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37 M Oakland, CA

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Last Online
Apr 18
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a person of many interests and passions that keeps trying to go after all of them at the same time. In other words i'm a mess and having fun with it, or not. Two of my main pulls are music and various forms of writing. I play classical, acoustic, and electric guitar, the uke, and a little on the keyboard. I play and sing in various styles depending on instrument and whim. Same with writing. I tinker with different forms and styles.

I very recently moved to Oakland. Got a great find, actually, through someone from okcupid, who moved to Italy and left me in a room in a great house that has a piano in the living room and a garden in the back.

I have an academic side to me (enjoyed writing my thesis), interest in spirituality, and in most things artistic, philosophical, political, and humorous. I have a Masters that i'm glad for but not currently using, just paying for the pricey education while working in a completely unrelated field to pay the bills and on the side try to pursue that who-knows-what-that's-calling-me that always feels like it's just around the corner, just a little more on up ahead...

My relationship with the outdoors needs a little work. I definitely like the outdoors, just don't end up much in it. But i'm all for exploring some of the areas around the bay.

Like many around here, I have a strong interest in what could be labeled as progressive, liberal causes. I would simply say that i'm for positive development in all its forms. I have a strong daydreaming interest in the potential of conscious communities and how they can offer ways to explore better models for society than the one we've been handed. Basically, i'm itching for ways for society to move forward. Then again, i realize that it's all work in progress, inside and out.
What I’m doing with my life
Tinkering. Working on my music and writing, settling in to Oakland and continuing to explore San Francisco.
I’m really good at
Tangents, and connecting the tangents back to the initial departure point. Analysis. Empathy. Idiosyncrasies. Distractions. Staring off into the distance in either a dream-like manner or serious thinking mode.
The first things people usually notice about me
Friendly, approachable human.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This would be a long list. Hard for me to do favorites in any category.

Here are a few:

books: Rumi's poetry, Ken Wilber, Jack Kornfield, Black Elk Speaks, Malcolm Gladwell, Tom Robbins. I-Ching and Stephen Mitchell's translation of the Tao te Ching are all time favorites. Joseph Campbell, Jung. I used to read mainly fiction and loved classics like Steinbeck, Hemingway, Dostoevsky, Shakespeare (was into the sonnets). Henry Miller (somewhere in between non-fiction and fiction).


more recent: Man on Wire, Waking Life, Beasts of the Southern Wild, Welcome, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Breaking the Waves, Lost in Translation, Wes Anderson movies, Me You And Everyone We Know, The Constant Gardener, Stark Trek (the sci-fi kid in me), Scott Pilgrim Vs the World, Ken Burns' Jazz epidsodes, Amelie, City of Lost Children, Pina, Microcosmos, Dead Man, The Sea Inside . . .

oldies: Fellini flicks, The Bicycle Thief, the Seventh Seal, The 400 Blows, Breathless, Casablanca, Dr. Strangelove, the Graduate, Cool Hand Luke, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf, King of Hearts, Metropolis, the Woodstock documentary . . .

music: ok, here we go:

a: Al Green, Alabama Shakes, Amelie soundtrack, Aloe Blacc, the Animals, Arcade Fire, Aretha Franklin, Alemayehu Eshete, Ani DiFranco
b: the Black Keys, the Black Lips, the Black Angels, Bob Marley, Bob Dylan, the Beatles, Billie Holiday, The Bright Light Social Hour, the Budos Band, Buke and Gass, Bardo Pond, Beck, Beethoven, Beirut, Belle & Sebastian, Bessie Smith, Blondie, Bongwater, Broken Social Scene, Built to Spill
c: Cat power, Charles Bradley, Charlie Parker, Chavela Vargas, Curtis Mayfield, CCR, Cream, Crystal Stilts, Caetano Veloso, Cesaria Evora, Caribou, Charles Mingus, the Cranberries, Chopin
d: the Doors, Django Django, David Bowie, Dr. Dog, the Duke Spirit, Deerhunter
e: Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros, El Michels Affair, Explosions in the Sky, Earlimart
f: Federico Aubele, Feist, the Features, Firewater, Fleet Foxes, Flight of the Conchords, Funkadelic, Fiona Apple, Frank Sinatra
g: Galaxie 500, Gogol Bordello, Grizzly bear
h: Howlin' Wolf, Hank Dogs, Hauschka
i: Iggy & the Stooges, Iron & Wine
j: James Brown, Jimi Hendrix, John Lennon, Janis Joplin, John Lee Hooker
k: King Tuff, the Kinks, Kool & the Gang, Kris Kristofferson, Kronos Quartet
l: Led Zeppelin, Lee Field & the Expressions, Lou Reed, Louis Armstrong
m: Mulatu Astatke, Modern Lovers, Morning Teleportation, Muddy Waters, Mos Def, My Morning Jacket, Miles Davis, Manu Chao, Mazzy Star, the Meters
n: the National, Nina Simone, Neil Young, Nirvana, Neutral Milk Hotel, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan
o: Orgone, Otis Redding, Of Montreal, Olof Arnalds, Orchestra Baobab, Os Mutantes
p: P.J. Harvey, Parquet Courts, Portishead, Pinback, Pink Floyd, Pixies, Plants & Animals
q: Queen
r: Radio Citizen, Ray Charles, Rodriguez, Rogue Wave, Rupa & the April Fishes, Ravi Shankar, Ray Conniff
s: Sallie Ford & the Sound Outside, Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings, Sharon Van Etten, Siah & Yeshua, Simon & Garfunkel, Social Studies, Son House, Sonny & the Sunsets, the Stokes, Superhumanoids, Satwa
t: Talking Heads, Tapes 'n Tapes, Thee Oh Sees, Tim Maia, Tokyo Police Club, the Tallest Man on Earth, Thao, Thievery Corporation, Tom Waits
u: U2 (achtung on back)
v: The Vaccines, the Velvet Underground, the Ventures, Violent Femmes
w: the Walkmen, Warpaint, the White Stripes, Wilco
x: no X! (i've been told to check out XX)
y: Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Yellow Ostrich
z: Zero 7

podcasts: Democracy Now!, WTF with Marc Maron, This American Life, Snap Judgment, All Songs Considered, the TED radio hour and Ted talks, the C-Realm podcast.

food: all sorts, but i lean on the vegetarian side. Love spicy.
The six things I could never do without
Meaningful connection, music, spirituality, humor/good times, exploration/learning, reading
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music, the quirkiness of humans, artistic/philosophic/spiritual ideas, what i'm doing with my life, the political landscape, the future, goofy things, what could i be doing that i'm not doing, places i should check out...
On a typical Friday night I am
Well, now, working. But otherwise i would be wanting to go out to a bar with friends, check out a new place to eat, go to a show or a movie, or just practice music at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hmm, i'll have to think about this one. For now i'll leave it at admitting that i have a soft spot for Ray Conniff.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're interested in simply getting together to meet in a casual and friendly way.