With that in mind I might as well get this out from the beginning. I am absolutely certain I am looking for a long term relationship with that special someone. However, I have dabbled in "The Lifestyle" both with a partner and as a single male and I am definitely a proponent of such a relationship. I realize that I am eliminating 99.9% of the women that read this but I want to be honest from the start. Actually I may not be eliminating as many as I think I am; I am discovering that there are a lot of people out there leading "second lives".
To sum it up simply I am seeking my life partner and my lifestyle partner.
...and having said all that, this does not necessarily mean "playing with others". It might but I have found the sexually charged atmosphere of the LS is more important to me than multiple partners. All couples in the LS have different parameters and depending on the partner they can land at different levels. I have a vision of how such a relationship should evolve and it is a slow and steady one that of course requires we are quite secure with each other.