My friends say I'm a good person--kind, compassionate, friendly, fair-minded, good sense of humor. I try to understand all facets of an issue or situation, or a person, rather than making snap judgments or just being reactive. I try to be tactful but also to be authentic and honest.
I tend toward the introspective and introverted--but with a fairly prominent extroverted side. I like people and social situations, like going out for dinner, to hear music, see movies, or just hang out with folks I like--and I balance that with a need for solitude. I'm not afraid to be alone, and I enjoy seeing people as well.
I'm the father of two kids, 22 and 19. The oldest, my daughter, has just moved into her own place, and my son is a freshman in college. He and I vacationed together in California, where I grew up and still have family, the last two summers; this year I think it's my daughter's turn!
So I'm essentially an empty nester now, and I'm mostly liking it and adjusting. I am self-employed, working both as a freelance book editor and as a consultant with a local marketing firm, doing a lot of writing and editing, including for a magazine we produce for one of our clients. Mostly I work from home, but also get to travel a bit in my marketing role, which has been fun, as has meeting new people through that work.
I was married nearly 20 years, and after that had a five-year serious relationship and another shorter one (about six months). Since then I'm living my life, enjoying it for the most part, and looking ahead and around the corner to see what's next. I'm a writer, editor, poet, father, son, brother, friend, lover (not at the moment though!), men's group attendee and facilitator, cyclist, hiker, walker, sometime kayaker, art lover, reader, thinker, dreamer, traveler (would like to do more), and student of life, history, the world.
Although I grew up in southern California I left when I was 21; I've lived in the Northeast for most of my adult life. I like it here except for the winters, but I do sometimes think about moving back west, closer to family and warmer climes. It won't happen for a while (if it happens), as I want to stay pretty much where I am while my son is in college in New England and my daughter is nearby.
What am I looking for? Hard to say because it's hard for me to prejudge, even though I think (I hope) I have a better sense of what works for me and what doesn't now that I'm over 50. I know that I tend to be attracted to women who are smart, sharp, fun, funny...but what does that mean? I guess I know "it" when I see it.