
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Offspring
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English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I don't presume to summarize other people and so won't summarize myself, except to say that I hope I am worth learning about just as I trust you are.

I am not here for meeting people in meatspace, unless of course we become friends, in which case my favorite thing is to break bread with pals and hang out and swap turns playing iPod DJ and talk shit and learn stuff.

If you are looking for a romantic connection, I wish you the very best of luck and will gladly serve as a sounding board and friendly counselor, but I am not in the pool of available folks and am not even remotely playing about that.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
All the things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty good at a bunch of things, but I would rather list the things I am trying to be better at. For starters: authenticity. It is not that I am bad at it, it is just that I have been a pleaser for so long--an aspect of my character that has largely served me well but not always--and so making sure I am not bullshitting myself or anyone else, tempering my wish to make people comfortable and happy with a dose of truth, especially when truth has important consequences, is one of the things I work on. The results have so far led not only to a great deal of work but also to a surprising strengthening of my marriage and my friendships.

Acting on empathy ranks pretty high on my list of things I work on. I find I easily put myself in other people's shoes but don't always reach for the action or words that I suspect might help or be most meaningful. Just for example, I have been that guy who fails to call a dear friend when his father dies. It is not that I don't feel my friend's pain or don't know what to do, it's that let the fear of dealing with the anguish of such situations paralyze me. I have come to recognize that this kind of neglect is far worse than being oblivious. Among the things I am working on right now, being there for people is the highest on my list. It has been enormously rewarding.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My snappy outfits.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have favorites that change, authors and artists and stuff that I fetishize for a time and move on, old flames that rekindle on my playlist, etc., etc. I don't suspect these things offer much insight into my character or my personality. My REAL favorite is for other people to show me stuff and for me to do the same in return. I love sharing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
It would be easy to dismiss or to argue this prompt, but I actually think this is a useful and instructive question, so I'll play this one straight, but as a poetic litany, because I am nothing if not groovy.

1. Love for my loves.
2. Food for my belly.
3. Water for the river inside me.
4. Air for my fire.
5. Earth for my garden.
6. Roof for my sky.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether I am doing a good job.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Waiting on my baby.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't feel the need to "admit" anything, and if it is private it is not going to be posted here, but I appreciate the spirit of this prompt, too, and so I will admit that I do things, enjoy things, imagine things and utter things to the darkness that would absolutely shock the conscience. Just like you. Seriously, though, can we please all just stop with the judgment and the taboo and the secret-worshiping, gossip-whispering drama part of life? I am looking out my window now at a crescent moon that flies through nothingness, and though it is 240,000 miles distant, it looks as though I could drop a ping pong ball into its glowing cradle. Tell me why admitting our sassy little private musings should be of greater interest than that? Are we, as Tom Waits sang of the solitary sailor, just spending the facts of lives like small change on strangers?
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
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Are you up for chatting, discussing, sharing recommendations, asking a question, sending a rant? Go for it.