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38 M Santa Fe, NM

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:47pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a poly dad who comes from a very diverse family, and I love meeting and talking to people with different backgrounds and ideas.

I'm embracing change. The life I have known since I was a child has in many ways ceased to be over the last year. I'm in a new place, living with new people, making a new life.

I'm very interested in meeting amazing people with whom to do mundane things: go grocery shopping, go for a hike or bike riding or playing tennis, watch a movie, cook dinner, talk about life.
What I’m doing with my life
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Growing and changing, living and learning, teaching and striving.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being silly, listening, accepting people with different ideas.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Hmm... they don't usually tell me.

EmeraldFishy says she first noticed how easily I am made to blush.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - sci fi, fantasy: Heinlein, Asimov, Ender's Game (why Card gotta be a phobe?)
Movies - anything fun, exciting, or interesting; a couple favorites: I Heart Huckabee's, Eternal Sunshine, Fight Club, 12 Monkeys, Princess Bride (me and everyone else!), classics from my youth: the Last Starfighter, Flight of the Navigator
Music - I grew up playing symphonic percussion and can appreciate music, but I spend more time listening to podcasts than anything else: news, Dan Savage; NPR news quizzes, Lexicon Valley, etc.
Food - I love experiencing different flavors, textures, etc. Wonderful flavors are awesome, but I also find it almost as awesome to have "unique" food experiences as "pleasant" food experiences. Best dining experience I've had? Tapas in Washington D.C. - 3 hours of the most amazing. food. ever.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good family.
Good friends.
Good conversation.
Good food.
Good fun.
Good sleep.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How people work, how they relate to each other, talk to each other, how to spend more time doing things that are meaningful to me while still getting the mortgage paid.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying good conversation with someone I love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I love animals, but I don't like being responsible for them. Um, plants too.
You should message me if
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you like talking about things, have opinions but don't take them too seriously, like to hear from people with different opinions than your own, enjoy life, have an insatiable curiosity, and enjoy good food.

you want a partner for physical activity. High on my list:
- horse-back riding (very little experience with this, but very interested; want to be my mentor?)
- bike-riding (I really want to get up on the trails)
- racket sports

Or if you want to - what the heck, right?